Now many friends (not relatives) have you got that you could ring at any time for anything?

[Nabster]

3 in the morning kind of thing.

I have qute a few, while I never thought anyone would ruing me I am glad to report that when things really really matter my mum did.

This is an interesting question - I find it hard to make good friends but once I do they tend to be good one - in all honesty I think there are only 2 locally that I could ring without hesitation, maybe 1 other, and then probably 2 of my work partners !
My sister definitely but she lives 3 hours away and works shifts pretty sure she would drop anything...and a very old friend who likewise lives a few hours away!
It would need to be dire though

Absolutely none. That is what family is for.

I have three friends I could ring at any time for a Crisis Summit. However, they each leave 200 miles away in the city where I grew up, so no so good in terms of practical assistance. I could, and would, call on lovely MIL/SIL if I needed someone to be more hands-on. I am very lucky.

None

3 friends (4 but one has just had a baby so I wouldn't ring her)

None.. no family either, just my 80 year old mum

family - none
friends - 4 (but 2 don't drive so may not actually be much help if it's something urgent at 3am )

4 and I'd do the same for each of them too!

3 neighbours (although one has 3 kids and 1 is midwife so neither of those 2 may be available)
1 friend who again works shifts so may not be able to help.
2 other friends who would help are too far away.
oh feel, bit too about that

I could ring my 3 sisters, 2 grown-up nieces and my MIL. But if I rang after 10pm they would presume extreme crisis as soon as they looked at the caller ID and be discarding their pyjamas as they picked up.
But I have decided at the age of 41 and after many years pondering, that I just don't do 'friends'. I must have some vital 'friend' chromosome missing. I don;t have any.
[But with this number of grown up female relatives, it kinda doesn't notice]

About 7 but 2 not local

I have none. That does make me feel a bit and makes me realise that my feeling that I don't have many friends since I had children is probably quite accurate...

3

Nabster, it is pants. . I think about this every now and then, as DH very occasionally has to go abroad for work meaning i am alone with the DC's. I suppose there are a couple of local mums I could call but i would feel very uncomfortable doing so. There is nobody really i could call at 3am and feel totally comfortable about it.

I probably wouldn't phone up a friend no matter how dire the emergency - and my family all live hundreds of miles away. But in my experience most people are only too happy to help out in an emergency, even if it is 3 in the morning (as long as it's genuine), and so I really should be more willing to ask for help.

Probably 2.

4 ish

But thinking about it, if ANYONE I knew rang me at 3am with a cry of "O my god, ds1 just been rushed to hospital, PLEASE can I drop ds2 at yours"

or "Help help, husband just broke my nose, we need to get out"

I would help them.

No-one, not a soul, that makes me feel so lonely
My oh works away in india for weeks at a time, so most of the time, its just me and the boys BUT they are 16 and 19 so hopefully i could rely on them
Apart from that, what a sad, lonely person i must be.

Genuine urgent need - maybe 3 or 4, plus my parents.

Row with DH - none. Probably including my parents.

None

BonsoirAnna - and what you expect those of us with no family to do?

Agree, NAB - very nice if you have family who are in a position to help, but a lot of people don't.

one friend, ex-H(or does he count as family!!)

And my sisters - would not ring any one else, whatever the emergency

One but I dont think I wouldas she has hasd so much to copewith over the past year