Is the OW back in our lives

[sadhoney]

Name changed as know doubt someone will know me, DH was late again after a night out half 3 this morning he rolled in , this has happened a few times in the last 7 weeks.

I know that she was out in the town the other weekend where my husband goes out and they where chatting. He just got up this morning & went to work & now just gone out again like he does every sunday.

We are just getting our marriage back on track after he had an affair with this woman.

Do you think that she is on am i just being parnoid?

You may not want him to go, but you have to have some self respect here. If he's still seeing OW but living with you he is having his cake and eating it.

He has to make a decision. You or her. And he has to demonstrate very clearly that he is sticking with that decision.

And please, it's not just her fault. He is equally as guilty.

i know you want him with you. Have you asked him what he intends to do? Is he saying that he wants to stay with you but cannot resist this other woman?

honey, she is back in your lives because he has invited her back in

please please don't beg him

keep your self-respect

he thinks he wants her, let him go and keep your head held high

she is nothing to do with you

he has done this, he has chosen her ,after everything you have been through

throw him out and don't try to keep him, his dick is doing the talking now

he has been incredibly hurtful, he does not respect you

now respect yourself and tell him to fuck off to her

She should have told him no and walked away from him she is the single one why want her when we have been together for so long

Agree it takes 2. And he is being a complete arse, if he knows you knew about them meeting up last week, and has since carried on. Sorry but he is taking the piss out of you, and he probably knows how despeately you want it to work and will keep allowing it to happen.

You deserve better.

god, I am so angry for you

do not let him keep you on a string

I have a feeling you will

Why do you want a man who doesnt want you?

You deserve somebody who wants you. No reason to cling on to him. He has told you what he wants. Now let him go. Then tomorrow see a solicitor and get to know your rights.

Maybe he will even realize that he really loves you, when he understand you are ready to cut him lose, and he himself see what exactly he stands to lose.

He told me its not sex between them and never has been it just that they get on so well, they where childhood sweethearts

Seriously, he is an arse, not worth fretting over if he disrespects you so much he can do this to you, to your family, twice.

ah shite what a horrible situation sadhoney

agree though he can't keep you hanging on like this and you deserve better

where is he now honey?

honey, stop blaming her

the blame lies with him

did she tie him up?

force him to shag her?

give him a witches potion to fall under her spell?

come on love, go and pack his bag right now

don't engage with him any more tonight, he has made his choice, not once but twice

upstairs in the bathroom.

I have been through his phone nothing on there, i seriously dont know what to do between going upstairs to him or round to her

What sort of women does that to a family

stay exactly where you are

tell him where his bag is, tell him to pack it and fuck off

honey it is not JUST her!

He could have walked away, but he chose o go to her, knowing you are at home waiting for him. On more than one occasion since you have got back together to try to work it out. Did he dash back straight into the bathroom? Speaks volumes, sorry. And looks like he doesnt really want to talk about it either.

sadhoney please please PLEASE do not degrade yourself by going round to her - if you have to let rip do it at him, he is the one that has fucked over YOUR family

she's just trash thats latched on which is bad enough but its him that is to blame

I know but i cant help but blame her as he has never looked at another women until her, he loved me and our marriage was lovely. we had every thing and we where happy and she did come along an ruin it.. so i cant help but wonder what she has got that i havent

Is she married to you? Or is he?

She has strictly speaking done nothing wrong, so you have no business going around to her. HE is cheating on you. HE.

You will of course cite her as the reason on your divorce papers.

if they were childhood sweethearts then she probably reminds him of his youth - typical male pride and ego

you really need to stop blaming her i know it is hard i have been there.. but he was the one with the family.. she is single?

Something must not have been right for your dh if he was looking elsewhere, sorry honey. If he really and truly was perfectly happy, he would not been so quick to latch onto any woman coming her way.

isnt he contradicting himself by saying about her sex appeal, then saying it isnt about sex?

Sadly there is nothing you can do to make this man stop seeing her and stay with you. He doesn't want to, so he won't.
You can either decide that you are prepared to allow him to continue his relationship with her as long as he stays in the family home and gives you what attention he has to spare (some people can make this work, but I think in your case it would be very damaging for you) or you can accept that he is no longer your partner, and start dealing with things on a practical level ie tell him to leave and consult a solicitor.

He went in the bathroom as i had chucked my coffee over him as he admitted that they had made love last night this morning after making love to me friday night and telling me he loved me he then goes to her saturday, he said it was unplanned he just had an urge to see as she is just perfect to him, I know a few people that know her and they all say the same that she is lovely god i dont want to chuck my marriage away why does he

but you just said further up the thread that he told you it was NOT for sex? Now he said they made love. 'MADE LOVE' wtf did he really use that terminology??? The man has no thought for you. FGS get him out now.