Now many friends (not relatives) have you got that you could ring at any time for anything?

[Nabster]

3 in the morning kind of thing.

Three.
It's have to be something pretty out of the ordinary though!

Friends 4 any time, day or night - family none. Why do you ask?

None.

2

TBH I'm not sure I have atm. Not really considered it but I have a lot of people I know and get on with but probably none of them close enough for that kind of crisis.

If I were having a real crisis - maybe 8 or so?

2 or 3. Would have to be an emergency to ring at 3am though! Not just for a chat.

Just curious, Lovemyshoes as I have realised I have none.

1 my nieghbour, it would have to be serious though as she has children too

None anymore.

Nabster, I think i have none as well. Perhaps 1 but not sure. Makes me feel quite sad. Certainly no family i could ring.

It's pants, isn't it?

I dont have any really either.
But then thinking it the other way round, if one of my friends called me at 3am in a real panic about something urgent I'd try and help out, so maybe I have more than I think if they feel the same way?
No one I'd call at 3am if I was miserable over a row with Dh or anything like that though, maybe someone to take a child for me if I had to go to hospital - that kind of emergency.

None, but I do have lots of family we could call on.

ok nabster, I say 4 though, BUT I have only ever rung one during a meltdown and she was fabulous even though she works 14 hrs a day most days.

In all honesty I think I would feel unsure about ringin the other 3 as one is going through a messy divorce and one of the others lives at home.

About 3/4, but they live miles away and all have children of their own. I have known them for 17/18 yrs, my more recent friends, no-one really.
It would therefore have to be pretty major

Am very for those of you with no-one

But EdwardBear you have a point - when I was younger I was very shy and hated calling people up to see if they wanted to go for a drink or anything. The thing that got me over it was thinking, "how many people would I be pleased to hear from now, if they rang me up" - it was always a much larger number than I thought. I think sometimes we are too scared to lean on friends who would actually be happy to help.

proablay about 5 bt 2 of those aren't local..
one in particular i could ring anytime for anything and she would jsut be there.

the hters have kids and would proably help if they ccould

If it was a real emergency I could ring maybe 6 people but I would try to rely on family in the first instance.

1 really, but she has a 13 mo so I would really try to avoid calling her so as not to wake her ds. Another friend I could call but she's the other side of the country so it would be for no more than a chat. I'd be much more likely to call family as I have quite a bit near me.

Assuming a child/serious illness related issue ... probably 2/3 (all in our road, with kids). There would be lots of other people I would be quite happy to 'rescue' at 3am (iykwim) but probably wouldn't call.
Plus 2 long term mates (19-year friendship) who are semi local (one of them has responded to a 5am call before when I suddenly went into labour )

No-one I'd call for a 'I've had a row with dh' type 3am call. But then I wouldn't ever bother to row with dh at 3am when I can usefully be sleeping

Looking at it the other way round if it was a real emergency type situation I would be happy to take calls from virtually anybody even if we have only briefly chatted at the school gates. You would always help someone in dire need wouldn't you?

Me too.

none.

I would always help out anyone in need though. But I don't think anyone would ever need me.

and thinking about it, while I know i could ring family in the dead of night over a crisis (not row with dh though lol talking life and death here) I know that none of my family would ever ring me for help