Is web-cam porn is acceptable?

[cherylfrombucksfizz]

just noticed a website called Sexy Cam in our user history...

seems you register and then 'chat' to the 'bitches'.

not bothered about DH looking at porn once in a while but don't know how i feel about using live women to relieve himself.

am in nomansland, emotionally about it.

any thoughts?

sorry... um... if your DH is engaging in this kind of porn, its an emotional affair.

Really? I would have thought it was pretty much straight sex, no emotions involved. Surely an emotional affair is when you start confiding in someone not your wife, decide you are desperately in love, but haven't quite come around to the idea of having sex with them?

It is a peep show and prostitution. The fact that it's online doesn't change that.

Yuck, what a skeeze.

this would cross the line for me. sorry

oh god.

i'm happy but oh so embarressed to report that he's not actually been getting his jollies to web cam 'bitches'.

he clicked on an ad for mobile phone ring tones accidentally when entering a competition online on a men's magazine website... the ad prompted a pop up for web cam a-shaggin. i was also in the bloody room at the time as it was only at 9pm.

the cookies all stem from that ad/pop up.

i've checked it all out this morning and he's right blush

that's why the web cam site disappeared from user history when i initially clicked on it to see what it was- it seems because he never clicked on it, it automatically deleted itself.

he said he doesn't look at online porn at all because he worries the kids will be exposed to it and has mags and some videos instead (which i knew about). i believe this because in our 11 years together i've never seen anything porny in user history etc.

it prompted a bit of a chat about our sleeping arrangements with DC2 and we've agreed to end the co-sleeping so we can get close again.

he asked if i'd started a thread about it on 'bloody mumsnet' to which i replied 'em maybe' and he laughed heartily and said he'll have a look at it later.

apparently he's going to join MN and start a thread about me being a closet swinger.

that's good then.

So you're a closet swinger eh?

phew!

arf arf

Haha, I'm really pleased that it was just a misunderstanding Well done for talking to him about it & sorting it out - fingers crossed you'll be able to use the forced openness to your advantage now

lol

someone mentioned adultfriendfinder below

we clicked on some website and had adult friend finder popping up for about a year

it became a standing joke in our house about which err adult was our friend (I know very silly).

that website is a menace for pop ups! I'd run a virus and spyware scan on your computer.

Yep, time for a good virus and pop up blocker!

i actually caught my dp having a wank while watching a web cam the other night.
and i felt really disgusting and as i now feel like i dont do it for him and i went to bed upset .
the next morning i got up and we had a row because he thought i had the hump with him i didnt i just felt unset .
i said to him that i dont mind him looking at porn and dvd or intrenet i have a problem when he is watching a girl on web cam and he tells her what to do as i feel like this is cheating ..

dpabum sad for you I don't think I could cope with that.

i would say if you woldnt do it when your oh was standing behind you, then it isnt acceptable

here here lou33

oh god dpabum... i feel for you.

what's he saying about it?