Background info, I am a namechanger and have been with DH for 10 years. He has always had a high sex drive and when not pregnant we would usually have sex maybe 4/5 times a week. He would like it to be much more, everyday or twice a day sometimes.
I am happy with our sex life and honestly find it enjoyable and satisfying.
Unfortuantly for him I would be happy with 3/4 times a week. We have two small children 3 and 18mths and the 18mth old is still breastfeed and we co-sleep with him.
Here is the problem, if we were to go say 3/4 days without having sex, DH turns tbh bloody awful to live with. He gets angry and sulky, hardly talks to me and is just a bloody bugger. At this point I will usually just have sex with him even if I don't feel like it and he goes back to being his usual happy self. I have accepted the fact that he has a high sex drive, but he seems unable to accept that sometimes (like this week) I just don't bloody feel like it. I am knackered and pre menstral and just want to go to sleep.
This morning was maybe 5 days since we last had sex and we had a massive row about it. He said that I was boring and mimicked me saying I was tired pulling a horrible face. I have tried explaining that compared to others with small children I think we have a good sex life, but he says he's not bothered about what other people do.
I'm at a loss as to what to do, he has come home tonight and gone straight out without saying a word to me and this happens maybe every two months or so. Yet last week, when we had been having loads of sex, he was saying how much he loved having sex with me and how good our sex life was and now all of a sudden I am a boring old cow and he is the hard done by man nagging for sex.
Has anybody else experienced this? or has any ideas what to do?
Written down it seems much worse than I thought it was in my head
Oh and I have said to him when we have talked about it before that couldn't he just masturbate on the days we don't have sex but he says he doesn't enjoy it and would rather have sex