He has left me

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And the children. Am broke and carless but currently don't give a fucking toss. So nice not to have the rows and stress.

If he was sad he would have got in touch. He is staying with a divorced friend and they are probably going out to the pub and laughing and planning his divorce.

I am someone else, but I am not cod

Sorry didn't realise it was your ds birthday. I would text and ask to speak to sort arrangements like bday presents as you are still both his parents. Then the balls in his corner.

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I have just sen t a message saying how sda we all are. i cannt bear it if he sends semething awdful back or he dosnt reply.

Don't think like that bigissue.
Break ups are never nice no matter who leaves who and however much there an ass. A night out will be tainted his pint will prob taste like pee and the music will be too loud and stuff like that.
I hope you don't mind me saying as I know you said you still love him and you would like to work things out but
I hope someone does pee in his pint for being such an ass for leaving you especially without trying to work it out with counselling or anything. Make that a pee in his pint and a nice big greeny for not getting in touch about your ds birthday either

if he has any clothes there I would do a suzywong

don't get worked up. If he doesn't reply it could be because he knows what an arse he is and is ashamed of himself. Same if he sends a stroppy text back.

You've done all you can for now.

He is an arse by the way - not ringing at bedtime and leaving you to deal with everything with a small baby.

No reply.

how old are the kids are they able to call him if you dial for them,at least if he dont answer then they can see that it is him in the wrong not you.Also regards dss b'day invite his friends over do a little tea of sausage rolls etc,tell the parents they are gonna get wet and to send a dry set of clothes and let them have water fights in the garden,bring them in or give them the tea out in the garden onm the patio,bring out the cake and send them home,cheap and cheerful but still a difference to the day,obviously this will only work if it is dry.Rehards HIM time will tell and one day you will look back and see this as the day the straw broke the camels back and either helped you make the break or made him realise and sort himslef out.

It's been less than 10 mins. he might not have heard the phone, and like I say, no news is not necessarily bad news.

Stil no reply and he always has his phone on. Feel even worse.

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Take your phone apart presuming its a mobile so that if you feel the urge to contact him you will have an extra few minutes before you actually can so may think twice about it,i know exactly how you feel you want to keep calling txting to get a response and feel worse every time you dont,i scrubbed ex's number form the phone,i didnt know if off hand so i couldnt call ot txt him.

Give him a day or two and he'll reply if not sooner.
Concentrate on yourself at the mo not the phone. Do something else if you are able to focus on something else.
How are the kids taking it all?

So wish i hadnt txted, keep switching off the phonr

Add me to your msn [email protected] and tsalk to me take your mind off waiting to hear from him cause it is torture i so know it!!!!!

Sorry no advice on d?h.

However,am a bit of an expert on how to have a pi$$ up when BF. can you express some milk and have a drink ( apparently 1unit takes 1hr to leave your system)? Also stock pile your milk in the freezer (keeps for about a month - but check this with HV) for drinking evenings. Then, when your milk comes in, if its painful, pump and dump.

As for a job, not ideal, but an Avon/betterware etc round could help out? and can fit in with your BF. Will help get you out of the house?

As for waiting for text. Turn your phone onto silent and only check on it once an hour.

Sorry, didnt see about turning phone off etc.

Have jsut sent new begging texto. Am pathetic - really losing it.

Your not losing it hunny your just hurting but please try and leave the phone alone as it will only hurt more when he ignores you.

Yes, I cant keep texting him. Cant send you my msn as you would find out who i am.

Your not pathetic don't think that way at all.
he is the pathetic one.

Please take the battery out of your phone and put as far away from the phone as you can. I'm sure if he can't get through on the mobile he'll ring the house phone.

Don't tear yourself up inside because of his actions.
Tonight and for a while you need to be your own best friend if you have no one near by. What advice would you give your best friend if she'd experienced the same thing and do for yourself what would she would do for you in otherwords look after yourself be kind to yourself.
Sorry if that sounds cheesy but darling I don't want you to tear yourself down.

if you want to contact someone on msn can't you set up a new one under and anon name so no one will guess who you are.

I am so sorry to here what you are going through

I only flit round mn and have no idea where to begin to work out who you are so you dont have to worry bout that if it helps just come chatwith me,keep off the phone it only hurts more,then that hurt turns to anger cuase he wont answer you and before you know it you have been up all night and cant function properly ffor the kids in the morning.

How do i set up a new hotmail accoutn withoug bothcing my old one?