he helped himself!

[notinlove]

had a night out last night came home rather pissed and slept really heavily but was woken by pain in my arsehole as partner of 7 years decided he wanted a shag and just basically helped himself!! I woke up as "it" went up wrong hole (sorry this is kinda tmi i know) anyway i was really upset that he did this whilst i was passed out! i feel like he has betrayed my trust by shagging me without my permission and if i hadn't woken up he would have continued!!!
havent been on mumsnet for ages and ages but i really need some advice about this

actually, having just read reality's post, i agree, penetration is a bit too much of a surprise to be welcome

I contrary to my usual view don't think ou are a troll.How drunk were you?If you were smashed you may have given some indication you were up for it otherwise you need to talk.

FGS, he raped you.

Also, if he wasn't drunk then he didn't stick it "in the wrong hole" by accident. It's not that difficult.

LOL reality!!!! Got summer fruit trifle all over my iPod now, laughed so much at that!!!

Not the right kind of lubrication anyway.

LMAO, I agree with Reality!

If you are serious, not a troll, then you should point out to him that if he did not get your consent then he raped you.

If you are not a troll....

then ffs- waking up to find someone fucking you... wether bum or vaginal- that's not sex,... well, not consensual.
Just asked my DP if he would do that-'fuck off what do you think I am?' said he.

I mean he would fuck my arse IF I WAS AWAKE AND LET HIM.....also he would have vaginal sex IF I WAS AWAKE etc etc.

BOLLOCKs . Name says it all.

If he fucks you when you are passed out.....

Actually....troll....if not you have a fucking shite relationship.....

Have not read lal the posts here, BUT there was a very similar post/thread about this exact topic a few months/last year ago.

Exactly same explantion- drunk DH and he slipped it in.

OP it is called rape and happens within and outside of marriage. Up to you what you do about it- it is not acceptable, but it's no good posting here- you need to talk to your DH.

yes i guess i do have a shite relationship

i have spoken to him again about it and he says i am making a big deal as it was only 3 minutes and he thought it was just a bit of morning fun etc. He has however apologised but i am left feeling like i over reacted.

Thats why i posted here as i know now i didnt over react, and i also wouldn't have consented to sex if i was awake anyway because my 3 year old was next to me in bed asleep!

weve had a rocky relationship, i decided recently whether to keep him or split and i decided to keep and weve been planning our wedding but i now feel like i have made the wrong decision, what shall i do?

"my 3 year old was next to me in bed asleep!"

Oh for goodness sake. Go outside and enjoy tthe sunshine, you must be re a ll y bored to make up this kind of bull.

yawn.

why do you even need to ask if attempted rape , whilst a young child is in bed with you, is ok?

Not sure I could marry a man who thinks it is okay to have sex with a 3 year old in the same bed...

Excuse me - she does know before she has married him that he will have sex with a child in the bed.

Just don't read my posts then.

He comes in my bed in the night sometimes it was not my intention for him to be in bed with me whilst i was so pissed, Its difficult to keep him in his own bed at night as he is in the same room as us

I am sorry you are getting so annoyed with me MS. I am only posting what I think and trying to help. I appreciate totally I am probably helping no one.

i don't think dp had intended on big noisy sex with child in bed btw but still i wouldn't have consented