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Do you know your OH's passwords?

102 replies

NikNakPaddyWhak · 13/04/2010 13:16

Do you know your OH's passwords for PC account, emails etc?
Does he/she know yours?
Would you be happy for him/her to have them, if not, why not?

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ButterPie · 13/04/2010 13:20

I think I know them, not sure though as I have no need to try. In the past I have needed to get something off his email so he has told me the password, no idea if he has changed it, and he has done the same with mine.

He once got himself banned from a forum, so used my account to post something and got me banned as well, he knows I am v annoyed about that and I don't think he would dare do it again

foureleven · 13/04/2010 13:22

oh dear butterpie, what did he write?!

Yep we have eachothers passwords as the odd little thing has come up in the past where we'll need to use/ check them for eachother.

Clumsymum · 13/04/2010 13:22

I know some of them, not others.

Doesn't bother me, I trust him.

TrillianAstra · 13/04/2010 13:22

No, I don't know his passwords, but I know he would tell it to me if I said something like 'did you have a voucher code for tesco in your email, I need to do a grocery order'.

I don't need to read his emails, and he doesn't need to read mine.

TrinityIsAPenguin · 13/04/2010 13:23

we both knew each others

PlumBumMum · 13/04/2010 13:24

we only have one email account,
and we don't have any password protected stuff anyway

Don't understand why anyone wouldn't share these with their partner unless they are hiding something

WhyFrank · 13/04/2010 13:25

What ButterPie said - apart from the forum banning part!

thisisnotwhoyouthink · 13/04/2010 13:26

yep. Both ways.

Rosa · 13/04/2010 13:28

Yes if we do something new e.g verified by Visa then we make sure we tell the other incase we forget!

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NikNakPaddyWhak · 13/04/2010 13:28

DH won't tell me his, says we both need "privacy". I find it odd.

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elastamum · 13/04/2010 13:29

Used to. He was a bit of a fool really. We got divorced after I realised he had used out air miles account to book free flights to New York for him and his OW!!!

foureleven · 13/04/2010 13:29

Plumbummum Id hate to share an email account with DP and have to filter through all his crap to get to my stuff!

WhenwillIfeelnormal · 13/04/2010 13:30

Yes I know his and he knows mine. There's nothing we wouldn't want the other to see. We also share an E mail account and if we've ordered something online for the other as a surprise, we put the confirmation E mail in the drafts folder and ask eachother not to look there!

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WhenwillIfeelnormal · 13/04/2010 13:32

Well NikNak - is there other behaviour going on that you find odd? How is he with his phone? Is that (secret) password protected too? (dead giveaway if so, emoticon)

foureleven · 13/04/2010 13:33

I agree you both need privacy. But even if you have the password he still has privavcy unless he thinks you'd snoop!
If DPs been buying me things online I always know because he says 'dont look at my emails this week!'

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NikNakPaddyWhak · 13/04/2010 13:36

He used to be quite protective over his phone but I found out that he owed his ex money and didn't want me to know. Now, he does carry it around alot and doesn't tend to leave it lying around but he does sometimes. Thing is, when I see it just left lying somewhere, I have no desire to look at it because I assume it wouldn't just be left there if it had anything sinister on it. Before when he used to guard it, I was constantly trying to sneak a peak.

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PlumBumMum · 13/04/2010 13:37

foureleven its more the other way around here,
dh dosen't care for computers unless looking up ebay,
If he knows someone is sending an e-mail to him he gets me to check,
We have 3 e-mail addresses all into the account, dh can never remember any of them,

so I suppose its more the case its something we have never done so it would be strange to me if he suddenly wanted to keep things private and viceversa

foureleven · 13/04/2010 13:40

We both have loads of seperate interests that we mostly indulge in online (great being a parent you cant really enjoy your pleasures in RL!) so to share an account wouldnt work for us.

Regards the guardingthe phone business, my ex used to do that and it made me an insecure mess.

templemaiden · 13/04/2010 13:46

I don't know the password on his computer but I have never asked for it. He does password protect his phone but occasionally I have used it and I just say "password" and he tells it me - I can never remember it though. We both have iPhones and have different apps so sometimes I want to use an app he has and which I don't.

lilmissmummy · 13/04/2010 13:50

we both know each others passwords but neither go snooping through each others stuff. To be honest I would care if he did!

In fact his passwords are saved on my computer and vice versa.

ByTheSea · 13/04/2010 13:51

I know some and can probably figure out others and same for him. I don't think either of us has anything to hide.

thumbwitch · 13/04/2010 13:51

some yes, some no. I would let him have all mine except my MN one (but he knows my MN name so he can read what I write if he really wants to).
I have his PIN number, he doesn't have mine (but then he has all the money at the moment so mine would be useless to him)
He would tell me any passwords I need if I asked but I don't need to most of the time. I have enough of my own to remember without trying to remember his as well!

Laquitar · 13/04/2010 14:06

Most people have more than one mail account. He can give you the password for one and flirt on the other.

But i do like some privacy and prefer seperate and private mail. I like that line from 'The Prophet' about mariage: 'Fill each other's glass but have your own seperate glasses...'

86Pinkle · 13/04/2010 14:06

We both know each others passwords and pins, its just not an issue