Recently I started a new job working for my friends husband. We work together in an office in their home. He often makes innappropriate comments about what I'm wearing or what I look like, he puts his arm around my shoulder or rubs my back and will sometimes insist I give him a kiss goodbye when I leave.
I spoke to him about this last week. I made it very clear that I wanted this behaviour to stop and that it made me feel uncomfortable. He took this well and said 'cool, no problem'.
It hasn't stopped however. He made another comment today about asking me for a kiss.
I have spoken to another friend who I know has also done some work for him. I asked her if she had had the same experience. She said she had, and that in fact he'd made a pass at her. She is also friends with his wife, we are all part of the same social circle. She chose not to say anything to her.
Now I'm not sure what to do. I need this job, - I'm a single mother with three children to support. But obviously my main concern is my friend who is married to this man, and who I know has given up a lot in order to be a stay at home mother to their two children. I have no desire to destroy her marriage, but I feel extremely uncomfortable keeping this from her too. I feel like a lie has come between us, and that she deserves to know, but....
I like and respect this woman and I want to do right by her.