Do you know your OH's passwords?

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Do you know your OH's passwords for PC account, emails etc?
Does he/she know yours?
Would you be happy for him/her to have them, if not, why not?

We don't know any of them, except that I know his logon password for his laptop so that I can use it when mine's out of action.

I do tend to stay logged into mumsnet and other fora, though, so if he cared he could probably work out what I've posted and when. But email is different; sometimes I want to have a long chat to a friend, and not invite my husband along, and email is like that for me. If I'm feeling a bit disgruntled with him, or I'm mulling something over that I'm not ready to share with him (I'm considering changing jobs, eg), I like to be able to talk it over with a friend who has nothing invested in the topic first.

Pins wouldn't be an issue - we share all bank accounts and have one credit card between us - but has never come up so we don't know each others.

Some of them. I'm sure he's told me all of them but I forget them too quickly.

For that reason I have one password with various permutations for everything.

If I wanted to have a sneak through his e-mail accounts I'd just ask him and he'd show me. Same goes vice versa.

We are very boring and have no secrets.

Yes of course, we know eachothers passwords for everything, we share bank cards, pin numbers everything.

yes, i know dh's. he doesn't know all of mine but could most likely guess, otherwise, i have them written down somewhere for dh if he ever needed them.

I know his, he told me and I remember them. He doesn't know mine, I told him and he forgot.

As a widow could I recommend to all of you that lucykate's suggestion of having them all written down somewhere is a good one. Privacy is important, but in some circumstances knowing passwords makes things a lot easier.

evenstar, that's why i do it, just in case something happened to me (or dh) so he's got access to everything he would need.

I can't believe some of you share an email address! I wouldn't want my DP to read my emails to my friends (not because I have anything to hide but because, well- they're mine) and I doubt my friends would want to think their emails could be read by him either.

I think it's important to have some degree of separation.

I agree to a degree cumbria81, but I wouldnt refer to my partner as my 'other half' If we had that sort of relationship that we were each others 'other halfs' then we probably would share an email if you know what I mean.

Some people though, like someone said above, aren't really in to online stuff so there is so little email etc that they may as well share.

Just because E mails come into a shared inbox, it does not mean that E mails are read by all parties.

No of course not whenwillifeelnormal, but it does kind of mix your lives together in a bit of an over the top way if you know what I mean.

If you use it a lot I mean. Not so much to write emails to friends but more when you sign up to blogs, order things on line, join groups, sign up for podcasts etc etc

evenstar
yes I second that
we would have had lots of trouble if I hadn't known all his passwords

Evenstar and Trinity, a very good point, I have all passwords etc. written down as I do everything (financially related) online, if something happened to me, DH wouldn't have a clue.
I also know his email/facebook passwords, that doesn't mean I trawl through his accounts but I would if I ever felt I needed to.

Some of them yes, and PIN's also. But he doesn't know my work passwords to my work laptop and email, VPN access etc (i have to change them constantly anyway) because he has no business knowing them and there are probably work confidentiality issues if I were to share them as well.

He tends to keep his email logged in as do i with my private accounts anyway.

We share an e-mail account. I don't see how that 'mixes our lives in an over the top way'. Just because the -mails are there, doesn't mean the one who is not the intended recipient has to open them. Our letters are delivered through the same letter box but we don't open each others post and I don't see that e-mail is any different. If any 'odd' e-mails appear, we just check with the other one first to make sure it is ok to open. But usually, if either of us has ordered something online, we just remind the other one to check before reading them. And, even if we did read each others stuff, I would not say anything to someone else that I could not say to DH, even if I was having a rant about him!

Blimey, i came back to read the thread and now i feel odd

Want to know what Butterpie's OH said. to get banned twice

well i know the password to get onto his computer.

i don't look at his e-mails - but i think i could figure out the passowrd if i had to.

I know the password for dh's blackberry, and occasionally will look at his calendar - I would never look at his work email, too boring. His personal email isn't password protected and sometimes he says 'oh did you check my email today?' as if that's one of my roles in his life! No, check your own email. I would look on it if I needed information from his email though.

I don't like it when he looks at my emails. Not that there's anything really private but I just don't want him to read, for example, my email exchanges with my sister. There's nothing to stop him though.

yep - know passwords and PINs, as occasionally use each other's email accounts - if for example oredering something where one of us has an account with a firm and the other doesn't.

DH is much more tech savvy than me anyway, and isthe admin for our computers (has set up security stuff fo rthe DCs) so could probably access my stuff anyway if he wanted to - not that that would be an issue!

All money joint so access to bank a/c not a problem.

We know each others and can access each others accounts whenever we want. Not that we do.

Yep, know his, he knows mine.

my dh gave me all his passwords when we first got together and i gave him mine at some point. i don't think we have looked at eachothers stuff for some time now though - can't be arsed!

Yes. Because I set them up for him. DH is not, what you might call, technically competent.

We both know everything not an issue.
Separate email accounts though mostly due to different interests, and were preexisting anyway.

I agree that I would probably feel insecure if it was a secret though.