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Am I too sensitive or does partner lack any delicacy

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Leka · 29/07/2009 20:19

I am scheduled for a pregnancy termination toworrow - something I am torn up about - and my partner jokingly referred to me as "murderer." Is this out of line?

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SixtyFootDoll · 29/07/2009 20:20

what a charmer
very out of order

FromGirders · 29/07/2009 20:20

seriously out of line. for you.
All the best.

kormachameleon · 29/07/2009 20:20

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flatcapandpearls · 29/07/2009 20:21

Very wrong.

diedandgonetodevon · 29/07/2009 20:21

Very wrong.
Like Korma, that would send me packing.

Hassled · 29/07/2009 20:21

That would be a complete deal breaker for me. You must be in bits already - that's just a terrible thing to say. I'm sorry.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 29/07/2009 20:22

of course

lovie why would you need to ask?

do you want the baby?

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Leka · 29/07/2009 20:22

Thank you _ I thought so to but he has a way of making me seem unreasonable and I get so muddled.

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andiem · 29/07/2009 20:23

awful just awful
deal breaker for me too
take care

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 29/07/2009 20:23

I think you should get rid of the man and keep the baby

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PerArduaAdNauseum · 29/07/2009 20:23

Is he 12? Seriously, this is immature, insensitive, words fail me...

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Leka · 29/07/2009 20:23

Yes - to Fab- I do but the way our relationship is going I can't.

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onepieceoflollipop · 29/07/2009 20:24

I am very shocked by this. He sounds a very unpleasant man. Leka it sounds like you are going through a very difficult time. People on here are always ready to listen and support you.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 29/07/2009 20:24

so are you leaving him?

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Leka · 29/07/2009 20:26

It's a bit complicated - I'm without a residence permit in his country so have no way to earn a living and no means of my own. I have to go because I hear him coming up the stairs.

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TheProfiteroleThief · 29/07/2009 20:27

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 29/07/2009 20:27

this is all wrong

PerArduaAdNauseum · 29/07/2009 20:29

Leka - if you come back to this - whether you keep this baby or not, please really consider whether you need this man in your life? Is he a positive influence for any other DCs? There's always a way out - being in another country won't make it impossible

xx

Lakota · 29/07/2009 20:31

Thinking of you whatever you decide, please make the right decision for YOU though, not anybody else. He sounds horrible, to be honest.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 29/07/2009 20:39

And a bully

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Leka · 29/07/2009 20:40

He has a daughter from a previous relationship who adores her brother and before he was born I promised that I would never take him away from her back to my country - but I don't know how I can make ends meet with not being able to be here (Holland) legally.

If I'm away suddenly, it's because it's not safe to write.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 29/07/2009 20:41

It can't be safe to live with him either in that case.

Please rethink your future.

kormachameleon · 29/07/2009 20:41

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