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Original poster

okay, very personal question, almost too embarassed to ask.......

43 replies

lemonmuffin · 20/05/2009 20:38

I've been a regular for a couple of years but have namechanged cos i'm a wuss!. Too embarassed to ask any friends in rl so thought i'd try here.

Ummm, how long approximately would you say it takes you to climax from sex from beginning to end? It seems to take me forever and sometimes i end up faking it or we'd be there all night!

Any answers gratefully received.

OP posts:
BCNS · 20/05/2009 20:39

some time a few minutes.. sometimes a lot longer.. sometimes I can't be bothered.

Heated · 20/05/2009 20:40

[gets out stopwatch}

Original poster
lemonmuffin · 20/05/2009 20:43

thanks for replying, when you say a lot longer do you mean 20 minutes or more or less, dp sometimes gets a bit impatient and I wondered if it was the same for other women or just me.

OP posts:
FabulousBakerGirl · 20/05/2009 20:44

If he is getting impatient tell him to bog off or do you first.

Dior · 20/05/2009 20:45

Could he not get you almost there before the actual sex?

sorrytonamechange · 20/05/2009 20:45

lucky i've namechanged for something else

used to be about ten minutes, now it's longer and a lot rarer

I don't fake it but I pretend I don't need to arrive for it to have been FANTASTIC

BCNS · 20/05/2009 20:45

lord if I'm going on a long journey it can be hours.. and I expect my company to keep up!..

AnyFucker · 20/05/2009 20:46

sometimes it takes ages (20 mins and much more ), especially if I have a lot on my mind or at certain times of the month

occasionally, it doesn't happen at all despite heroic efforts

TrillianAstra · 20/05/2009 20:47

What's the beginning? When the kissing starts? Or when the touching of the ladybits starts?

sorrytonamechange · 20/05/2009 20:47

and it used to be always me first ..not any more as yes, we'd be there all night

but tbh I do love it anyway ..love the closeness so it doesn't matter like it used to

sorrytonamechange · 20/05/2009 20:48

"the touching of the ladybits"

rofl

BCNS · 20/05/2009 20:48

the begining has to be the look with the electric bit..

stripeypineapple · 20/05/2009 20:48

Depends on how we're doing it, there are certain surefire positions that work for me pretty much 100% of the time and others which haven't got a chance but I entertain them for varieties sake.

Sometimes it can take minutes(maybe 10) if I'm particularly in the mood and the angles are right, other times longer(maybe half an hour 45 minutes) and sometimes a lot longer to the point I know it's not going to happen because I've lost interest really so best he just finishes and we play scrabble or the like

TrillianAstra · 20/05/2009 20:54

I think I am a violin rather than, say, a piano. There's more to it than just pushing the right buttons in the right order.

sorrytonamechange · 20/05/2009 21:04

I am a trumpet

dh was the man with his eyes popping out trying to blow that damn horn

girlandboy · 20/05/2009 21:07

Love the image of a Scrabble board set up on the bedside table for stripeypineapple

girlandboy · 20/05/2009 21:09

Oh, and it can take me ages by the way with dh, especially if I'm not concentrating properly.

But much quicker on my own.

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lemonmuffin · 20/05/2009 21:16

wow loads of answers, thanks for all these.
Trillian, i was counting the beginning from the 'touching of ladybits' lol.
Glad its not just me then, i'm not that experienced so i honestly didn't know if it was unusual to take ages.
Thats a good idea, dior, about getting nearly there before sex, will try that, just need to get over the embarrassment factor first I'm no good at all this 'asking for what you want' stuff!

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poshwellies · 20/05/2009 21:52

Depends..

I would say between 3 mins (especially on my own) and 30 mins.Sometimes I just can't (usually after a few drinks),which is frustrating and sometimes I have no urge to climax either.

howtotellmum · 20/05/2009 22:20

anywhere from 30 mins to an hour but I am not the fastest and just learning

I read somehwere that the average is 20-20 mins for women.

howtotellmum · 20/05/2009 22:21

20-30mins.

GypsyMoth · 20/05/2009 22:27

too damn quick these days!! would kind of like some time to hang around,but no!

BCNS · 20/05/2009 22:30

I have a confession to make.. ( i'm not sure why.. but i'm sure it'll make me fel better)..I have had the ladies version of being a bit prem.. only the one and it was a shock.. it was zero to 100% with no play first.. grabbed man concerned..stopped him twiddling about..pulled him toward me.. and came before he got anywhere near... and the most awful thing... I left him to sort himself out as I needed to sleep.

only the once.. never again.. and I never did understand it.

poshwellies · 20/05/2009 22:48

I'm a bit prem too bcns,dh jokes about it but sometimes it can be very {wishes I namechanged as I feel I will regret this}

BCNS · 20/05/2009 22:50

YAY!! I'm not alone!! thank the stars.. {also considers that I should have namechanged }