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ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No. 4

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 12/04/2010 22:42

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

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startingovernow · 11/05/2010 23:35

Happy, I know, I actually felt sorry for the poor sod having to deal with that but they had it coming big time........ Ball firmly in their court..........

startingovernow · 11/05/2010 23:39

Perhaps the airbags are just aimed at hooking your catch & can be conviently removed after same is completed??

startingovernow · 11/05/2010 23:39

A discrete trip to bathroom & catch will be left wondering wtf............

startingovernow · 11/05/2010 23:40

excuse spelling ......

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 11/05/2010 23:52

Makes note to always wear decent underwear just in case

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 11/05/2010 23:54

and buy new knockers knickers

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maybees · 12/05/2010 00:05

I thought that too ,maybe airbags are just a first date thing ....and what happens if one side bursts...could lead to escaping nipple

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 00:07

Happy, sexy underware is a must on your purchase list before next encounter with musicman. Motto "be prepared"!

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 00:08

I'm sure any catch you have won't complain about a wandering nipple Maybees.......

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 00:09

Happy, hope dc's have wore themselves out......

maybees · 12/05/2010 00:18

Its the t shirt and vest season ....i had to get new underwear but on very limited budget
but job done x
ps will just carry puncture repair kit incase of emergency !

ChairmumMiaowGoingItAlone · 12/05/2010 20:01

starting - good for you for standing your ground on that. They've always got so much more leeway than they let on!

I am so jealous of all this talk of sexy underwear. I want some! I've been too big for nice stuff in the past (was a 44H after DS) but there's a good chance I'll get down to the 38 mark which is where all the nice shops stop! At least by the time I can get into normal bras again.

I've having an angry frustrating day today. Feeling like H is never going to even give me a hint about whether he is going to want to try to fix things, and I am just feeling fed up of waiting, of being out of control. I'm tired, I've only got just over 4 weeks to go and I'm scared of being in labour without someone that loves me. I'm not really sad, but I am annoyed and feel powerless. I've started another thread about it but I don't think I've explained things very well.

I think I'm going to end up trying to talk to him, and that's only going to end in tears Hopefully I can keep it all in until I get to see my counsellor and try to work out the best way of dealing with things.

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 12/05/2010 22:08

sorry you're having a frustrating day

I'm sure seeing the counsellor will help though - a good opportunity to talk things through

when are you going?

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maybees · 12/05/2010 22:45

Hope you get to see counsellor soon Mioaw FWIW i think my H has put in approx 1hr in the last 6 mths about "US" infact make that 30 mins .I dont even go there now TBH dont think i will ever get answers or closure but my day to day life is better now than b4 so hey ho ....no doubt there will be lots more exploding volcano situations in 2010 for me and mine but none today tg.Have started a star chart for the kids and added my name.I get a gold star if i dont raise my voice all day.As i am fiercely competitive this may be a rather unorthadox way of finding serenity but i have 3 gold stars already

Can we start fuzzy baby talk yet Mioaw have you done all your shopping ?Have you packed your bag ?

Love to everyone x

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 23:03

Dumplings I have been to hell & back since last posting. I had the worse night in such a long time last night, bad nightmares about stuff exh has done(who I really loved & who really loved me) & my brother & aunt dying, flash backs, palpatations, night sweats, trauma & stress, nose bleeds, migraine & muscle disease causing chronic pain. Eventually I managed to meditate myself to sleep at about 6am. Faked it this more & got dc's off bright & cheerful. Came back home & meditated again. Then thought of Maybees having a bath in the morning so had a lavander bath for muscles. Bribed dc's with biscuits, icecream & a trip to the park if they let me lie down for an hr in aft. When we got back from park & I was cooking dinner ds fell out the back & split his gum open & dislodged his two front teeth slightly. Blood everywhere, poor ds shaking, traumatised & bawling, dd traumatised & bawling because she had pushed him playing a game. Have done a first aid course & am the calm type anyway so knew what to do. Also had exact same thing with dd when she was younger & fell on stairs but her teeth had to be removed as they ended up sideways. Am hoping now his teeth & gum will be ok in the morning but will get him checked or teeth ex-rayed in morn if necessary. Anyway, all in all feel like I had a mini breakdown but moved another bit forward in recovery.

Chairmum, read your post but didn't have a chance to see your other thread yet. It's terrible what your going through & as your due date gets nearer your bound to feel more emotional etc. Get as much support around you as possible.

Oh, got an email back from service provider saying thanks for my email & name had been removed. Lessons to be learned there me thinks .

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 23:06

Maybees, I do star charts for my dc's all the time but had never thought of doing one for myself. That's a brilliant idea, well done & dc's will love you for it.

maybees · 12/05/2010 23:13

Just read your other thread Mioaw and just to say I would talk to counsellor first before H .I always find it gives me a release that would be wasted on H but helps me state my point to H stronger and in a calmer way.

So excited about the baby Miaow ,big hugs x

maybees · 12/05/2010 23:27

FFS Startin hope you are ok now do you think it just all needed to get out.....I had a bath again this morning but only because i was smelly and too lazy to wash last nite.

Also bought more oils today lavender,lemon and tea tree 3 for2 at Boots on all complimentary thingies Rescue remedies etc

Well done on the utility wotnot ....have a bit of a situation pending myself but not heard back from council yet have sent a letter but im sure they will see sense.....eventually!

Look after yourself mate ,big hugs !Lots of destressing if poss wot about REIKI im still going to do it when i get some spare cash.

Hope ds is ok they always get such a fright.....will always remember the night the dog started bleeding.......poor wee love how is she doing has she dug your fence up yet ?

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 23:43

Christ Maybees that was an awful night with dog, midnight treck to vet & car covered in blood. She'd doing great, has given up on fence & just digs holes in garden now!

I think it's prob normal for the trauma of losing two people young & tragic like that so close together to come & go for a long time. Normally the grief is manageable but sometimes it comes in on top of me like last night. I also think I may have made a mistake in going to the dv group. It's kinda like picking a scab when the wound is almost healed.

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 23:44

Oh, I have been spraying rescue remedy in my mouth all day & also bought their new cream for temples earlier.

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 12/05/2010 23:45

hi been working again and just seen all of the posts

Maybees oils sound good

Starting sad to hear you have had an awful time - remember this too will pass. You are a wonderful mummy, a top dumpling and full of serenity .... there will be some cr** times but think about the curve which is on a steady rise upwards despite some blips...

Looked for quotes..

The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.
Carlos Castaneda - Thinking - Strength - Miserable - Work - Positive - Negative

Without the strength to endure the crisis, one will not see the opportunity within. It is within the process of endurance that opportunity reveals itself.
Chin-Ning Chu - Crisis - Strength - Opportunity

If we are together nothing is impossible. If we are divided all will fail.
Winston Churchill - Failure - Partnership - Strength -

Never give in.. never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force.. never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.
Winston Churchill - Strength - Challenges - Encouragement - War -

We shall fight on the beaches. We shall fight on the landing grounds. We shall fight in the fields, and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills. We shall never surrender!
Winston Churchill - Strength - Challenges - Encouragement - War -

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.
Charles Darwin - Knowledge - Change - Strength - Survival - Evolution - Intelligent

It is unwise to be too sure of one's own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.
Mahatma Gandhi - Power - Strength - Wisdom

It's just such a freeing thing to set these great challenges for yourself, to travel, to learn more about the world, to just go out there and get crazy and get free and get strong.
Angelina Jolie - World - Freedom - Challenges - Learning - Travel - Strong - Crazy

A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth, to say no. That's where toughness comes into play. Toughness is not being a bully. It's having backbone.
Robert Kiyosaki - Truth - Fear - Leadership - Strength -

I think that when you look at the great politicians, the two greatest in my view were George Washington and Abraham Lincoln, they certainly had character traits. You also know Abraham Lincoln overcame severe depression problems that he had when he was younger, which gave him the strength and the character later on.
John McCain - Strength - Problems - Politician - Inspiration

Through persistence, self-knowledge, prayer, commitment, optimism, a resolute trust in God and the building of your own personal moral strength, you can enjoy the blessings of a deeper faith and face the difficulties of life with courage and confidence.
Norman Vincent Peale - Life - Work - Problems - Self Control - Strength

For me life is continuously being hungry. The meaning of life is not simply to exist, to survive, but to move ahead, to go up, to achieve, to conquer.
Arnold Schwarzenegger - Action - Strength - Achievement - Life - Ambition
Strength - Weakness

Willingness to change is a strength, even if it means plunging part of the company into total confusion for a while.
Jack Welch - Change - Strength

It doesn't matter who you are, where you come from. The ability to triumph begins with you. Always.
Oprah Winfrey - Success - Strength - Self Help - Self Control

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maybees · 12/05/2010 23:52

I feel a bit like that re Alanon ,think I have learnt so much from the group,it has changed the way I live my life re other peoples actions in general .I know where they are and I can go back if I need support but I feel after all the peaks and troughs of the last 6mths I have kind of hit a plateau and just enjoying the calm TBH loving reading about crystals,I think my house is going to have some in every room .Just reading their properties lets me question my lifes direction and my personal journey,I love the connection with ancient times x

startingovernow · 12/05/2010 23:55

Happy, thank you that brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for those lovely positive quotes.

This is part of a poem I wrote about my brother & aunt

I picture a boy, his hand in mine,
His eyes have now lost their shine,
I know his name, he was my brother,
In this life I will not have another.

My aunt also said her goodbyes,
And now beside my brother lies,
There is a void where they should be,
And yet I know they now are free.

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 12/05/2010 23:57

Lovely lovely poem Starting

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startingovernow · 12/05/2010 23:57

Maybees, I had that with Alanon too. Found it great for awhile, but kind of out grew it or moved on. Likewise it's great to know the support is there if I ever wanted to go back.

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