Well thats knocked the wind our of my sails - written out of father's will

[bibbitybobbityhat]

Am very very . Don't know what to do with my feelings.

How did you find out?

Do you know why?

Who has got what you were expecting to get?

Has he told you that or have you found out after he died?

My step mother just told me.

Dad is in hospital with heart trouble (having angioplasty tomorrow).

He is 80.

She says they just changed their wills very recently.

She is disinheriting me and my elder brother (my dad's two children from his first marriage), she will inherit from my dad when he dies (assuming it goes that way round, she is 17 years younger than him) and she is leaving everything to her three children (my half brothers and sister) when she dies.

Didn't know what to say to her, tbh.

Nothing you can say. Not your choice. I hope your dad is okay.

Can she do that?
I know my Mom had a clause in her will protecting my Brother and I from going to ex-stepdad and his daughter's.
Thankfully she divorced him anyway.

Why would she tell you this now anyway? HOw spiteful.

I have absolutely no idea what us in my parents or my inlaws wills

I prefer it that way because then you dint think about something you might eventually get

tbh there more likely to use all their money on nursing homes etc which us what I'd prefer, that they have a happy life and use anything they've got while they are alive

hope you and your father are ok
unfortunately it's up to him what he does with his money..as long as he was of sound mind when the will was made?

Sorry, crap typing, preventing my Brother and I's share of any inheritance. It was more that Mom had sold a family house and proceeds would be in will, she felt it should go to brotther and I.

Poor you, hope your Father is OK.

Compo - believe me, it has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with money. It really hasn't. Its just my father has five children, but he will in effect only be remembering three of them in his will.

Wow! That's kind of her to tell you now.

It is, of course, up to your dad to do whatever he wants with his money. But are you sure that this is true and this is what he wants to do?

I hope his operation goes well, and that after his recovery you can ask him and check that this is what he wants to do.

Sorry for you - a friend of mine had this happen (something similar, not exactly the same), and it was the emotional aspect of it that was the most hurtful, not the money. To know that they had been passed over by their own father was so painful.

Good luck for your DF tomorrow.

OP, is your father actually aware that he has disinherited you? Sounds daft I know but bear with me - did he think he was protecting his second wife by leaving everything to her, so that she wouldn't have to sell the home she lives in to meet your inheritance; expecting her to bequeath to all five on her death?

But that's not true really
he's just leaving his money to his wife
when my dad goes he'll leave everything to my mum
for all I know she might want to give everything to a cats home when she goes and if she does I won't think badly about my dad for leaving it up to her
I hope he's ok though
his health is more what I'd be thinking about tbh

this happens all the time and i have no understanding why

hopefully he will recover and you will have an opportunity to speak with him about the reasons that he made his will thus and explain how it made you and your brother feel

grrr

I'm sure he doesn't feel like that, Bibbity, but I can see how his actions (or perhaps her manipulation? I don't know) would make you feel like that.
I foresee something similar hapening with my family tbh.

bloody hell. She sounds manipulative . What a crap situation to put everyone in.

Hope your dads op goes well tomorrow.

I suggest you talk to your father. Explain that your (wicked) stepmother has just told you blah blah, and you wondered if there was a reason that you and your brother were being left out.

That way you can let him know that you know if you know what I mean, and give him the opportunity to explain. Otherwise, you will always wonder why this was decided.

What a particularly nasty thing to do while your Dad is in hospital.

Crikey. How awful. And I can understand that it is not about the money but about her trying to pretend you and your brother don't exist.

DH's Dad died and had left all his money after mortage was paid off in trust for DH. MIL (DH's stepmother) gets the income. The house was MIL's before the marriage. We felt bad about it tbh. Thankfully there are no hard feelings and we have already told MIL she is not to leave us anything in HER will.

Bibbity, I am sorry for you. Of course it's your Dad's will but then it seems highly likely that he's been manipulated into changing his will accordingly.

Not much you can do but speak to him directly.

I hope he will get better. Have you spoken to your brother?

Are your half siblings a lot younger/less solvent than you?
It could be that the thinking is that you don't realy need the money?

I know that that is hardly the point, but could be the reason.

So he is leaving everything to her and then she is leaving everything to her children and not to you two? Do you think your dad knows about this?

Thanks all.

There is every chance my dad will get better. I am getting no sense of urgency from anyone in the family as yet and he generally very fit.

He is not even having a GA for the angioplasty.

Yes, it will be interesting to speak to my older brother about it. He is closer to my dad and my half brothers and sister than I am. Spends a lot more time with them than I do. I have always been the black sheep, I guess.

Knowing me I'll probably never say anything to anyone.

I was wondering that lizzy hope you are ok bibbity

My half siblings are 26-32 years old, I am 47 my brother is 52.

My brother is loaded.

DH and I get by.

The half siblings all have jobs but no property as yet.

Yes, her thinking will be that her kids need the money more than we do.

Tough tits to me and db.