Not happy - contraception posters in school toilets and gen noticeboards

[portico]

Not happy when DS communicated to me that so called contraception posters have been placed in school toilets, as part of a supposed school campaign to prevent pregnancies, stds, etc. it is wrong. Does not acknowledging underage sex show crass stupidity in recognising that it exists. Why not have posters to communicate the right reasons for abstinence. Better still, why not remove the posters. Very, very pissed off parents.

Wait until you hear that the kids are getting condoms from the school nurse, your head will explode!

What time are you dealing with noelle OP and I can pop back then ?

My Dd is in year 7. I would not, and do not have any problem with posters about contraception being in her eyeline. She will not discuss these things with us, her parents, she won't even discuss puberty with us! So if the school have an open approach and give her the knowledge to arm herself when the time comes then at least she will know where to go. I was one of those fourteen year olds having sex. I had more than one trip to the family planning clinic because I thought I was pregnant. I never was, but if that can be avoided for my children then I'm all for it.

Dd isn't interested. We have tried and failed to explain things to her but sometimes your parents aren't the best people to talk to.

Yabvu.

Did you know the school nurse will also do a pregnancy test for you and not tell your parents OP?

You are being silly, anything that brings attention to contraception for teenagers who won't wait until they're 16 is a bloody good idea, as is teaching them different methods of contraception as not everyone is happy with condoms.

I also think the posters are a good idea. Forewarned is forearmed, after all. They may not be sexually active yet but the knowledge will be there.

And the posters in themselves will not make teenagers rush out and have sex. It is, after all, only one part of a package of things the school will be doing to try to encourage teenagers to take care. And also one part of a way to meet the needs of all the different students in the school.

I think. It's a fab idea. ten kids are going to have sex whether there's a poster or not. anything that tells them. To be safe and offers contact numbers etc so they can access contraception and information is a good thing.

plus the posters will hopefully reach those who's parents opted out the sex ed classes for their child.

I'll bet my bottom dollar that your kids will probably not trust and confide in you as much because this is your attitude.

But then again, you do seem to give the impression that you think ignorance is bliss, so perhaps you would rather not know what they get up to anyway.

Badvocinapeartree, I totally agree, re your comments about 'supposed sex education'. School isn't meant to just get you into university, it's also meant to contribute to you functioning as an adult in society.

Teenagers and younger do talk about sex with their friends, whether you like it or not OP. Wouldn't you rather there was factual information made available so that your children can make informed decisions, as opposed to being potentially fed myths and fallacies about sex and relationships?

Ps is Noelle ok? I am slightly worried for her welfare!

This thread has made me wonder whether these posters (are they actual adverts, or information posters?) are in DC' school. And if not to suggest they put them there straight away.

Contraception needs to be embedded in the brain of a teenager long before they start actually having sex or thinking of having sex. Just as the message about drink driving needs to be instilled from a pre-driving age.

OP: YABVVVVVU.

TBH seeing that Badvoc agrees with the trend actually reassures me even more as she and I have opposite moral compasses on some things

OP
how old is your son ....
how old are you

My generation didn't have 24 hour free porn on tap.

I would far rather my son come to me (and he does) with questions than talk to his peers and be exposed to potentially damaging and misogynistic information.
My son is 11.
He knows about puberty, sex, contraception, periods etc
Because it is our duty as parents to inform our children and give them the knowledge to act responsibly.

My year 11 daughter is having sex with her boyfriend of 1 year. I don't condone it, I don't encourage it. However, she is fully clued up on contraception, right down to her boyfriend getting tested before they had sex. He's 2 years older. What I am please with is that she was fully educated on relationships and sex and knew that it would only happen if she was 100% comfortable with it, which she was, and her first time was a good experience with a lad who loves her. Keeping information hidden is not the way to go.

I am going to create some posters which say "DO NOT HAVE SEX" and sell them to the OP to put up in her DS's school. That'll sort it.

Madlizzy I think it's cool that your daughter can tell you these things. You should be proud.

At our grammar school there are educational facts inside toilet doors! ie academic facts!

Pulling up chair to see punishment dished out

Wise that sounds appallingly brilliant. Much better than watching my chemistry teacher put a condom on a banana

limps in wounded

(((hugs)))

Yay!!

Was it pistols at dawn?? You probably need a medicinal

To recognise that those underage do it, is not right.

At the risk of being controversial, they're only 'underage' because of the age of consent. In other times, or in other countries, they would not necessarily be underage.

That aside, if they're going to have sex they will. Many of my schoolmates were sexually active at 14 or 15, the majority so at 16. Some had parents that knew, some did not. Some left school to have babies. We did have sex education back in the last century but it was rather scant, and I don't remember much talk of contraception or of STD's.

Sex was not a topic discussed in our household, and we certainly didn't know the proper words for things until we got to secondary school, so it was all highly embarrassing.

At present my DD is very young and has not asked many questions about things, but I will make sure she is informed to enable her to make appropriate choices for her as she goes along. Madlizzy, I hope that when the time comes, I'll be using your approach.

Hello all

I could not resist doing a valedictory posting on this 100th post. I have just come back from the nineteenth century, then had a lovely sojourn in the 1950s. Now, I am back to modernity, which I love. What can I say.

Following the prevailing morays does not mean that they are right. I do not seek your approbation. Good luck to you all.

Is it me or has Portico spectacularly missed the point of the points made on this thread??