Internet pornography

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I discovered on my husband's laptop that one night while I was sleeping he was looking at internet porn. Not so bad ,you think!, it get's worse. On his history of websites and images were sites involving pre-teen girls. I have confronted him and get the usual I don't know why,I'd had too many beers,I don't even like young girls,I didn't get an erection, blah blah blah. It wasn't just one site or one search although he claims they were all linked and he clicked on the link, although I believe you can't do that on google images. Every time I think of it I feel physically sick and don't know what to do. We have 4 boys of 3,10,14 &17. I keep thinking about their friends and girlfriends he will come into contact with. Am I over reacting? What should I do? I have no one to share this with as both my parents died last year. Can anyone help?

not a great surprise, but I totally agree with dittany here

where is the OP, btw ?

a bit of clarification would help, but tbh, my condemnation of her twat of a partner would not be all that much changed

he is either a fucked-up criminal or just fucked-up

either way, he would be out of my fucking house

all that would change is whether I was reporting him to the police or not

Pre-teen is quite clear, I think. Aged twelve and under.

It's a cold, hard industry alright Reality.

It's funny, you hear more about fairtrade initiatives and stuff these days - maybe we should have fairtrade porn?

I will do girl on girl for ooooh... oh what the hell, £10 in tesco vouchers and we'll call it quits.

Oh I just did that thing I do without inaapropriate humour, didn't I? Oh sod it.

I'm afraid I doubt whether this is genuine. Obviously if it is, OP, then hand the computer over to the police and let them go through the history and decide if the sites he's been on are illegal. You can't ignore it because of a difficult family situation.

I am not completely anti-porn, I'm not interested in it personally, but I don't think that everyone who looks at it is 'amoral and screwed up'. It is not, however, acceptable for anyone to be searching for sites labelled as 'pre-teen'.

The OP has got what they wanted, they lit the touch paper and stood well back.

I actually said something very similar to ineed at the very start of the thread and no-one jumped down my throat, if he hadn't mentioned the fact that he didn't mind porn, there would have been no outrage towards him.

If OP and bjawn aren't one and the same, I'll eat my slippers.

Barely legal is not the same as pre teen surely? Barely legal makes me think 'just eighteen' pre teen makes me think 11/12 years old.

"said he was looking at preteen sites.....young ish looking 18+ if american sites and 16+ if european sites, often in cliche school girl, lolipop sucking poses"
bjawm.

Just about says it all about that poster.

not projecting dittany.

the debate about porn will go round in circles because some people think it's ok and some don't.

i think every reasonable person would agree though that any porn involving children, animals, people not able to give consent and/or under the influence of a substance and anything that involves mutilation/abuse is wrong.

you feel strongly about it dittany and i respect that.

I read this earlier and popped back on to see if anything had been resolved (didnt have high hopes)
Just wanted to say to Dittany that your strong pricipals regarding porn are admirable, especially in a day and age when speaking out against porn is seen as being 'uncool' and 'frigid' (before anyone jumps on my post, I know no-ones said that on this thread)

I'm not going to bother commenting on the OP given how she/he disappeared into the internet ether on page one, but Dittany, I have the utmost respect for you!

Ahem, principles.

the op was pretty bad and if serious and someone is actually looking for some help having found her partner looking at waht she clearly states to be "sites involving pre-teen girls."

that says everything id need to know. if this is a wind up its sick. if the men on this thread seriously are trying to defend anyone for seeking sites with, and again i'll quote, - "sites involving PRE TEEN girls" then your even sicker.

take the debate about the rights and wrongs of looking for porn to another thread. how the hell can anyone turn this into a debate? if he has been seeking sites - mulitple - sites involving child porn then there is absolutely only one thing to do and that is take this to the police.

how can any man wade into this thread to defend this type of porn? ffs i can hardly believe what im reading.

i have no problem with consensual adult porn - but this is something so far off that i cant believe anyone could even try to defend any man seeking it on the net.

This thread should not be about whether porn is right or wrong. It should be about child abuse, surely. So if the OP is real then she do confirm the illegality of her husband's behaviour and then let him deal with the consequences.

If he hasn't done anything illegal then he may need help anyway.

PS Many women will find it difficult to report partner, especially if they are reliant on him. So we should probably refocus the discussion on her establishing what her husband has/hasn't done and then offering guidance and support so that she can do the right thing with a certain degree of confidence.

Again we should be discussing child abuse not porn.

Just for the onl record I am not bjawn or of the male gender. I only joined today and they picked my nickname, it was quicker. I had to leave the site as husband was hovering over my shoulder. I haven't found any downloads on the laptop but didn't expect to, even he's not that stupid. The pictures were of flat chested and hairless girls and sourced on google and sites. I wouldn't make this up and I tried to explain I have no one to confide in, maybe this wasn't a good idea. I'm sorry if I've caused anyone upset or distress.

Was it one time, as a link and then moved away immediately or looked at and searched often? If the latter then you need to involve the police

NK...there are always arguments about porn usgae on here

However, that aside, I think you have a serious problem here with the content of what your partner is accessing via the internet

it is a good idea for you to post here...but only if you take on board that people are posting because they are worried for you...for your children...and for the underlying fact that your partner has some serious, serious issues that you must not ignore

"If it's the baby type image then lets all jump in and have a go because that is totally perverted. Otherwise shut up, because you will never convince normal people that porn is wrong"

jesus wept.

well you seem to have your answer there then if he's been googling 'pre-teen' girls. that shows intent rather than stumbling over webpages when looking at legal sites.

is your question whether you should leave him or whether you should contact the authorities?

both would be best course of action if he's seeking out child porn.

surely you know in yourself it's wrong to ignore that this has happened.

NK, there is no question about what you should do here, there's no way you can ignore it, how could you even contemplate sharing a bed with that vile scumbag excuse for a man?

You can't, he went searching for this 'porn' - how can you even look at him?

Get your ass and your laptop down to the local police station, you can't honestly believe that you're stuck with this 'thing' for the rest of your life because of financial difficulties?

Frankly, I'd rather live on the street

op,dont go....it will just be swept under the carpet! you do know you need to act on this,you wouldnt have posted otherwise.

you will be able to call non emergency number....arrange for them to come round if you're agoraphobic. take it from there

does he work|? what type of job?