could you live away from your partner?

[whymummy]

ok,i'm really,really considering going back home,i'm missing my family and friends too much and is making me ill,the only solution would be for the children and i to move and dh stay here to work and come over at weekends,we've talked about it and although he knows how i feel he doesn't want to be on his own and he has a really good job over here and doesn't want to lose it,i don't want him to be miserable but i really want go so my questions are
would it work?
do any of you or your partners work away from home?
how do you feel about it?
if you were in my situation would you do it?

thanks countess
we really need the money he earns here for the first year at least,i'd love for him to come with us,he says he'll be working 7 days a week and long hours so no time to miss us(of course he will) and he will really look forward to his weekends in spain

he will start learning from now,sorry,i thought you meant for him to come with us

great. really hope it works out for you and your family.

thanks nightynight i've just phoned my best friend back home and we were both crying on the phone,she's so happy,i can't wait to tell everyone but i have to wait,specially with my parents,i wouldn't like them to get their hopes up if it doesn't happen

Come and live near me, my dh can give your dh a lift over the border

hey you never know,if i can get him a job there i'll be your neighbour,lol
does your husband come home everyday?

yes its about 30 mins away, the border can take a long time, its all very political but dh tries to time it so he doesnt get caught up. The good thing about it is he brings home treats like extra mature cheddar, yummmm

oh yes,that's really handy.
i didn't realised they were that bad on the border,still, 30 min. is excellent i thought it was further away.
did you enjoy the fire works?

yes it was great we are between 2 towns and they try and out do each other so we watched 2 firework displays on eitherside of the bay. Are you coming out before dh ? Basic Spanish would be good enough for Gib.

no

if i'm going to my village yes but if i he could find something in gibraltar then we'll go all together

great news whymummy

thank you morocco,how are you and your little ones,is ds ok now?

cherith what do you mean?

hiya whymummy
thanks for asking, ds is doing Ok, but it looks like we are in for the long haul on this one, so probably we'll be moving back for good, dh comes back on Wednesday for 2 months which is great news - mind you, I've got quite used to life without him

you mean staying here?i'm pleased ds is doing ok,is your dh back in morocco?
don't worry lucy i think cherith was answering the title of the thread

cherith i wish i didn't have to make this decision but unless you're in my position you won't know just how i feel,thanks for replying though

sorry, yes, moving back to the Uk, I just don't know what's going on to be honest as we need to see how ds goes when they reduce the meds again. Last time was resounding failure. Turns out that mostly kids with nephrotic syndrome have it on and off til they're in their teens. That's Ok somewhere like Europe, but not so great anywhere without the healthcare in case of complications (or is that just me being paranoid??)
Anyway, enough about me . . . tell me more about you - what will you do in Spain? Are you planning to work or to stay at home? When will you tell the kids and your parents?

Sorry im not very quick on the uptake tonight. Ive been flicking between Spanish pop idol and english big brother, no wonder I have lost the power of clear thinking.

i will work,i actually look forward to that too,i think i will tell the children every now and again till we go,iykwim,they more or less have listen to every conversation so they have an idea,with my parents i think i'll wait till the last minute or at least till we have the house and everything is ok,i've just texted another friend and she was over the moon although i told her nothing was for sure and to keep the secret i'm still worrying about dh,though
i know what you mean about the health care,is only normal to want the best,i really hope he gets well soon,i bet you're glad to be back with your family,specially now that you need lots of support

LOL lucy
how bad is spanish pop idol?lol

do you know, I'm really excited on your behalf whymummy
keep us up to date on all the house searches etc - you should try to get on one of those tv programmes about relocating abroad

do you know how many times i thought about calling the program???lol,i was that desperate,i do make him watch the programs though
i will keep you inform,thank you so much for your kind messages,lots of luck for you too

The funny thing is they are all trying to be David Bisbal, he won last time and is now mega famous. its about as rubbish as the English version but I just cant help myself. Reality tv is really big here, there has been one version or another of big brother for the last year and some go on for months. I also dip in and out of the wailing south american jerry springer type shows, all under the pretence that its good for my spanish

LOL i get tve1 here and sometimes watch the "culebrones" everytime i go home i watch whatever reallity show is on but always have to come back before they're finished,why do you think i want to come back?