Please help my husband left today VERY NEWEST THREAD

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New thread here. Hope you find it BW.

I am gobsmacked BW.... really, sitting here with my mouth hanging open. I'm still with hitting him with a Solicitors letter that outlines all of his "offences"... leaving, OW, being unavailable, not being true to his word re: coming back when he said he did, shirking responsibilities, financial irresponsibility, etc, etc, etc. You don't have to have decided how you want to proceed with him, I just think he needs a giant stick of dynamite in the form of this letter placed firmly under his arse.

He is taking the piss. Massively. And you and the kids deserve NONE of it. You are not being selfish by thinking of yourself, at the moment, you are their only parent, their only carer, of course you have to look after yourself.

So he sent dd a birthday card. Big whoop. He does not deserve a prize. You all deserve better and he needs a giant kick up the whatsit.

(sorry for being a bit ranty)

Good luck at the doctors, I hope it went well....

How are you BW?
How was the Doctors appointment?

Good luck BW. I really hope that the GP can help. Don't be afraid to open up. What you are going through is much worse than the usual kind of bereavement.

I could bitch slap your H I really could.

How are things this afternoon BW?
Will check in later.
Thanks ladies for DD's birthday wishes.

I think he's back or she would have posted by now :-(

Thinking of you x

Am still Grrrrrr. The arrogance of this person. Lemme at him!

Hi BW hope the dr was some help.
Can't get 5 secs to self today but here's 2 websites that might be some help on recovering from an affair, the various stages of emotions etc.www.marriagebuilders.com www.pureintimacy.org. Gotta do school run ...again. Praying for you.

BW? You ok? Hope the docs went ok...

Well Botty if BW's H is back, let's hope that it is on her terms and he agrees to working things through with counselling etc.

I wouldn't want BW feeling too embarrassed to tell us that he's back. She'll still need support if he is.

Absolutely Lizzylou - BW, hope you are OK.

Think he is back too

We are still here for support.

Hope you're okay. Agree with Lizzylou. Thinking of you BW.

(long time lurker)

Hope she is ok.

Also hoping BoilerWoman is okay, sending her lots of good vibes.

BW - dont be frightened if you have taken him back - you will not get flamed and can always email me anytime.

Hope you are ok though.

Thinking of you too BW. I do hope that whatever has been happening today the younger DCs have not been upset and unsettled and that you are all okay.

You know that you have our support no matter what decisions you have made BW. We're all on your side! x

Hope things are what you want, stay strong.

Where are youuuuu BW? Hope your ok.

I'm thinking that disloyal bastard has wormed his way back in too....

BUT if he has BW we're all still here for you, I think you'll need us around somehow, don't trust him an inch.

BW am meant to be clearing up supper but have come on to see if you have managed to sneak on and update. I hope all is OK and that if he is back, you are enjoying him back.

Yeah - think he must be back. Well, we're here for you. Don't let him mess with your head...

BW, hope you're OK, have to go to bed now...
If he is back, then OK, that's great.

We're here lovely, whenever you need us

morning BW - do try and update us - did you go to the GP and get some help.

Remember you are in control of your life and you dont have to think what is best for anyone but you -you are the one who has held this family together and so you are the one who needs to come first now.

Take care and have a good weekend if i dont manage to get onl to catch up.