Guilt free railing

[WouldBeGood]

The place to vent, moan, rail, cheer: whatever you’re feeling about Covid, and the rules, and life and the universe.

I’ve started this as I’m feeling scared and fed up with increasing restrictions despite vaccines. I feel that what should be a more positive time is instead bringing more and more doom.

I want the simple pleasures of life back, as well as all the big stuff.

I’ve recently tried doing an online exercise class and feel so depressed watching myself lumbering about - I screen-cast from my phone to the TV and have it so I can see my instructor and she needs to see me. There’s probably a way that I don’t have to watch myself but I can’t work it out - so there I am large and lardy, doing all the moves wrong and there’s nothing remotely good going on for my mental health.

@GoldenOmber

I've got fat and unfit too. Even more so than in spring lockdown. Starting to question the public health benefit of indefinitely being shut in houses in incredibly stressful work/homeschooling situations and no available stress relief except shovelling Vienetta down my throat.

Exactly!

And now I want Vienetta

@ScoldsBridle

I’ve recently tried doing an online exercise class and feel so depressed watching myself lumbering about - I screen-cast from my phone to the TV and have it so I can see my instructor and she needs to see me. There’s probably a way that I don’t have to watch myself but I can’t work it out - so there I am large and lardy, doing all the moves wrong and there’s nothing remotely good going on for my mental health.

Yes.. it just makes my lumbering fatness more depressing when I see it on screen. I look like a sad old woman

I’ve just sat with my daughter whose heartbroken that she can’t go back to school but her little brother can. What a fucking shambles.

Oh @Jellycatspyjamas 💕💕

My instructor has an online 80s music gym class and its fab. she has about 4 different 80s videos we can watch and copy and she doesn't need to see us. its a £20pm subscription and I really need to get more use out of it. Hard to find the motivation as its not the same without my gym buddies.

I think I can safely say that my boy will never grow up an SNP voter after this fiasco

I was thinking this about immunity and fitness to fight Covid.

Many of the measures and messages are putting me in a worse position. My only exercise now is walking and I need a companion to go any distance tbh. Shopping less frequently means less fresh food top ups. Not meeting up with people beyond my immediate family removes my main source of stress relief.

Not driving far to exercise has stopped any days out where I might have gone very slowly up a hill!

I've become a slug really.

@Jellycatspyjamas

I’ve just sat with my daughter whose heartbroken that she can’t go back to school but her little brother can. What a fucking shambles.

Oh I hope she gets to go back soon. It's so bloody miserable for them.

I think I can safely say that my boy will never grow up an SNP voter after this fiasco

I doubt my children will either - my girl is heartbroken and firmly blames the government for stopping her see her friends. It’s so hard for our kids.

That is very hard. It's such an arbitrary cut off also.

Oh that's awful jellycatspyjamas.

So sorry.

@Jellycatspyjamas I hope she is ok. She won't be I know but just wanted to acknowledge how shit it is. Since when was Scotland a society that decided on schooling based on parents jobs or what looks best politically. I will be teaching mine never to forget this time when they are old enough to vote.

Sorry that was aimed at @Jellycatspyjamas

@Jellycatspyjamas that's so sad for your little girl and they're too young to understand. Its hard enough for us adults to make sense of it all!
I really really hope the upper primary kids are next to go back, it's so important for them to be in school. And I say that as someone with teenagers.

Thanks everyone - my two are adopted and she already feels like she doesn’t matter because of her early experiences, this just reinforces the idea that her brother matters more. I’m hoping they continue to give her some time under vulnerable student provision but even that isn’t great. I’ll never forgive this bloody government for the shit show that is education.

I used to go to the gym and cook wholesome family meals where I’d chat with dc. Now I’m a fat bastard, ds ks chubby and depressed and unkempt, needs a haircut, and we eat shit on toast and ready meals as we can’t be arsed.

My DP has MS but had started proper weight training, lost weight and cured his back pain. All stopped.

DD 18 was slim and fit, now chubby for the first time ever and drinks in her flat.

Only leisure activity available is eating.

How is any of this conducive to public health?

I would imagine the vulnerable children/keyworker provision is probably different to normal school? Not her usual class or friends

Since when was Scotland a society that decided on schooling based on parents jobs or what looks best politically

This, exactly.
"your mum's a doctor and your dad's a nurse, you're allowed to go to school and socialise with other children"
"Ah, your mum works in a care home, but dad is a money grabbing investment banker so you can't see other kids. What's that? It will be mum who has to stay at home cos they can't pay the mortgage on her care worker salary? Tough shit"

And before anyone jumps on me; I know the hubs are in some cases not much more than a holding pen from an educational perspective (description from someone who works in one!) but at least they are getting to see other kids.

@Jellycatspyjamas please forgive me if this is insensitive but could you not get her in due to her being adopted. That breaks my heart. As I say not meaning to be rude at all just any help and support to make her feel better

@StatisticallyChallenged exactly! Oh your job is worthy so the gates open. It's sickening. I've said this from the beginning although not many agreed with me but how is that ok? Based on your parents jobs which you have absolutely no say in 😢

The kids have no say - and it also assigns a "goodness" rating to jobs almost. It was one thing when it originally looked quite short term, but we're at nearly a year now. Jobs don't exist in isolation from each other and realistically a very large proportion of keyworker jobs are taxpayer funded and cannot exist in the long term without the external tax injections which come from private sector roles, both from direct income based taxes and from the other tax revenues (corporation tax, VAT etc) which they generate.

Over the longer term all jobs are key because they all depend on each other.

Not insensitive at all @IsurviveonCoffeeandWinein2021 (so do I btw ), she’s in three mornings a week just now which has worked well for them both but it’s not in her class, her friends aren’t there and she has a different teacher every day. It’s been good for her but not the same as school, she just feels the unfairness of her brother going back to normal. And I don’t know what they’re doing with her provision from next week, so I’m waiting for that bombshell.

Yeah the keyworker thing has been massive gripe of mine. There are so many parents who are working in challenging, professional roles at home with children to either supervise or try to home educate.

In the first lockdown employers were on the whole quite sympathetic and flexible as everyone got to grips with the huge changes to society. In this lockdown I've noticed a massive culture shift where employers expect you to get on with it like you could in Oct/Nov/Dec. Systems are up and running now and WFH is in full swing, so we should somehow be able to carry on with that even though we have kids at home. It's fucking impossible.

I'm a lawyer and in March/April last year not a lot was getting done except emergency work really as everyone got set up, courts worked out how to do remote work, and every firm was in the same boat so opponents were prioritising what had to be done. Now remote court hearings are the norm, workloads are normal or more, fee targets are the same. There's absolutely no expectation that your output will decrease.

DH works in finance and it's 1 million times worse - he is in meetings every waking hour of the day and there is no prospect of him having childcare responsibilities. He's quite senior as well. Who do they think is looking after the kids?!

@StatisticallyChallenged absolutely for a short term measure we all got on board. God I shut my dance school early but now it's just a farce. All jobs matter. It's not my child's fault I choose the arts (I have since went on to study) but I did what I loved and made a business which is supposedly good.

@Jellycatspyjamas I see what you mean. It is incredibly unfair. It won't be popular (I'm hopeful I won't get called a Granny killer at least on this thread) but see if any of her friends want to meat up? She has you so that's half the battle but she deserves better. God it makes me so angry a child should not feel greatful to go school on a western country