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what does this text mean?

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teenagecrush · 08/04/2010 07:48

following a tread in chat which is now quite long ( omg ive fallen in love with somone ive never met)

ill sum up
we met, it went really well. Heard from him twice on the sat
sun he was online but ignored me
mon we chatted online on webcam for a few hours and he said he would email me something tue and we would talk about it.

email never arrived and ive not seen him onine since, though i know he is online ( can see him posting on a forum)

I text him a general hi message to which he didnt respond ( to be fair he is terrible at replying to texts, usually doesnt for at least hours if not days, not just with me, you can see from his facebook people always asking him to respond!) then sent another text later sort of asking what was going on.

then got- miss insecure

what is that meant to mean? that i should chill out and all is ok?????

or that he is a knob?

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sunshiney · 08/04/2010 11:23

best thing you can do is follow the age old advice of just putting him out of your head and concentrating on your own life.

the fact is nothing you say or do will make him like you anymore than he does.
however, what you don't say or do, has much more influence.

so try not to obsess about him. turn your attention to yourself and make sure you're happy otherwise.

Lulumaam · 08/04/2010 11:24

you both sound like you have very unhealhy ideas about what happiness and a good relationship is

do you have children? i hope they don't get dragged into any of this juvenile game playing...

thesunshinesbrightly · 08/04/2010 11:27

Are you the OP that meet this man and you got on really well?

Remotew · 08/04/2010 11:27

Which site did you meet him on?

hobbgoblin · 08/04/2010 11:27

god grow uppppppppppppppppppppp!

VirtualConer · 08/04/2010 11:30

god you sound like a right pair of obnoxious twats. You go girl!! At least you're taking him off the market so no-one normal has to suffer

Remotew · 08/04/2010 11:32

Vitual, trouble is he is still on the market afaik.

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teenagecrush · 08/04/2010 11:34

yes we met and had a fab time.
yes i have a child

yes its childish behaviour.

yes i know i will get hurt

yes we are both playing games

yes its stupid

yes i need to grow up and be sensible and think about things like doing the garden or the shopping or something.

but i dont WANT to. Im stuck in this game playing point scoring emotional rollercoaster with an arrogant knob who happens to be the most attractive man i have ever seen. I know its wrong and not healthy but the thought of no longer playing the game is terrible. because it is too much fun.

and i know ive gone insane.
he knows he has gone insane. we both know its nuts which is why at various points we have cut contact and why i dodged meeting him for 6 weeks when he finally asked. i know its not going to end up anywhere good.

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RumourOfAHurricane · 08/04/2010 11:37

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said · 08/04/2010 11:39

"and i know ive gone insane.
he knows he has gone insane." No, he hasn't gone insane. He's just sounds like a dick. But us saying it will make him seem more attractive to you, as though you are in it together. So I'll stop.

hobbgoblin · 08/04/2010 11:42

wow how superbly twisted and exciting for you

how superbly twisted and damaging for your child

pagwatch · 08/04/2010 11:43

ummm.
You are saying 'gosh , we are just crazy and insane and it isn't going to end well' because you are trying to make it sound like you are both in the grip of some heady, life affirming passion where you cast aside the hum drum realities of boring day to day life and give in to this overwhelming desire.

Actually you are just auditioning for jeremy kyle.

Original poster
teenagecrush · 08/04/2010 11:46

he has got a massive ego.
i have not been drinking.

i agree with you all. you all talk lots of sense.

i know it wont end well.

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Original poster
teenagecrush · 08/04/2010 11:47

whats jeremy kyle. i dont watch tv

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RubyPink · 08/04/2010 11:47

how old are you tc dear?

pagwatch · 08/04/2010 11:51

jeremy kyle is a programme where people shout at each other about who treated whom worse and shout a lot and treat each other appallingly and when asked they say
'but I love him' as if talking to each other like shit and being mean and spiteful and shagging has anything at all to do with love.

Original poster
teenagecrush · 08/04/2010 11:55

mid 30's
jeremy kyle does not sound like a good programme at all.

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RubyPink · 08/04/2010 11:58

Mid 30s! oops thought you were younger... but you're right about JK

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teenagecrush · 08/04/2010 12:02

i know. im mid 30's with a long marriage behind me a mortgage and a responsible job.
i shop in waitrose and have cath kidson stuff in the kitchen.
i m not some silly young child.

im just behaving like one.

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midnightexpress · 08/04/2010 12:03

I don't really know what it is you want people to tell you OP? You sound as if you've already decided how you want to play this. You know it's a bad idea but you're going to go right ahead. What do you want us to do? Witness you as you crash and burn? Which you will, as you have already recognised. Sorry if I sound a bit judgey, have been there myself in the past. He sounds like a right knob.

Defluff · 08/04/2010 12:03

this has got to be a wind up. You have a child ?? And what exactly are they doing while you're mooning about like a total arse??

Get a life. This is so unreal, you're mid 30s???

You know what, I'd say go for it, you're made for each other, but you've got a child. How utterly sad

And why won't you tell us what he does for a living that makes him think hes so special ? Cos actually he's not speacial at all?

You think he chose you because you're special too? He chose you because you're a vulnerable idiot

stanausauruswrecks · 08/04/2010 12:05

Im stuck in this game playing point scoring emotional rollercoaster with an arrogant knob.
No you're not. Just walk away. It's adrenaline that you're feeling because you think he's exotic and dangerous - he not, he's a knob. Take up an extreme sport, get your adrenaline kicks in a more healthy way!

BitOfFun · 08/04/2010 12:07

Have to agree with Defluff. And not just because she's scary when she's angry

Defluff · 08/04/2010 12:09

BOF - I've finally found out how to get rid of all this tension and aggression from having a 3m old a 5 yr old and a dp at home for Easter.

Bloody marvellous it is!!! Now tell me about your pool