Now many friends (not relatives) have you got that you could ring at any time for anything?

[Nabster]

3 in the morning kind of thing.

i once needed to go to A&E as i had hurt my foot. I phoned 3 friends (of whom i hv helpt in emergancys) and none wld take me - i felt so alone . Luckily my godsons dad took me - i was on crutches for a week.

3, but one lives about 180 miles away. The other two are less than a five min drive.

This thread really strikes a cord with me, as I was just thinking about this issue on the weekend. I was out with DD in the park, and suddenly felt unwell (been stressed and having panic attacks I think...) and I had this thought - what if I had to be rushed to hopital, who would I contact, who would look after DD? I have family members I can ring at any time, but they are not in the UK, so not much use in a real emergency !

I don't have any close friends in London. But maybe the answer is that we should all feel able to reach out to people who are not necessarily close friends. I hope I am wrong, but I think there is increasingly an attitude among many people that they really don't care what may be happening to people who are outside of their immediate family unit. That's very sad, particularly for those of us who are not blessed with a parter and a large extended family.

Not sure about this. If I had some sort of emergency at 3am ie needed children looking after I would go to our next door neighbour. Wouldn't call a friend (not even really sure if I have any proper friends, although not too bothered by that).

Would probably call my sister - she lives 15 min away. I am sure she would help but can't really imagine it happening.

2 friends to phone, but fair distance if attendance would be needed and 1 couple of brilliant neighbours that , if needed , would help out with anything and a friend down the road always happy to help, if physical attendance was needed,

see now i've developed a strategy here.
i have friends abroad.
this way i can phone them at any time of the night for me and it still be a reasonable time of day for them.
problem solved.

maybe one, that's at a push though.

Stealth, yup, she lives 3 doors up!

None. My best friend lives about an hour away from me so would be no point ringing her if I had an emergency at 3am.

I do have lots of family near by though so have multiple choices of people to ring should I need to.

In case of a middle of the night crisis you mean?
One definately, and perhaps one more...
So two. Yes, two.

None, and in an odd way it makes me feel a bit better that there are other people out there.
I have 2 parents and a brother as well and I don't think I could ring them.
Been tested, I have a neurological condition that if untreated results in collapse into comalike state. I had bad attack and collapsed with a 3 yr old SN DS on my own - when recovered I tried to think of someone I could call (because attacks tend to cluster) - and the list was a resounding 0

Zero here too.

Suppose exh would do it, but his phone is switched off after 9pm, so not much good.

I am releived to read that I'm not the only one. No parents, no sibs and no family. Not even got a best mate anymore

None here either, no real friends or family I could call.

One (possibly two if you count email contact). No, just re-read the title-1. Pretty sad really at my time of life .

But actually-having read the title AGAIN (its late, i'm tired,have work in the morning, have just seen our bank balance and had a few drinks to forget . None. I have one very good friend but a 3am crisis-it sounds like a family thing & I have 4 siblings. I would contact one in particular first.

probably only 2 now - but when I needed them some years ago, 4.

And my sister.
And my Dad (except that it would have to be really bloody bad to phone him now as he would be bound to think someone had been seriously injured/died).

Theres a saying where I was brought up:

Got one friend, and you are lucky

Got 2 friends and you are extremely lucky

Got 3 friends, and you are a liar

And just to qualify - these are friends that would lend you their last fiver.

that's a very interesting question as I have often used that as my definition of a true friend - could you call them without hesitation at 3am in a crisis and know they would totally support you

i have 4 friends who would get up in middle of night for me. the group of my mummy friends have all been pg with dc in past 4 yr. all have been on call for emergencies to watch dc/give lift to hospital.
this being due to all our partners working shift/ working away from home at the time.

as for familt members. i have 4. who have already on several occasions came to my help through the night.

actually, getting my family through the day is a real bugger. they normally cant leave work. night is the best time for them. they have on several occasions come to my rescue when i've been suffering stomach bug/food poisoning and dealt with my 2 babies/toddlers while i chuck my guts up.

i know i am lucky to have great family and friends. wouldn't change them for the world.

oh and i have 1 other friend who drops everything to accompany me to labour ward when pg no idea why this is only time she likes emergencies . but she's seen my fange in more detail than dc dad

Possibly 2. Does my SIL count? Could be 3 if so.
Very close to my siter though, so would probably call her first.
Like the last fiver test!
The test that me and my DH sometimes use is how many people, other than family, would you give a kidney to?