This is obviously an emotive subject for you, I completely understand where you coming from and am aware of how this can make you feel.
Justice however cannot run on revenge/emotions and as a society we have to make balanced decisions.
The 14 year old who was raped was scandalous, this was clearly a poor decision and has damaged not only justice but the perception of justice in the country.
Lessons seem to have been learned by the judiciary as a result of this case.
As for your nephew there are a few factors at play here, yes there should be consequences for the assailant but there should also be a focus on helping them stop this behaviour and giving them the opportunity to choose another path.
I would not support removing a 14 year old from society because of this, the effects would encourage the child, and he is a child, to descend further into a life of crime due to the removal of positive social influences, support and opportunities.
There is a reason that we don’t allow victims to set punishments, vengeance and revenge follow, scales are justice symbols for a reason.
As for your nephew, he’s clearly been through a traumatic experience and is struggling to cope.
As a family you need to make a decision to help him overcome this or enable him to damage himself through staying in victimhood forever.
He needs to do something to regain his confidence and help him get back into the world.
Starting to build strength through going to the gym would be great, martial arts like boxing/judo would give him the physical confidence to know that he is capable of defending himself should this happen again as well as gaining the self-respect (and respect of others) of knowing he was able to overcome this.
Yes, in an ideal world boys wouldn’t need to do this but the reality is there will always be some level of physical confrontation amongst teenage boys.
I grew up in what now known as a severely deprived area, there were serious fights at school all the time not to mention gangs and what we would call recreational violence.
My children grew up in Clarkston, a very different place, but don’t think for a second there wasn’t school bullying, fights in the playground, fights with other schools in shops etc..
Having spent years standing at the sidelines of football/rugby games I’ve seen how easily punches are thrown, even amongst boys from the supposed ‘better’ areas.
You have an opportunity to help your nephew become resilient enough to thrive in the world he lives in, this will affect his success in life, future chances and happiness etc..
Although it sounds harsh enabling him to live like this is a failure of parenthood.