I don't know what the hell to do

[NervousAndScared]

DH just lost it. Everything in ds1's room is either in the bin or in the loft. DS1 was in trouble for annoying ds2 so ds1 threatened to jump out of his window. DH put him in the little loo to calm down and he just flooded the floor and put soft on the wall. I was trying to get DH to calm down and not throw perfectly good toys away and he said he had had enough of us not having any money when they have £1000s of pounds of toys, and he is selling them.

I told him I was torn between giving him a cuddle as I love him so much and going as far away from him as possible as I was scared of him. He raised his eyebrows so I walked away. I tried to cuddle him later but it was a half hearted arm on my back. I told him I had enough children so did he want to talk to me or me to leave him alone. He is alone.

DH said he was fed up of everyone and I am sure he means me too that I lost it a bit.

I am seriously questioning my marriage now. It can't be good to be scared of your husband.

Yes Dittany I certainly can and I have advised her to call WA for some advice and perspective.

I have no idea whether they will at some point be in danger from him or not; that's pretty difficult to ascertain but I know that she is aware of the risks of this kind of thing.

I'm not sure there is much more I can say; I am not seeking to take sides or to defend or excuse, I'm just saying what I know and I will continue to offer what I can in support to her.

Thanks and I know she appreciates people putting the time and effort in to try and help.

I name change every few months or so but I joined in 2005

I think I have shared my email address and given OP lots of advice

Im sorry if I seem unkind but I really dont know how else I can help

Unless OP doesnt want to be helped

But that doesnt stop me being sad for her children

premium - you obviously name changed just to post this, why? Especially as you appear to be making out you know me.

I posted to get it out of my system, not looking for help as such as my children were safe and I would have been well packed and gone if they weren't.

You have no need to be sad for my children at all. If you do know me you will know my childhood was shit and I will do anything to protect them. Their dad getting cross does not make them children at risk. My children are safe and if they weren't we wouldn't be all living together.

Lady - I have left, I came on for a minute to find a link to something else, and I have left because the good parts of mn weren't enough to make up for the bad.