he helped himself!

[notinlove]

had a night out last night came home rather pissed and slept really heavily but was woken by pain in my arsehole as partner of 7 years decided he wanted a shag and just basically helped himself!! I woke up as "it" went up wrong hole (sorry this is kinda tmi i know) anyway i was really upset that he did this whilst i was passed out! i feel like he has betrayed my trust by shagging me without my permission and if i hadn't woken up he would have continued!!!
havent been on mumsnet for ages and ages but i really need some advice about this

That's awful, what a wanker! What did you say to him?

Thats terrible - I hope you told him to fuck off!

Well speak to him!!! What does he have to say for himself?

Erm - he tried to have sex with you without your consent .

What is his explanation for that?

'havent been on mumsnet for ages '.....

You haven't been on Mumsnet at all (at least not with that name..)

Trip trap I wonder?

If not, then your name says it all really - get rid, I'd say.

Legacy.......think most people would namechange for this sort of thing!!!! That's not unusual

ILove .... I know (re the namechanging..) but I still have my suspicions...there's just something about the way it's written IMO?

Also, would someone REALLY need advice about this? Surely it's very clear...

• you're 'notinlove'
• your partner tried to rape you

er, hello, get the hell out of this realtionship QUICK!

That's called rape. Does your husband realise this?

Hmmm.... Where's the op gone? To confront him ihope!! With what I'm not sure!

legacy- i am a not a troll and of course i have changed my name...wouldn't you?

anyway he has apologised after i have had a go at him 1000 times!!

should i forgive him, or maybe this is just the final straw! i am completely confused, maybe i have over reacted.

You haven't over-reacted at all.

No consent from you = rape

The fact that you're in a relationship doesn't make any difference to that.

I'm thinking he wants to try this for real and doesn't know how to tell you or broach the subject...

I'm thinking the title of the thread suggests you're a troll.

If you actually feel that you've been raped, and what's more that this is the 'final straw', suggesting that this type of thing may have occurred before, then i doubt you'd be starting a thread with a flippant 'He helped himself!'

Aw,really? Another troll. Never mind,schools back tomorrow!

oh shut up on the troll shite, you guys are obsessed with it....ive come here for advice, ive been a mumsnetter since 2004 ok! 2 kids later and many friends made who now are real life friends and i don;t want to share my bum sex life with them ---surely thats understandable!

he wasn't drunk, he is generally not a cunt. it was an accident to put it in the wrong hole but if he hadn't of then i wouldnt have woken up as i had only had 4 hours sleep and a ton of vodka last night

Did he know how drunk you were? Do you often have 'middle of the night sex'? ie, would he normally expect you to wake up and reciprocate? I used to love middle of the night surprises, can't say i'd be interested now, mind, but is it possible that he was trying to introduce some spontaneity? alternatively, is it possible that he's been doing 'it' without your knowledge before?

rape isn't exactly a sex-life though, is it? Your breezy the is pretty insulting to people this might have happened to. I don't believe you for a second, sorry. Piss off.

tone, I meant.

It's really sunny out, why don't you go and get some fresh air?

sounds like a wanker.

'it was an accident to put it in the wrong hole but if he hadn't of then i wouldnt have woken up as i had only had 4 hours sleep and a ton of vodka last night '

Oh, yes, accidental bumsex.

Happens all the time.