FAB & GLAM 10 - Gosh, Do We Really Talk That Much???

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Hi, new thread

Lovely to see all the old posters again. Don't go now you are back.

Annie/UC/MHIS - lovely to see you and thanks MHIS for the FB chat.

Oh Tanee Please take care of yourself hon. Don't let him drag you down as with him - that's what addicts do. Too damaged my arse - more like too scared to get help, too scared to put in the work. Hope you are ok today

LadyLush, thanks - I need the hugs. Even DP hugged me before I finally dragged myself off to bed - I know, deep down, he IS scared. And part of him wants what we used to have, but he's just to low and just to scared to make the huge efforts that will be needed. He'd rather run away, he's been running all his life and it's a hard habit to break.

I'm going to put my party hat back on there. Better now.

oops - that's better

oops meant with him not as with him

(hugs) from me too Tanee
How dare he treat you like this and use your poor dd as an excuse.
I cannot imagine how hard this must be but i do wonder if he is pushing you to giving in to him and telling dd she can't stay and you go to his mums.
Wishing you the strength to keep saying no. I think he may have further to fall when he realises you are going to stick to it.
Hopefully one day he will realise why you have done this xx

Hello girls. Sorry Monday was such a washout. Let's wait for the longer evenings and warmer days (ha ha). Then we can do a longer day/evening. Obviously it was a good thing that HW and I didn't make it or Annie would have thought that Tanee was a mute! Not that HW and I talk alot...oh no.

I am determined that TFM is going to meet us one day...TFM, there will be no winkling out!

Well, current news - I have lost 32.5 lbs and am back to a size 14, which is fantastic for me. I am still going to the gym, but it has tailed off a bit with the chillier days. I am intending to do the Race for Life next year, even if I can't run it all. H and I are getting on well at the moment too, which is good.

Tanee - sorry dp is being an arse. No advice, but a big squidgy hug. Say hi to dd for me and tell her I said happy Christmas.

And happy Christmas to all of you teabags. You all deserve the best time. xxx

hugs from me too tanee. He seems to be looking to you to make it better and then not allowing you to help.
We are here for you.

dior that is great news - i too hope to do the race for life but need to shed a few pounds first.

Weather a bit wet here now - but still a lot of snow around and in fact our road is very very icy now - i did manage to get to work yesterday but fell over on the way back to my car. Not hurt just a bit .

Seeing if we can all keep ourselves amused today without going out anywhere.

Merry christmas to you all.

Hi girls

Just popped on to wish you all a very Happy Christmas! I hope Santa brings you everything that you asked for.

I hope Tanee doesn't mind me sharing her good news but I feel I have a duty to let you all know that DP has gone away to his family for Christmas and Tanee is so looking forward to spending some time with DD, happy and relaxed!! Have a good one Tanee!!! xx

Dior, what can I say?? Well blooming done on your weight loss!! You have done amazingly well, I am so proud of you!!! and, I would love to meet up with you all one day. I think it would have to be a weekend job though, I don't think we would get through all we have to say in just a few hours!

Well, I must go and carry on the preparations. All this blooming work, mess and expense for just one day! That Father Christmas has a lot to answer for!

Lot's of love to everyone and have a really good Christmas!! xxx

Tannee - words fail me . I'm glad he's gone and left you and dd to a peaceful Christmas and good on you for sticking to your guns and not playing along with his nasty mind games.
Dior - well done on the weight loss and I'm so glad things are better for you.
HW - course you can come next time. It wouldn't be the same without you, and TFM you must definitely come along - I'd love a weekend away with you lot, but I think we'd all be hoarse by the end of it
I'm supposed to be doing a million and one things today but can't seem to get the energy. DP hasn't been to the pub all week which for him is amazing, this close to Christmas, but he did open the box of Christmas wine last night and polish off most of it then passed out on the sofa. He's gone 'shopping' now and I'm a bit on edge as to the state he'll be in when he comes back, he will think he's been so good lately that I won't be able to complain if he comes home a bit merry today. It is Christmas after all and if I kick off he will blame me for ruining everyone's Christmas .
I keep thinking that this could be our last Christmas together, and that his behaviour over the next few days will make or break us. I'm tired of all the games and wish I had a nice boring uncomplicated man who I didn't have to second guess all the bloody time.
Anyway, that's my Christmas moan over with.
I hope all of you have a great stress free Christmas!

New Year, New Man Ginny

You know, life is short and you only get one chance at it! If you think you would be happier without DP then you owe it to yourself to at least give it a try. That's as much as I'm going to say on that subject today, I will save the lecture until after Christmas!

I do hope though that your DP doesn't let you down over Christmas. And if he does then you can make sure that it will be the very last time!

Hello lovely teabags Merry xmas to all of you and the best future to all of us

I have had a wonderful day - my first xmas without XH in my life
(on off) DP is here and really has been lovely (and non demanding), my mum is here too we are all relaxed and happy
DP and I went out this morning and got the turkey and last few bits, no stress and no moaning!
Then he took us out for a lovely lunch and we took the children to see Alvin and the chipmunks!
No waiting for XH to come home from the pub, wondering what time and mood he will be in, not walking on eggshells, feeling angry and resentful, not being pestered for sex, not wondering how much time he will actually want to spend with us over the holidays

Dior, amazing job well done Am glad things are better with H, but a bit that you had to lose weight for that to happen, but as long as you are happy

Tanee, I have no words for your arse DP, and very how he treats you and DD how very dare he, I know you want to save him and this relationship, but I think you need to save yourself first (and your relationship with DD), I fear he seems determined to drag you down with him

Ginny I hope things are ok, though it seems to be you feel this has run its course, its just making that final decision ?? whatever you decide, you deserve to be happy

TFM, I hope you are you have given me such good advice and support over the years

HW, how are things with you, how is H behaving, I hope you have the happiness you deserve (I will reply to your FB message good on your DS, sorry have been a bit crap at replying lately)!!

Lily, how are you, are things a bit better, can you believe the babies are nearly 2??? DD2 birthday on Monday when is yours??

Lush, how are you, how is baby doing, hope you are all happy

And all the other teabags, here, past and present, we have all done so very well, heres to a wonderful xmas and a wonderful 2010

Awh bless you MacD I am pleased to have been able to support you. You did all the hard work yourself though and just look how it has paid off! You sound so happy and content, I am really happy for you And yes, I am happy, all is well here, does get rather dull sometimes without all the drama

Lovely post MacD. Have a wonderful Christmas! xxx

Happy Christmas Teabags, and thanks for your hugs and support. TFM, thanks for Everything! I'd be in a mental ward somewhere if not for you . Yes, DP's gone and I hope he stays away as long as poss. He bought a one-way ticket but I expect he'll be back... Whatever happens, I no longer intend to put up with his nonsense. He's sick, and he knows it, and if he refuses to get help and prefers to sell up and run away, then so be it.

I've had a lovely thoroughly lazy day with DD - it's felt so normal - I'd forgotten what 'normal' was! I've also gone completely mad and sent a card to my neighbours across the road, getting both their names wrong and only their baby's name right. I now have to pop across with another card saying pardon my madness, blame it on my extreme age .

Dior, FANTASTICALLY well done! You and I can share clothes now . DD says Hi and Happy Christmas back.

HW, hope you weren't too hurt. The pavements out here are even more slippery after the rain, than they were with the snow. I feel like an old lady hobbling even a few yards from my front door to the car.

Ginnny - oh - hope DP manages to behave - does he know this is his last chance? Wonder if we'll both be celebrating next Christmas without our current DPs...?

Everyone, thank you again for all your friendship and support, and may this Christmas be everything you hope for .

Happy Chrishmash ev'ryone #hic#

McD thanks for your message. I wondered if you had forgotten my fbook message??? Thanks i am so proud - he still wants to do it and is looking for work experience.

No i was not hurt in the snow - just my pride - my boss was with me and i felt a complete fool. The ice is still here in places - and our road is still not clear completely!

I am having a wonderful xmas - all the usual exesses!! too much champers and chocolate.

H is being wonderful and i now have a fabululous new commitment ring. It is similar to my engagement ring but it is a heart shape - blue saphaire and diamonds. lush.

Anyway see you all soon hopefully - i will be at the next meet. promise.

HW what a wonderful gift from your DH. I am weepy with joy for you (too much mulled wine lol). Seriously, I am very happy for you.

Hope the other teabags are having a good one too. I had a great time at my sisters. No word from DP - not even a text to say merry christmas, but I am trying not to feel hurt. My DD and family were lovely company and I'm now at home watching Morecombe and Wise, flanked by two sleeping cats. It's calm and comforting .

Lots of love to all my lovely teabags. You were spoken of very kindly at my sister's dinner table, as the friends who are helping me through tough times. God bless us, every one!

oh tanee - so sorry he is being an arse. You are a strong woman and he knows this - i bet it is a control thing. Even if he is not that controlling i bet he wants to feel some power over you.

Hope you manage to stay upbeat over the next few days - think of me with all the mess to clear up.

MacD what a lovely post. You sound soooo happy now, its fantastic.
HW the committment ring sounds amazing. What a thoughtful pressie. Bought a lump to my throat that did!
Well I actually had a lovely Xmas day. DP was good and my parents came round and his family came in the evening, but then on Boxing day it all came crashing down.
My lovely sweet old Nan went into a coma yesterday. She came round but her heart is failing and she has a nasty chest infection so she is slowly fading away. DP has been a star and driven me up to see her (2 hour drive each way) both boxing day and today and he's been a tower of strength to the whole family. He's certainly good in a crisis.
It sounds awful but I'm praying that she slips away soon, its horrible to see her so weak and frail and when she's awake she's so distressed and agitated, its all so upsetting.
My house looks like a bomb site, there is still wrapping paper and bits of christmas cracker all over the place where I haven't been here to tidy up - its driving me nuts.
Hope you all have a happy new year

Ginnny - I am so sorry to hear that. I hope she has a peaceful passing but it will be very hard for you. I'm thinking of you.

HW - have you managed to clear up yet? My sister finds that having a real fire is very useful for getting rid of wrapping paper, since we can't recycle it. And the best bits are saved for next year's parcels.

DP still hasn't contacted me. We have never gone four days without contact, even when he was touring abroad. It may be control, I don't know. His sister emailed that he's planning to come home today, so I am bracing myself. They talked to him, but he didn't say anything new or positive, still resistant to getting help and thinks selling up will sort out all his problems.

MacD, glad you are having a happy time - your certainly deserve it. Your mystery text on Christmas morning made me laugh.

Glad you all had a happy xmas , had a lovely one here too

Tanee good luck for his return then , dissapointing that his family couldn't make him see though.

Ginny sorry to hear about your nan

She passed away in the night. It was peaceful and she was independent up to the end so I'm grateful for that at least.
I've taken all the decorations down today. It doesn't seem right having them up now.
DP has just gone to the shop and bought me a bottle of brandy - medicinal of course, but I can't stand the stuff so no doubt he'll drink it. I'm too tired and numb to care now though, which I'm sure he'll take full advantage of

So sorry Ginny

Oh Ginnny, I am so sorry. A big, big hug from me.

I don't know what to say - "she had a good innings" doesn't help - the longer someone has been in your life, the bigger hole it leaves. But as you say, she died in peace and dignity so you don't need to have regrets on her behalf.

Ginnny - so sorry to hear of your loss but glad the suffering was not prolonged. Hope 2010 a happier year for you.

HW - well done on the ring A lovely gesture from dh

MD - glad xmas was low stress and that all is well with you and dp

Dior - massive congrats on the weight loss Another one you can exchange clothes with

TFM - how are your feet love? Hope you are enjoying squeezing them into glam footwear

LL - thanks for the info on the pool table We have been playing it loads over the past few days and ds is suddenly an authority on the game Hope you had a great xmas

Hope everyone managed to have some nice moments over xmas Look forward to a new meet up date