ocsock I am still reading just. But I think I might just give up on this thread. I feel battered and bruised, bit like my car. Though there was good news at 1200, as repair company confirmed insurance will pay to repair.
But I really feel like I never should have posted on here, I read it was meant to be supportive place for parents to listen and support others. But according empress and others it's only for southern east private school users. So I suppose I shouud butt out now. I wondered if I had put parent of 2DC desperately trying to find private/boarding school to avoid shit schools money no object how many different replies I would of got. Probably hundreds. But hey ho. My boys don't count because we don't have money. I would never not have 2 DS, so fucked. Both are at schools with children like your nephews, or where in DS1 case, but thats alright because he only a kid from Holderness.
Before I go to bed to join Dwife , who will work 0700-1900 tomorrow in pnc dept in local police force. Job she has done for 28 years. Can I tell you about DS1 and why its important for all kids to have a decent education not just private educated ones please. It may be the last time I ever post on mumsnet and I like you all to know about 1 DC who will never have our's, happy's empress or iseenodust's childs chance.
DS1 was virtually non verbal until he was 5. It was planned he would use a specialist speech unit for 3 days a week and mainstream primary for 2 days. Luckily for us by 7 he was signed off. He was a good boy and only ever in trouble once, then not really his fault. His 3 closest friends at that point all left our village for the prep which leads to hymers and all but one cut him off straight away. Other only kept in touch as rhey both played football and the rugby league together and looking back we where usefully for lifts. At primary school, with no pe staff and no male teachers, he lead the school cricket team in years 5 and 6 to holderness champions and to regonial asda finals. He also in year 6 took his schools high5 (netball) team to Humberside finals. He was player of year for netball. Still the only boy to win it. At secondary he was predicted d grades with the odd c, though his reading was 6 years in advance. He can still read 300 word books in a night. He has played cricket, always losing to hymers in quarter finals. Finally how Hymers.and Collegiate never play each other till the final. Both private schools, Hymers host Yorkshire CC matches, our school relies on parents to buy the whites and has 3 sets of pads, 4 2nd helmets and.4 bats for the team. Guess where Yorkshire CC used to and still puts development money into. Its not us by the way. His school friends and he for 2 years set up an American Football for the team. Playing a team from Wales, London and Leeds uni. But that crashed when school budget cuts lost 2 pe taechers and no would take them on. But he is a national schoolboy rugby champion and went back and defended their title, first only team ever to do this losing to siruis academy Hull. He got man of match for his team. He lead a left and the right side defence from centre against scholarship players, he isn't one, and his wing never conceded a point all game. He has played for 2 league teams and sacrified his own scholarship future by playing in all but one position on the pitch, even though he was the league's best fullback. Whilst we watched fellow players from Hymers refused to move position due to it fucking up their futures. Now plays union, plays second row/ flanker even though he a full back, beacause he their best tackler and rucker. People at Beverley believe he continues to develop as he has in last 3 years he will be devastatly good in his early twenties.
Back at school in year 10 he did a weeks work placement in the engineering department at Crown paints. He learnt to weld in less than a hour. They said at end of week, he was a credit to him, his parents and school. Plus if he ever applied for a job they would look favourably in him. Unluckily they have a job freeze ever since. GCSE lead to 3 B's 4 C's and a D and a E. But this is a schools which progress 8 scores suggest most kids go backwards. He went form d/c to c/b. But dreams if chemical engineering went out of window. He was offered an apprenceship, which could lead to a hnc/hnd they do exist empress. But it was too far to travel. Beat 30 others to job offer though. So he went down A levels, he lost chemistry due to school and child cock up. CAHMS assisted him all this summer and we think we are slowly winning again. So in track for a possibly B in history, against a C and 2 c/d in geograhy/ world development. He is doing an AS in crimnology and working at A against a c.
He volunteers for Humberside volunteer cadets and in their first ever year has done amazing well. 50% of his group have dropped out as they have got what was promised them. They are all DC of police employees. He has help train new recruits, improve stop and search techniques, how to interview vulerable children/ yound adults, firearms officer training and twice invovled in riot training. He is promottional videos and leafets. He help take 2 18 year in care DC away to lake district as an award for winning a challenge(them not DS1) ge went with 3 serving and ex police officers who where doing for the 10th time. He came back to tales of a bloody nightmare, 2 Kids Hated each other and there had been fights and numerous difficulties, which even the police officers wished thay had been there. But Ds1 youngest in trip dealt with it all. We have 3 brilliant thank you emails and he was mentioned to both the assistant and chief constable of Humberside. On top of this he was only one of 12 to correctly solve a murder inquiry evening they and has been to loads of community outreach sessions to contect with troubled youths, elderly, force open days, local blues and 2 day. Plus sessions with local muslins, sikhs and buddahs. He was also nominated for cadet of the year. He as already agree to spent 12 hours on 24 March 2018 helping out 150 disadvantaged kids do the Humberside Police night challenge.
So Ds1 isnt some feral no hoper, who deserves to live his life with the oc nephews of the world he and we bloody care. He wants to be a police officer, because he wants to have a chance to help people change too. But since looking at crimnology degrees I wouldn't be surprised if he tries to do youth offending or prison service, so he can try and help people. One of his best friends at primary , and now on facebook, is a foster care girl. Her mumis an alchololic , recovering thankfully and her dad a domestic violence offender. She went back to mum in year 8. They reconnected once Ds1 got facebook. She came to watch a couple of his rugby matches. There 5 lads all playing against Ds1 and I with Ds, who go to Hymers, local private., who basically abused the girl because she had spent last 48 hours looking after her mum. Ds was asked if he often hung out with prostitue's daughters. Only time I have seen Ds react to gobby kids, he turned round told them all girl was better then any off them and he rather spent a life time with her then a hour with them. He as taken stick over it for last 4 years, but he still has her as a facebook friend but the hymers lot don't appear on his friends list.
So one day you or our DC may need someone like my son to become that caring police officer or the person who uses his crimnology degree to work with vunerable kids to stop the next Rotherham or Manchester bombing. But if doesn't get his chance because the people like you and your DC keeping voting in private school users in too government who couldn't give a shit over kids like Ds1 then he won't be there to help/prevent. Then you might lose someone/thing precious to you and it will be too late. Because in less than 6 months Ds1 sits life changing A levels against kids who like iseenodust Ds1 have a twice as much spent on them and have twice as much chance off forfilling their dreams than by equally lovely Dc and that true breaks my heart. Britain isn't equal it a place where you buy a better life and people don't give a shit about others less than.them. As mumsnet proves.