Not happy - contraception posters in school toilets and gen noticeboards

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Not happy when DS communicated to me that so called contraception posters have been placed in school toilets, as part of a supposed school campaign to prevent pregnancies, stds, etc. it is wrong. Does not acknowledging underage sex show crass stupidity in recognising that it exists. Why not have posters to communicate the right reasons for abstinence. Better still, why not remove the posters. Very, very pissed off parents.

Hesterton is talking sense.

Knowledge is power.

High school is exactly the right age for children to get this information

What's your issue?

Teenage sex happens

I would rather my DC wait but I also hope that if they don't, they are sensible enough to use contraception

By refuse to acknowledge it happening, you are putting up barriers for your children and they won't be able to talk to you about important stuff

I'll wait outside. looks meek

Teenagers are having sex. They need proper advice not a player telling them not to do it
Ate you really that naive op?
Education is the key to preventing unwanted pregnancies not ignorance
I am sad that there are people like you who hold such dangerous views

Um... knowing about contraception does not encourage earlier sexual experimentation, it simply means that when young people DO have sex, they know how to be safe.

*poster

Head in the sand approach = more pregnant teenagers with STDs.

Sticking your fingers in your ears and singing loudly won't make underage sex go away.

Noelle
You would hate DS1's school. They did sex ed in year 7 where they all pretended to have multiple partners and had beakers of clear fluid where they exchanged fluids! The more purple the beaker at the end, the more STIs the student had! DS was very proud up have the darkest purple beaker! When he told me about it at home, we had a chat about condoms. I must be a crap mother as I'm obviously encouraging under age sex in my 12 yo.

Too many ! But, really!!!

TBH contraception is the least sexy subject ever. As Jilly Cooper deathlessly wrote, why are all English set texts so erotic? They will reel out of the classroom studying Wuthering Heights and crash back to reality staring at a poster about preventing chlamydia.

As you are such a concerned parent your DS will already know abstinence is best and will do this and then use condoms when it is appropriate to stop them being at risk of an STD because you'll have discussed the importance of this too I'm presuming? If not then the school have done you a favour too.

Not all children have parents that will discuss this. They do all have hormones and curiosity and peer pressure. Providing information to them is vital and I would rather my son read that, at any age, than was ignorant,( although it will be discussed here because it's my responsibility to help them make good choices)

Underage sex happens. Pretty much every day, and with minimal exceptions there are at least a couple of sexually active people in pretty much every year group of pretty much every secondary school in the country.

Do you seriously want that sexual activity, which is going to happen anyway, to happen WITH or WITHOUT one of the participating youngsters knowing how to prevent a resulting pregnancy.

Aren't you lucky to have a positive enough relationship with your DS that he mentioned the posters to you. An ideal opportunity for you to have an open discussion with him about the emotional and physical health benefits of waiting till adulthood, and to talk about how there's never any shame in being a virgin, and most of his classmates bragging about their sexual experience are probably lying anyway.

Because parents need to get involved with education on sexual health. It's stupid to just leave it to the school.

Except you wasted the opportunity didn't you. By getting cross with the school instead.
[facepalm]

The posters are fine. Children are at school to be educated. This is education.

Wow.
Yabvvvvvu.
Kids have sex.
Some have sex underage.
Better that they protect themselves and others, surely?
Because your only alternative seems to be the "stick the fingers in the ears and shout lalalalalala very loud"
Not very effective....

This thread made me laugh.

We were taught abstinence as we went to a Catholic school but there were several teenage pregnancies. 3 in my year who went on to have their babies and keep them.

Even a couple of 16 year olds who lost their virginity to each other and only did it that one time had a baby.

So yes, bring on the contraceptive advice. I would have hated to have had a baby with the dickhead I dated when I was 16.

It really is not a coincidence that Scandinavian countries have the lowest rates of teen gp and stds in the world.
Because they educate their kids early on.
They aren't ashamed of sex, they know kids will experiment and they are given the knowledge to do so safely.

Words fail me. This is just plain daft.

Refusing to acknowledge that your child and children around them are interested in and possibly having sex doesn't mean they will stop.
Stop being such an ostrich!

You are objecting to the school proving information? As in educating? Really?

You sound like the poster earlier this week who got her knickers in a twist about LGBT posters in a secondary school

Hang on...are you a creationist too?
Evolution...it's just sooo.....icky isn't it? :)
Seriously, you are being ridiculous.
It's called "sex education" for a reason.
I'm glad your child is being taught in school, because you obv have ishoos...
Your op is actually quite worrying on a second read...
"Supposed school campaign"
Why use that language?
"Supposed"?
Do you think it's all a conspiracy?
Schools teach sex ed.
Your child goes to school.
Ergo, he will be taught sex ed.
I am really struggling to understand your problem here....

Does not acknowledging underage sex show crass stupidity in recognising that it exists.

Firstly! a good number of children in the school are not underage and secondly, your sentence really doesn't make sense.

Why not have posters to communicate the right reasons for abstinence.

Because the powers that be are realistic about teenagers.

Better still, why not remove the posters.

Because the powers that be, apparently rightly, think that the parents are too stupid to ensure their children know how to access contraception.

Very, very pissed off parents

Not as pissed off as off your teenager is about to become a parent themselves.

As someone else said, stop being an ostrich.

It sounds like a good idea to me, I can't understand why you're pissed off.

Oh dear. Parents like you are the ones that make my job so much harder
Do you offer 'advice' and get 'very' pissed off with your GP too?!