Now many friends (not relatives) have you got that you could ring at any time for anything?

[Nabster]

3 in the morning kind of thing.

BonsoirAnna, I have no family. What should I do?

I have one definite friend who lives 10min walk away, a couple of other friends that i could but would really try not too (they have family of their own and a dh that has to get up and go to work) My family are nearly an hour away but would be the best bet i suppose. My biggest worry would be if anyone answered the phone. The only people i know would answer for definite are my grandparents.

I too think about this a lot, most people i know have their mums or mil close by but we don't and its amazing how many people don't understand that your dd has to come everywhere with you

Nabster, I know you don't have my number so that would make it very hard, if not impossible, but I would be happy for you to call me if you had an emergency at 3am.

#9but like colditzsaid i'd help anyone, and I now some good people so no dount if it were life or death and I could find their phone number IYSWIM...)

If its childcare Mum could help, but doesn't drive so if I needed her here- eg if one of the boys were hospitalised and Dh uncntactable (works nights) it'd be a no go.

Don't actually have my sisters telephone numbers. Have a bit of a phone phobia going on, only ring Mum and the onoe friend. Thank goodness for email!

Snap to you, oneplusone.

One friend texted me at 3 to say she had had sex with her fella. I wasn't best pleased about that!

You are very lucky to have family Anna. I have family but couldn't/wouldn't ask for help ever!!

I have 1 lovely friend that i could call day or night. She was birthing partner when i had my dd's and she will always be there for all 3 of us (thank god for her)

One, maybe, if it was a dire emergency needing physical help (have ds2 while take ds1 to hosp or something). But am lucky enough to have good PIL and could also ring my sis.

If a 'need urgent discussion' type thing, I could probably ring one of my brothers. In fact, I have done, thinking back, and he has to me.

I would help anyone, though, if they rang. Perhaps they don't know that. I know one of my friends 'doesn't like to trouble' me- even though she is very low at the moment.That makes me

I would also help anyone if they called me in a real emergency at 3am. Why do so many of us feel we have nobody we could call when so many of us are willing to help?

And thanks Nabster!

I don't understand the question

I think anyone I rang at 3 a.m. would help me in an emergency

and anyone who rang me at 3 a.m. I would help

onelpusone maybe it epends on your circumstances? I ahve sn kids for example whom I simply can't leave with anyone bar my mum or the one friend.

It's just the way it is for us.

morningpaper, how many people do you feel you could ring at 3am?

i used to say zero.
now, i have several friends. however, i know a lot of decent, good people, who, even though i may not really be very good or close friends with, if i was really, truly having a crisis at three in the morning, i would call on.
but i mean a real crisis.

peachy, your situation is different to mine. My DC's are not sn, but there is really only one local mum i know well enough and that the DC's know well enough that i could ring and say leave one DC with whilst i took the other to A&E at 3am. And not feel stressed the whole time that the DC i had left with said friend was ok.

four.. i think.. definatly three

and yes they can and have called me at silly o'clock in the morning as well. ( usually drunk and telling me i'm the bestest friend ever LOL)

If it was an emergency I would ring anyone I knew at 3 a.m.

surely any compassionate human would help?

I am thinking more house-on-fire than run-out-of-eggs

If I needed something local then I would call my neighbour, and by the looks of it she would call me (she posted above).
I have 2 who I could call anytime but they live freaking miles away so would be no use if I actually needed help.

That is what makes me so I don't feel there is anyone at all I could ring in the middle of the night in an emergency. They don't want to know in the day so why would they in the might?

I think you may be surprised should you ever need to call someone. When I lived in a rented house in liverpool we didnt know anyone on the street, but the night we got burgled they were all round to offer food/locksmith numbers/help. This is people I hadnt ever said more then 'hello' to.

well you have my number nabster.(i have had phone problems so if you have texted or rang me recently i won't have known about it)
i haven't ever called anyone at 3am thou i am often awake.
i don't have any family its just me and the kids, i have probably 10 people that have helped us out a lot over the last couple of years who have said i can ring them anytime, thou i haven't put that one to the test!

Hi OJ

I did text year actually and thought it wasn't like you to not reply.

How's things?

was it at 3am?!
things are going okish, we are going away on monday for 3 weeks whilst the builder puts in a new staircase and floor.
how are things with you?

JackB, you have a neighbour on MN ? (as does someone else on this thread, presumably) - that would be simultaneously nice and scary, I think.

No, it was in daylight hours!

Things are a bit up and down but hey ho, tomorrow's another day.

Hope you have a nice time away.

if it was saylight hours i might have been asleep! my body clock is the wrong way round i fear!
sorry things are up and down, i hope that remembering the ups helps a little with the downs.