But there has always been violence and bullying in schools, even when exclusion was an option.
Some of the things I witnessed in school in the 80’s/90’s could have been treated as attempted murders and no-one was expelled for any of the most serious incidents.
Your comment about your friend in England is interesting, I really hope this isn’t one of the “England is better than Scotland, I hate the SNP” troll posts that we see so often on Scotsnet.
The fact is that England are also moving to intervention strategies and the rate of permanent exclusion is tiny with 1.1 children out of every thousand excluded, even if that rate, which is also declining, is matched, the majority of Scottish high schools on average wouldn’t even have 1 child expelled.
Behaviour/violence is a societal problem which we are all aware is intergenerational and linked to poverty.
Your biggest issue is the wellbeing and future of your nephew, the societal changes you seek are not going to be achieved anytime soon, if at all, and as a family you’re watching a child standing on train tracks while his family are trying to change the weather instead of helping him overcome this.
Even if John Sweeney is miraculously reading this forum, agrees with everything you said and tries to change the policy it would take years to go through votes consultations, governance and structure to actually change it, by which time your nephew will already have left school with his future severely impacted.
You were dismissive over my suggestion that your nephew should get into fitness and martial arts, all my children (and now step-children) have done this, variously judo, kickboxing and ju-jitsu.
None of them have been bullied, not one, there have been a few attempts over the years but they have all dealt with it at the time.
Out of the 5 of them though there has only been two incidents where they’ve had to physically defend themselves, the reality is that bullies prey on people who they see as weak/easy targets, not strong confident people who are trained in martial arts.
For my older sons 2 of whom ate now (against my advice) working in law, this confidence has allowed them to assert themselves in an often hostile world, some of the worst bullying I have seen is in corporate environments so these skills have helped them succeed.
Would you not rather your nephew followed that path than being scared of things that are never going to change?