ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

[IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

XP Happy ....
Love them ,it is true it all comes from within thankyou so much for this post x

On the Al Anon / DV group thing can totally relate to what you say

I have been encouraged to join one too but don't really fancy it - sometimes I just want to be normal and forget stuff that's happening - I kind of think that on MN with you guys I can choose what to say when. I worry that with a group I'd feel I had to go each week and sink into the depths whether I want to or not

Happy, that is it exactly re the groups. I'm going to find something else that is light hearted & fun instead. Or have been thinking about writing classes if I can find any.

If you think you could I'd recommend a sports club of some sort.......

Its actually amazing how much stuff is on round here of an evening I thought i might just pop in once to everything .....as sort of club tart.Also thought of starting my own gardening club {just me and the dog and a few thousand midges] meets most evenings in my own garden wild life and livestock welcome .

Thanks Happy but sports are defo out for the moment. Might try to get back swimming though when I'm finished college & have more time.

Should read A SORT OF CLUB TART ....just re read that and sounded like i was going into pottery or architecture situation with stilettos and air bags pumped to the MAX.

Morning all.

Starting - Thanks for reminding me (I know that wasn't your intention) that things could be so much worse for us all. You must be so strong to have come through all of that and you can inspire us all.

Happy - thanks for the quotes, I love the ones that emphasise that we can decide how we want to be. I want to be positive and in control, so I'll continue to control what I can.

Managed to get a 4 hour run of sleep last night so feeling a bit better. Still a bit annoyed with H as he was asking my advice about the business and somehow I can't not be there for him (although I tried to emphasise that they are his choices now). He was late to pick up DS and bought me a bar of chocolate (had to do his shopping on the way home). Gestures like that are confusing to me (and he bought me chocolate I don't like!)

Once the baby is older I'm definitely going to be getting out and joining in with groups, getting back to running and things that I never got back to with DS.

Time to drag myself out of bed now before DS gets delivered back, although there's no word he's awake yet! I'll get in a quick bath first.

Waves to all, not much sleep here either last night but feel v positive & strong mentally. Thing my brain has been processing & releasing stuff. Chairmum, you broght a smile to my face but the reality is that I can look at the stuff you & other posters have to cope with & think that must be so hard for ye. I guess we'll all had a lot of crap to deal with & can inspire each other. My house is always filled with so much laughter & love & that is my greatest blessing in all this. Of course I have my days when dc's are v demanding & swinging from the rafters & my nerves get frayed or I feel sorry for myself but that is ok & normal. The main thing is that I took care of myself by counselling etc so that my dc's had a mum that was always emotionally & mentally there for them. If I hadn't got the help I prob would have been absent in my head for the past 18 mts.

This thread has been great for me. I use it like the counselling, a dumping ground for all of my crap. You have all been a great help to me in this journey & I thank you all for that.

Here's my quote for the day :

The tongue is a sword or a magic wand; it can cut and kill, or love and heal.

Chairmum, it does sound like mixed messages for H! Hope you get to see your counsellor soon & manage to get a bit of clarity.

Brought ds to dr this morn as his mouth looks horrific. One tooth seems to have set in gum again over night but second one is still quite loose. Was more afraid he might get a bad infection in mouth so wanted to know if I should be putting anything on it etc. Dr said he may loose tooth but gum should heal up itself. Ds was delighted with the excitement of trip to Dr but insisted on going to school aft to tell all his pals . Off to collect him again now.

Ladies you won't believe this. I had stopped running my adverts of the stuff I was selling as I had no response for wks. Anyway, they must have been short of ads (free ads) & put mine back on again. I got two calls, one after another & I am now minus one bike & back massager & £315 richer............

Well done Starting !

Hope everyone is having a good day...

My quote for today...
"Patience obtains all things ...."
St Teresa

Hi all

Phew got most of work out of the way now so can get back to normal now for the weekend

Chair, you sound a bit more upbeat which is good - stay strong, you can do it

Maybees, that's a good quote, like it

Starting, sorry, I'm being a bit hopeless on the sport front, sorry am not thinking straight at all. Glad to hear you've been selling stuff - question is...what will you spend the proceeds on.

Beautiful poetry startin ...sorry i missed it last nite x

Chin-Ning Chu quote helps me so much Happy thanks for posting it x

Waves to all, glad everyone seems to be feeling positive atm. Had concert with dd tonight. Ds doing fine but 2nd tooth now quite loose again. Waiting game now to see if the nerves are dead & teeth go black or fall out or hopefully reset. Anyway gum is healing up fairly quickly & he's not in too much pain tg. He's delighted with the novelty of it all & stopped people in the shop & street to tell them. As I was at the dr the dr decided to give him his booster shots today aswell & he also spent most of day trying to pull down his pants & show people his two bandages . Bless the innocence.

My good luck seems to be continuing. Got a call this evening about something else & person has said they'll collect it mon or tues, another £100 to escape fund .

Happy, glad you're getting a bit of a break from work. Hope you've nice things planned for w'end. No need for apology on the sport front. I'll never be winning any sports medals but it is something I can do when muscles are not bad.

Maybees, love the quote "all good things comes to she who waits" . Thanks for compliment.

mmm just a bit of music planned for the weekend

That's enough for you to be getting on with

Are you all out having riotous evenings?

No just reading about the many tumblestones and their properties,you get some beautiful spheres and pyramids too.Sat here with wee dog ,dim lights and candle burning......
ps got my legs waxed today so looking a bit like a plucked chicken..red dotty legs

Waves to all. Had college this evening but am here now. God that sounds so peaceful Maybees. Not the waxed legs, meant the candle etc of course .

ah, there you all are was just nodding off

Maybees - you are becoming an expert

Now I will go to bed and await the return of DC from party

Hi all,

I have been trying and failing to sleep - lying here since 6.30, and succumbing to a nasty virus that's got me being sick among other things :-(

H may end up having DS all weekend and I will be lonely then :-(. Had a lovely day planned for tomorrow - shopping and cinema - but think I'll end up lying in the sofa all day instead. Bah. And I'm not sure if I'll feel up to the bus journey next week - I'm 36 weeks today!

Oh well, at least I don't have to feel guilty about neglecting DS too!

Anyone around to rub your shoulders 2morrow Miaow.My shoulders used to get sore 2wards the end of my pgcy,neck shoulders and feet ahh bliss even now thought of someone rubbing my feet[just had a bath so might attempt own foot rub]Also read today that you can give crystal massages with stones or spheres sounds very therapeutic and calming.Hope your feeling a bit better 2morrow Miaow .I also remember watching lots of bbc4 during the night at this stage and when breast feeding ,watched some really interesting head to head interviews.

maybees - unfortunately no, but I'm feeling a little better this morning. Had a really long bath and I'm safely bundled up on the sofa.

H has offered to keep DS but I think I'll just ask him to keep him tonight and have him back in the morning. Another night without additional wakeups should help unless I get worse!

Patience

Confidence