could you live away from your partner?

[whymummy]

ok,i'm really,really considering going back home,i'm missing my family and friends too much and is making me ill,the only solution would be for the children and i to move and dh stay here to work and come over at weekends,we've talked about it and although he knows how i feel he doesn't want to be on his own and he has a really good job over here and doesn't want to lose it,i don't want him to be miserable but i really want go so my questions are
would it work?
do any of you or your partners work away from home?
how do you feel about it?
if you were in my situation would you do it?

oh thats settled then, dh has no option hahahaha

my god,you'll drive him away from spain if i do that to dh he'll definetly stop coming to see us,lol

lol,i thought you meant your dh had no option but to watch reality shows i'm a bit slow tonight,i'm going for a long soak,talk to you soonand thank you

could cover yours and mine, mine will watch bb at a push. Anyway enjoy your soak. I suppose i should go and talk to mine hahaha!

Whymummy!!! Mi amooooor!!!! Sorry to take so long to find your thread, it's taken me two days !!!!!

Anyway, so there you go, you've solved your problem in no time at all!!!! You din't even give me time to post my opinion!!!!!!

OK, so you can start crossing off the days on the calendar now, yeepeeeee!!!! I know you are feeling very happy now, but i agree with you about not saying anything at all to your parents, £20,000 is a lot money to save, and it could take a while longer, or maybe shorter (fingers crossed) than you think.

So... now..... anyone in spain knows of any banking jobs for my husband who.... doesn't speak english??? Anywhere?????

Muchos besitos mi querida valencianita xxxxxx

your husband doesn't speak english cottonball?lol,is gotta be the heat that's making us all say the wrong thing thank you darling,i'll keep my eyes open for a bankers vacancy,you watch we're all end up in gibraltar!!
lol,lucy i came back from the bath and dh was snoring away on the sofa

i've only had 2 hours sleep [tired emoticon],fell asleep at 2 and woke up at 3,i started watching a program about spain on bbc4 followed by a "ojos de brujo" concert and then another program about barcelona and galicia,it's a sign
lucy i've found the escape artist website,is really good,didn't see any electrician jobs but i'll keep looking,cottonball there's banking jobs in there too,i've sent you the link

whymummy I am very, very happy for you and a tiny bit (but only in a nice way!)

aww thank you pollylogos,how are you?i hope you can do this one day and in the meantime your homesickness eases a bit,i had up and downs all the time,i still can't believe this is going to happen and i hope that once we're settled in our own home dh will want to come over and stay,enjoy the 6 miles of sandy beaches,the mountains,the laid back attitude and our love for life,i really can't wait to be all together and i haven't even gone yet,lol
i'm here anytime you need to chat

Thanks whymummy! I am resigned to the fact that i have to stay here for quite some time yet. My eldest two have 2 and 3 years respectively left at school - impossible to move now. Although there are some problems with dh he, like all mediterranean people is very 'hot' on family and the one thing that we have discussed and agreed on is that if my dad is ever in need of care at home I will go to look after him. I think this is one of the reasons we all start to feel more homesick as we get older. When my mum was terminally ill, again I went home (my mil was brilliant and looked after my kids here in Greece whilst I was away)

The truth of course is that after 20 years here i'm not 100% english either - sort of don't fit anywhere...

I can identify with not being 100% english too, pollylogos
at the moment, I dont have a home anywhere. I dont know where I want to live when Im old!
still retain the feeling that the Med is the centre of the universe though!

hi nightynight
is it just your dad in england?would he not consider moving to greece?
i meant to tell you that i went to halkadiki 4 years ago and it is very similar to spain,sometimes i thought i was there even the accent is quite similar,i kept saying to dh "they're spanish over there"and when i got closer realised they were greek,i couldn't master the language though,is reading it that's more dificult,i learned how to say kalispera,kalinicta,etc,i know is the wrong spelling

No my brothers are there too. One still lives at home and the other is 30 minutes in the car. The language is a problem though, however much we try he does feel 'out of it' when he's here, plus now he has quite serious problems with his sight so is better of in the enviroment he knows.Otherwise his health is excellant.

People here always say that Spain and Greece are very similar culturally. Funnily enough Ireland is also frequently described as being very similar in terms of family and religious attitudes and way of life in general.

dx used to say that was because all the black irish are decended from sailors from the med who married irish women and stayed!

Hi again whymummy,
Just checked back on this thread to see how you were getting on and so pleased to hear you seem to have worked things out! That is great news and I really hope it all goes well for you.

thank you so much footprint,you have all been fantastic with your advice
i see what you mean pollylogos,it is hard,my mum has just lost the sight in one eye and the other one is not very good,i worry all the time about what the future holds for them and just by us moving back i'm sure they'll get a new lease of life,they will be thrilled and i'll be able to look after them too.
nightynight it is true the spanish landed in ireland and married irish girls,also the north of spain,galicia specially has lots of similarities with ireland and scotland,wind pipes,kilts, is a celtic connection there

WHYMUMMY!!! no me aparezco en mumsnet en 24 horas y mira todo lo que haces!!! FEEEELIIIIIIICIIIIIIIDDDAAAAAAAAAADDDEEEEESSSS!!!!! (in other words, I'm very happy for you! )_

thank you chandra
i spent some time yesterday doing research,looked about mortgages in spain and i'm also thinking about taking a course so i can teach english over there,i want to get things moving and i want to get everything right,there's a house for sale opposite my sister that would be ideal,shared swimming pool,tennis court and lots of space for the children to run about,ride their bikes etc,,a new school has just been built right accross the road.it'll probably go but there's others that might come up for sale
hope you're all ok,i probably wouldn't have started the ball rolling if it wasn't for you,thanks

Hi, haven't read all of the thread but if it's making you ill you really have to do it. Seeing you dh only at weekends isn't easy but it is still possible to have a loving happy marraige doing it that way although I would say it requires quite a bit more effort from both parties. My hubby works on submarines and even when he isn't at sea he is only home at weekends cos the base is 2 hrs ish away!!! We have a 5 yr DD and an 11 wk old DD and it is hard def. but we still have a great relationship. Good luck in whatever you choose to do !!

thanks trinityrocksis good to know it can work,i was talking to someone the other day and she said that her dh was a much better dad since he started working away from home at the weekends he loved being with the children wheres before he found them really stressful all the time and him and her used to argue a lot,i'm glad to hear positive comments,thanks again

hi everyone
this is my home town
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i've just found this page,i'm off to check the webcam

aaarg i can never do it
have a look atthis

please work

After seeing the sandy beach no wonder you want to go home!

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thanks chandra
i know what you mean ggglimpopo,are you ok living there?