I should namechange but can't be bothered. You all know by now that my marriage is rocky!
When I met DH we did it all the time. Since marriage and kids, it has seriously dwindled. Now we're down to about once a month, if that. It's been like this for ages - well before DS2.
If I don't mention it, he doesn't talk about it. Last night, I did mention it. This is what he said:
That he needs to feel an emotional connection to want sex. (Sorry, I am at that since we had no "emotional connection" on our 2nd date but he was still trying to rip my bra off.) In the evenings, he says, I seem to be like a "blank wall" and don't listen to what he's saying. Then we go to bed at different times and that's it, another night gone.
He says he tries to sit next to me on the sofa but I just brush him away, and hat I see to be in a bad mood with him quite often. (That might be true, but it's all just depressing me.)
The conversation just dwindled off, then we fell asleep.
I've wondered if he was having an affair, purely because I don't believe that a man can exist on ten shags a year, but have never found the slightest shred of evidence.
Any ideas? Could he be telling the truth about the "emotional connection"? Has anyone else had anything similar? And should I make more of an effort to "connect" with him "emotionally"? Help.