ok I KNOW i shouldnt have done it, but i did and now what should I do about it?? HELP!!

[upsetandshocked]

I have been seeing my bf for about 6 months, i did something REALLY bad & looked through the texts on his phone. Don't know why really just found myself doing it. Much to my horror i found that he has been texting a girl he met last week saying how beautiful he thinks she is & would like to see her in the future
am seeing him tonight & supposed to be spending the weekend with him. He has acted completely normally with me & I am sure nothing actually happened between them when they met but obviously i feel that if he is doing that he cant really be into me.
feel sad, upset & a bit cross & dont know what to do or say
Please help

[Jux]

You'll have to cancel your date tonight - it'll take you that long to read it.

[ridingjoker]

oh come on. please lets have another penguin. can we set them up to visit the aquarium this time? or bird santuary? or soft play on a sat. that would be hell. it would be packed and he would be sitting there like a right pillock.

[BottySpottom]

Stay in and read the penguin link. You will laugh so much your stomach will ache tomorrow and he will soon be forgotten.

What a horrible man ... penguin him

[BottySpottom]

Perhaps at some level you had picked up that he was not being honest with you and that is why you read the texts? Good job you did.

[SolidGoldBrass]

OK, so you told him you wanted an exclusive relationship. What did he say at that point? If he said 'Oh god so do I, I hate cheaters, I want to be with someone I can trust, I love you@ then for him to be doing this now shows he is a shit.
If he said:
'It's a bit early to be getting this heavy.'
'I'm a man baby we are all fannyrats'
'I'm not into monogamy' - then he warned you. It does sound a bit as though you take the relationship a lot more seriously than he does (and a really decent but not-monogamous man would have detected this and gently dumped you before now)
Have a little think. Is this man nice and entertaining and a good enough shag for you to keep him as a fuckbuddy? Could you handle a non-exclusive relationship as long as you are fully aware that it's not exclusive?
If the answer to both of those is 'no' then dump him, walk away and remember that it's fine to want an exclusive relationship, it's also fine NOT to want one, but it's vital to discuss this with a partner rather than just assuming that the partner wants what you want.

[Janos]

Honestly - get rid.

Yes, it will hurt like hell, you will want to see him/call him etc but - Dump him now.

He's already shown he doesn't give two hoots about your feelings.

[Janos]

Oh I remember the penguin thread. What happened there? Please oh please say the tosser got his comeuppance?

[Janos]

On my way.....ta very much!

[Jux]

Another penguin would be fun.... [strokes chin thoughtfully]

[Janos]

Shineon just read your updates [grin

[Jux]

Positive vibes to you Shiney - are you hoping it goes well or are you hoping for another opportunity to penguin someone?

[bigted]

any news?
No penguin stuff, please - nearly made me leave mumsnet

[ridingjoker]

hey op? so did you go meet him?

[BottySpottom]

Bigted why?

[MadameDefarge]

Not the bottom lip fetishist, Shiney? Or did you kick that one into touch?

[MadameDefarge]

ooh, good luck then, missus.

[Doha]

Thought penguin stuff was the funniest thing EVER.... would love another one.

Hey Shiney whenis ur blind date??? lol