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Has anyone ever gone to a swingers club or party before?

86 replies

AfricoAngel · 27/07/2005 12:13

Just curious....

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charliecat · 27/07/2005 12:16

No, but im convinced my neighbours do

spidermama · 27/07/2005 12:17

God NO I'm such a prude.

My parents did wife swapping back in the 70's. Dad's now married to the woman and my mum lives alone.

anchovies · 27/07/2005 12:17

No but my MIL and FIL hold them at their house regularly. Not my cup of tea at all.

Lizzylou · 27/07/2005 12:18

Wow!!!

charliecat · 27/07/2005 12:18

A woman I worked with said in the 70s they used to throw the car keys in a pile and you would pick a set and go off with whoever the car keys were...[vomit emotion]

BareFootAngel · 27/07/2005 12:23

NO! no no no no ive never swapped anything .i take my unwanted stuff to the charity shop and then buy new!!eeeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkk yukky you would also be at the party with there wifes and oh yuk no you could see where they had been if you kwim

LittleMissNaughty · 27/07/2005 12:25

I would have to agree with everyone else, the thought of it makes me sick!

Each to their own I suppose. Actually, in this case, it is each to everyone.

AfricoAngel · 27/07/2005 12:44

Lol, I don't understand how someone can watch while some bitch has sex with their partner! The reason I asked was I saw this documentary a few weeks back and I thought 'hmm, wonder if any mumsnetters do that?!?!'

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tiredemma · 27/07/2005 12:52

I saw the same documentary i think africo, was it the one where a couple had a huge party every month in thier house, next morning bodies everywhere?

ive never been to one, wouldnt have the guts.

Hausfrau · 27/07/2005 12:53

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munz · 27/07/2005 13:14

uurghhh god no I ahte the thought of another womans hands on my DH, and he's never let me go off with another man (not that I would anyways). definatly not my cup of tea.

handlemecarefully · 27/07/2005 13:20

eh gads! NO!!!!!

nutcracker · 27/07/2005 13:20

Nope never have and wouldn't either.

munz · 27/07/2005 13:24

(should read he'd not he's cos I havent' tried -oh dig a hole!)

AfricoAngel · 27/07/2005 13:51

yes tiredmama, where the teenage kids were helping with the big roast pig in the living room too?

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expatinscotland · 27/07/2005 13:52

Good gawd, Africo, you sure are full of the nosey questions today.

Mytwopenceworth · 27/07/2005 14:06

i could never go to a swingers party - id be too worried that noone would pick me!!

marthamoo · 27/07/2005 14:08

Apparently if you have pampas grass growing in your garden it signifies swingingdom (I probably read that on MN). I do not have pampas grass growing in my garden.

marthamoo · 27/07/2005 14:09

Swingerdom? Swinginess? Swingability?

I'm as bored as hunker.

expatinscotland · 27/07/2005 14:10

Anyone ever seen the film 'Swingers'. It's great, btw, but it's about swing dancing.

theonlyone · 27/07/2005 14:41

am i the only one that has ! it was a club with an ex-bf. The idea excited me, but when we got there it didn't, I need to get to know someone to find them attractive and do anything . We went and had a sauna alone together and then went off and found somewhere quiet and private definitely no swinging for us. Thinking back it was quite funny. I'm not quite so wild now and it doesn't interest me at all.

handlemecarefully · 27/07/2005 15:33

you wierdy

Catsmother · 27/07/2005 15:38

I have !!!! .................. in my head that is !

... and, I bet I'm not the only MumsNetter who's at least wondered what it might be like ?? Mind you, when such - ahem - thoughts cross my mind, the party in question is populated, strangely enough, by the likes of Russell Crowe, Edge, Sean Bean, Gordon Ramsay, my old rather gorgeous vet - and other such fanciable men.

In reality though, I would be far too embarassed to reveal my body in all its "glory" to a load of strangers even if they were very broad minded. And of course, the emotional fallout from something like that can only be guessed at before the event - which personally, I think, is quite a risky strategy. I would be terribly worried that either one of us might form an emotional attachment to someone else & really do believe that your relationship can't be the same as it was before. What if one of you likes it more than the other and wants to do it again but the other person doesn't ?

Best kept as a fantasy IMO.