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'State schools are creating amoral children'

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BurgenSnurgen · 15/05/2014 10:16

...because state schools are under so much pressure to improve results that there's no time to teach them right from wrong.

So says Chairman of the Independent Schools Association

Bit speechless really. It's giving me the absolute RAGE.

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Slipshodsibyl · 20/05/2014 13:29

Research has not shown that.

summerends · 20/05/2014 13:37

Mart trying to subvert my comments into that extreme view does n't make some of your posts more valid. I just think that people should be in a position from sufficient education and money to make their own choices, not have some do-gooder insist that Oxbridge or higher education is the only way.
Whatever your good intentions you are entrenched in a view that access to Oxbridge is what everybody wants if they sufficiently educated. That is just not true.

Martorana · 20/05/2014 13:39

"Whatever your good intentions you are entrenched in a view that access to Oxbridge is what everybody wants if they sufficiently educated. That is just not true."

I don't think that for a second. And have never said anything of the sort!

HercShipwright · 20/05/2014 13:42

I am always amazed when people suggest that young people capable of doing a good degree should do AAT exams.

AmberTheCat · 20/05/2014 13:43

I don't really understand your question, kinsorange? Are you asking if Mart (or anyone else) would apply for a private school place and then turn it down 'for the sake of society', then I can't imagine why anyone would do that, no. But if you're asking if anyone whose children would be likely to be offered a private school place, and who could afford to send them there, would choose not to, then, erm, yes, thousands of people.

happygardening · 20/05/2014 13:51

Kins at our local "high achieving academy" although non selectve potential Oxbridge/medical school/vet school/dentist etc are identified at the beginning of yr 12 they are in a separate class and coached for interviews etc and exposed to all sorts of things, think History a boys every yr 8-9% go to Oxbridge and anther 6-7% to medicine etc.

kinsorange · 20/05/2014 14:08

What about Oxbridge. Because surely, that should be turned down even more, seeing how much that place is so bad for society as a whole.

I am sort of referring to Martorana's doing things for society comments. Perhpas she didnt mean exactly what I thought that she meant.

Martorana · 20/05/2014 14:35

"I am always amazed when people suggest that young people capable of doing a good degree should do AAT exams."

Because that's what they are more comfortable with, Herc. It's not a good idea to give that sort of people aspirations- it'll just mean they won't fit in anywhere. The toffs won't accept them because they won't have the appropriate cultural capital, and they will have grown away from their own kind. I think that's the argument, anyway. It's like being in an episode of Downton Abbey..........

rabbitstew · 20/05/2014 15:02

Blimey, why all this ire against AAT?? If you want to be an accountant, why is an Oxford history degree better preparation? Even if you want, ultimately, to run your own business, or become a chief executive, why is an Oxford history degree better preparation than an AAT course, paid work while doing the course, further qualifications while working, and impressing people in the businesses in which you work? I can see a university degree is genuinely a good thing if you want to be an academic or researcher, but honestly, isn't the rest of it about snobbery, mixing with the movers and shakers and all the other things you're all complaining about that need changing???!!

TheWordFactory · 20/05/2014 15:11

Well I am in that exact situation martorana and it's not easy. Moving classes leaves you untethered. I wouldn't blame some people for not wanting to make that leap.

Martorana · 20/05/2014 15:22

My ire is not against AAT or any other sort of exam or qualification. My ire is against people who think that one sort is more suitable for people from disadvantaged backgrounds because it's not good for them to aim too high.

Word, I know. I absolutely see why some people wouldn't want to try. I am talking about the people who do want to try. And the people who don't even know that trying's an option. It's about choices. Having them and knowing you have them. The more privileged you are the more choices you have.

Slipshodsibyl · 20/05/2014 15:49

I am suggesting someone might make that decision and it might be a rational one given their circumstances. I and my siblings are the first and only family members of our generation to attend higher ed.

I sat in my top set maths groups aged 16 while my teacher told us we were wasting our time with A Levels. We should do as his daughter was doing - go into the bank at 16 and earn a decent salary and a promotion by the age of 22 when peers would just be entering the job market. This wasn't an area or an era which would have dreamed of city salaries. This was especially suitable for girls who would then have families. My parents disagreed but many did not.

My closest friend did just that. She had a subsidised mortgage on a three bedroomed house while I was trying to fund a mortgage on a one bedroomed flat with a husbandShe has had a successful life and has a child with his own trade/business and one at medical school but I never get any sense that she feels she took the wrong path.

My educational and material situation is far, far removed from this now - unimaginably so, but such a leap is not without challenges. Some people are better cut out to make it than others but I do not dismiss alternative choices made by some of my friends from home.

Martorana · 20/05/2014 16:05

"Some people are better cut out to make it than others but I do not dismiss alternative choices made by some of my friends from home"

Good. Neither does anyone else. I note your use of the word "choice". It is crucial in this context.

Slipshodsibyl · 20/05/2014 16:12

I find the constant insistence that the working classes have no idea about how to make a decision about the choices in front of them really annoying.

rabbitstew · 20/05/2014 16:20

I think children from all classes can have their choices limited by the expectations of their families. Only the strong break the mould of expectation.

happygardening · 20/05/2014 16:22

I'm not working class but I find it very annoying and patronising. Also the implication they lack table manners, obviously made by someone who's never eaten with the upper classes, the correct prounouciation, and have never set foot in a building of architectural significance and stood in awe.

Martorana · 20/05/2014 16:24

I have not used the word "working class". I have used the word "disadvantaged"

And frankly, if you think that the average child A at St Custard's doesn't have more support, more awareness of the options available and and a significantly easier ride to university if that's what they want to do than Child B at Bash Street Comprehensive then you are living in Cloud cuckoo land.

Slipshodsibyl · 20/05/2014 16:29

Actually one thing that has been a constant surprise in my life is he discovery that the middle classes are not as knowledgeable or as capable as they believe themselves to be. And that includes knowledge about education and how to get into university.

Martorana · 20/05/2014 16:34

Oh,I give up.

Yes, the playing field is completely level. There are no barriers at all to children from disadvantaged backgrounds accessing any further or higher education they want. Everybody is just born with the knowledge and confidence and awareness they need to do whatever they want in life. And anyone who thinks differently, or thinks that the gap needs to be narrowed or the playing field levelled a bit is patronising. And the overwhelming numbers of kids from private and selective schools at the elite Universities just proves that privileged children are inherently brighter than disadvantaged ones.

Slipshodsibyl · 20/05/2014 16:37

Do you read what people write or do you practice your argument in your head and just write it down?

Martorana · 20/05/2014 16:46

Yes, I do read what people write. Do you?

happygardening · 20/05/2014 16:46

Come on Slip haven't you worked it out yet it obvious. Of course Mart just practices the arguments in her own head and just writes it down. She tars us all with the same brush, if she can't answer a question or doesn't like what we say because it's blatantly and obviously true she says she ignores it or says she doesn't wish to insult our intelligence or something similar and never answers a question she knows she can't answer.

happygardening · 20/05/2014 16:49

No one on here has said it's a level playing field.
But what you won't answer is how do we make it a level playing field and how does sending your DC to a state school make it a level playing field?

Martorana · 20/05/2014 17:15

One of the ways we can help level the playing field with the world as it is now is to provide support and encouragement and mentoring to kids that don't get it from home. And by pushing hard for schools to do the same. And for aspirational further and higher education providers to think about way to broaden their intake. Oxford seems to be doing a lot in this area- I wold like to see far more of this. The only people who come to my ds's school are the Army. Significantly, they do not go to the school where the middle class kids go!

Obviously an individual taking their child out of private school is not going to change anything. I don't think I ever said it would. But, idealistically, the sort of people who would normally choose private education choosing not to would be great. And as that is obviously too big an ask for most, at least not scaremongering and bad mouthing state education would be pretty good too.

I am happy to talk about this for ever, but I suspect that people are just going to take the piss, so I won't spend any more time until I can be sure that people are actually interested.

happygardening · 20/05/2014 17:27

I believe the Army comes to my DS's school! Smile

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