I looked at DH (work) mobile this morning to check who had been phoning him & vice versa. Found phone no of female collegue - rang 10.15pm on Monday night when he was staying away on business. Had a rant at him which totally confused him until he looked at calls received & realised I'd been looking at his phone.
He's now very cross with me for checking up on him & said all the ususal "hurt" "disappointed" etc to me.
Why is his female collegue phoning him so late at night?
He then said she is having personal problems & is under a lot of stress so he was listening to her. She was asking for time off - why so late though?
What really hurt is that I am off work with PND at the moment and DH has given me no support at all. In fact he told me that I was wallowing in self pity ever since the doctor said PND & put me on ADs. How can he be supportive to his collegue & so aggressive (mentally) to me?
Do you think I'm over reacting?
I am suspicious cos same female has txt him at weekends too (DH hates txting) and he couldnt delete the msg quick enough. He works away twice a week same place where all his collegues live so plenty of opportunity.
I even check is briefcase for receipts to see how many rooms he's had or how many meals - isnt that sad...except a month ago I found a bill from a travel lodge which stated 2 people and the same night there was a receipt from a restaurant for 2 meals, 1 bottle of wine and 2 aperatives.
He says I have been horrible to live with the last few months but this is cos of PND and to be honest I have started to feel better except I cannot shake this feeling that he is cheating.
I feel this is because he has been so distant to me and shown no sympathy or support.
My friend told me to stop looking for things and she was right. Now he knows I'm checking and is cross with me for not trusting him...but that could just be a cover.
I know it all sounds trivial but its driving me mad.