New SAHP board!

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This will be interesting! and to MNHQ

floaty pick a room in your house.. Just focus on it for an hour (or however long you want to dedicate to it) and blitz it. One room at a time

Winter so sorry for your loss

Floaty and others with little ones, it is hard and relentless I remember it well.
It does get better when they are a bit older.
Please don't be tough on yourself if you are managing the dc this is a job in itself without added housework on top. to those with littles.

Thanks juggling and howabout - sorry to hear of your loss too x

I can't wait to see pitch perfect!

floatyflo see my post above I do get down when it's messy - the things I try and do to keep things going (despite the mess) are put washing on and dishwasher on when I go to bed - it's DH job to empty the DW in the morning while he makes the tea and then I habg the washing at some point in the morning ... It's the admin type stuff that gets me, paperwork, post, bank statements, things to do like sending people birthday cards on time, and all the toys / stuff that just doesn't seem to have a proper home is strewn over every surface... If I do one small task though - eg clear top of sideboard - it feels like a huge achievement!

Yay! I will be back later at approximately wine o'clock to read the thread! Booking my place in the meantime, just washed up after our 'end-of-term-banquet' which used far too many oven trays

Waves!! My dd also did GCSE eng lit too juggling.
My day, pack big ones off to school, lazy morning with preschool er , followed by sand pit relocation..... Too much sand getting under my bare feet in house. Sand pit now down bottom of garden in the hope more will be shaken off before entering house.
Bike ride this afternoon to soft play.
Now wine o'clock.

Sorry for your losses winterbaby and howabout.

I will have the coffee and walnut cake please Juggling! I can also offer some basbousa and baklawa if anyone is interested?

I am back from PIL and sipping a cup of coffee while I pretend I haven't noticed it's bedtime yet.

I am a crap SAHM and the house usually looks like a midden despite a cleaner coming once a week. DD hasn't been making it to the toilet on time quite a bit lately so the laundry never ends. And I have bad dermatitis and no dishwasher! So no advice I am afraid but maybe we could work on improving together?

I have a major problem getting out and about because I live in a very hot country, don't have a car and am spoiled by FIL who picks up DD from school. Next week I am going to try and get up and dressed by 8 (DD leaves for school at 7.30 with DH) and out the house by 9. Then hopefully there will be time to get to the supermarket or park and back in time to cook lunch for DD who is home at 1. Once I have got that down I will work on picking up DD myself and activities in the late afternoon once the worst of the heat is over. DS is 16 months and he is too big to lug around but can't be left to walk either so we usually end up staying at home. It is a tricky age!

I have decluttered by leaving our flat full of our stuff and renting another one. Not sure what we will do when this one gets full though.

Dixie

Are you doing Marie Kondo, or going it alone?
I have just bought the book as need to declutter as we are entering a new phase and hopefully down sizing since ds1 left. We still have ds2 and dd at home, but would like something easy to manage now.

Juggling it's interesting to see you on here after seeing you on the GCSE support thread. Your dc are the same age as mine, and not many of their friends have SAHP.
It was my day off today (!), out shopping and lunch with friends. When DH came in and saw me serving dinner, he rushed to get his nice bottle of wine to go with it ( while I hid the Sainsburys ready meal packet )

Wow. I wave a few hours ago and now I have 4 pages to read to catch up... SAHM have too much time on their hands ;) Be back in a moment once I've read!

DH had a day off today. He's been having a stressful time at work recently so decided to take an extra long BH weekend! We dropped DS1 at pre-school & went to M&S to buy DH an entire new wardrobe his old t-shirts had literally dozens of holes in each & had tea & cake in John Lewis. It was bliss! Then this afternoon we had a friend's DS's party & I thought we'd lost DS1. He has ASD & has form for bolting. I thought I'd seen him wander into the garden & then noticed the side gate was open... Thankfully I must've been hallucinating because he was inside. I was on the verge of calling the police though when I couldn't immediately see him on the road outside! I'd only been explaining to DH this morning that some people get their ASD child a blue-badge because they're less likely to be safe crossing car parks. If he had noticed the gate being open I don't doubt he'd have gone. He was already feeling a little overwhelmed by the party. I have to keep reminding myself that he's fine - I get a bit obsessed by the what-ifs sometimes!

Tomorrow we're taking a road-trip to see a bunch of planes in a museum. DH is obsessed & had made me promise to keep an eye out on various group-on type sites for a deal. One came up recently so tomorrow I get to spend the whole day telling DS2 he needs to stay in the buggy & trying to convince DS1 to either hold hands nicely & stop twisting his fingers in mine or generally fidgeting or wear reins while DH tries to educate us all on how jet engines work. It'll be a blast. DH rarely gets to indulge his hobbies, he spends more time following me around Hobbycraft. I'll pretend to be interested for just one day!

Hi there dingit
Nice to see you too
I figure anyone can come on here especially if they've not been working on this particular day and SAHP kind of stuff is what they want to share with others who've had a similar day
Just take things on a day by day basis I reckon?

I've been in and out of work since ds started school about ten years ago - but always early years, and school hours and term time - which I feel fortunate to have been able to do
So I kind of feel my focus has always been mainly on my DC since I had them
Perhaps that's true for many WOHM's too?

I feel like the world of work makes a lot of demands though which I don't always have the head space for!
I'd like to see more positivity in the workplace and job security and worker's rights and focus on well-being of employees otherwise I'm not that interested

• better pay and recognition within my field of early years would be nice too

And as I mentioned I'm glad to be able to be there for dd ATM as she does her GCSE's - she needed me today with the art sketchbook deadline - although guess she would have coped if I'd been working

< waves to worm >
< laughs at kindle getting a second flat to deal with clutter problem >

Hey, I followed the threads that led to this group but didn't contribute as was scared at how mean they got! New to this internet socialising malarkey but since socialising in RL is non existent these days I thought I would try it out! I decided not to comment on the other threats when Sahp were accused of watching Jeremy Kyle all day (oh how I look back on mat leave with fond memories!) I have 3 dd's at 3.9, 17months and 6weeks so my chances of going back to work now are non existent also. I am conflicted between finding it a privilege and finding it just plain crappy. Going out for meals with friends where they all talk about work/current affairs etc can now be alienating as my biggest achievement is getting some washing done and making dinner on the same day!

Anyway nice to see a friendly thread of sahp, will most def be following and won't feel so alone in my life choice. Now do I finish that wine or hang the washing (since I'm due to feed in an hour I guess it's the washing.....groan)

Ah sorry that should have been altered not kindle with the second flat
My excuse such as it is is it's gone wine O'clock on a Friday here
But I still have some coffee and walnut cake to offer by way of apology

im a SAHP to currently 3 teenagers. But I am also a SAHP to foster children, although we have none placed at the moment.

Ive been mums taxi all day. Managed to get an hours "lunch break", in between jobs and ferrying people around to various schools/clubs/stations

DH, the working parent, on the other hand had a full day... didnt go into work until 9:30, due to hangover from "business event" last night. Spent the night in a hotel, so didnt even have to make his own coffee. Did a couple of meetings, before lunch with a client (hair of the dog) and then home on the train, with me collecting. Gets home, plants bum on sofa, has not moved except for eating dinner. Because he is tired!

I got in and finally sat down 30 minutes ago.

Hill

I can remember this feeling and as i said before it can be relentless at times.
Are you able to at least watch/listen to the news or radio.
This kept me sane and up to date with current affairs when dc were little.
I got into radio 4 and music stations too, for me it really helped.

Thank you all ?? Mine are 11, 9 and 20 months. I was a SAHM for six years when the older two were small. Then worked almost full time for three years before having ds2. Now work Mondays only, but have been asked to do an extra day from September. Mixed feelings, but DD is starting at the secondary school I teach at, so at least I'll be able to keep an eye on her!

juggling. Reading back I look like a bit of a twat. We rented the second flat from my FIL to be near to them and closer to DD's school because she was not coping with the long journey. Extra space for clutter is just a bonus.

I would love to go out to work but don't feel supported at home and am not that excited about opportunities available so am dragging my feet. Will be out of my hands in a few months though when we will need a second income for nursery and school fees though.

Morethan......I used to listen to radio 4 when I had dd1 but life is more hectic and I dont do as many long car journeys as I used to since dd1 is at preschool for 3 hours a day so limits me, also I am badgered into children's music in the car now, thankfully I have convinced her that classic fm is music from the ceebeebies programme melody! Classical is also played in the kitchen as it keeps me calm! I try to watch the news once a day but my mind has turned to mush and I can barely remember it half the time! It is quite relentless at the moment but hoping it lets up a bit when dd1 goes to school in sept and the baby is a bit older. I know I will be sad when these days are over but the last month has been tough.

Fanny.....my husband had the same problem today, however I tanked my children up on ice cream and waited for him to get home for him to do bath time.....I have done it solo all week so I felt that was good payback, and the girls loved me for giving them treats!! Win win!!

Not at all altered - I thought it was funny

Made me laugh altered and even more so, when juggling thought it was me...how did you know I needed a second flat for my random crap?!! oops the mention of twenty bags probably did for me
I have no answer re tidying as I am a failed flylady who is hoping to make big changes at Xmas when youngest will spend some hours at Kindergarten with his sister. Until then it looks like the episode of the Middle when everyone thinks Frankie's been burgled, when it's just their every day life.
But thank you altered for teaching me a new word. Midden is an excellent description, yes.
I have eaten my way through 28 chocolate fingers, 16 ritz crackers and 30 . This is not good.

Arsenic, the WOHP board is probably quiet because people have been at work...

Yes, because nobody ever MNs from their desk or the train

I never ever do that, it's true...