Hello all, new to this thread but have been keeping myself sane by reading various school threads and realising that I'm not the only one worrying!
@Incandescent, understand your concerns, I have also been through the grammar system and DS has passed 1 out of 3, the 1 not being Sutton but one of the others, we also do not know his mark. My take on this is that at this stage there is nothing that either I or my son could have done any differently and the scores are in! Even knowing his mark would not tell us if he had a place against the 600/700 others that may have passed. DS has sat for the Indie sector and on the back of that we/he interviewd at 3 schools, we have fallen in love with one in particular and if he is accepted we will move heaven and earth to get him there even if he gets an offer at a grammar school as we really believe it to be the right place for him. I can't believe that I'm even saying that I would turn down a grammar school place!! We will be eating beans on toast and I'll have to take on some more work but.....
I have concerns about the grammar school system, I'm aware that a particular child who has passed all 3 has been heavily tutored and in every single assessment/test at school has been topped by more than 1 child, my DS included and I'm sure that will out at some stage, it's not sour grapes I truly believe in doing what you feel to be right for your child. We have 3, DS1 in a not particulary academic Independent but thriving, small classes no pressure and great pastoral care. DD in a selective all girls, catchment area included and DS2 needs to be challenged and stretched academically, seems very bright and LOVED the 1 particular school that we want for him too.
Anyway, I digress, sorry :) I would love to see the system changed, perhaps Junior schools asked to select their top 25%/by results not just because they like them!!! Who have year on year been strong throughout their school life and they are put forward, this would probably be deemed to be unfair but maybe a better representation? What I do know is that at the end of the day it does come down to an ability to pass exams and deal with the pressure of it all, your DS is probably just as able and will be fine because you are bothered about what happens to him. As my DH keeps saying to me "It's a numbers game" Lots of competition, more applicants than places... says it all really. I wish you all the very best and hope that your DS is succesful at Sutton.