She's doing OK, thanks for asking. She's having a tough time of it (obviously) but she's bearing up alright, all things considered.
After talking with (well, mostly listening to) her yesterday I'm more worried than ever that she's doing the wrong thing, but more at peace with my own feelings too.
Mainly we just talked about how she feels but I was able to ask the couple of questions that I felt I had to as well. I feel I've managed to be properly supportive but stay true to myself too. Thanks to all of you who've posted, I couldn't have done that without you.
She said she found it good to talk and she was definitely more relaxed around me afterward.
I asked her in no uncertain terms if she is absolutely, totally and utterly sure that it's what she want's and she says it is.
I asked how she thinks she'll feel when my baby is born (in three months) too, she says she can't see it being a problem for her at all. That's great and I so hope she's right. Anyway, she appreciated it when I said that I wouldn't mind or think anything strange of it at all if she needs to avoid DC2 for a while when he comes.
A lot of the things she said did make me worried that she's going to regret it later though. I really really hope not.
She says she tries not to think of it as an abortion because it's so early (it is very early), that seems mainly to be because it's called something else in the literature. I've never heard of the procedure she'll be having, it's called an "Overtijdbehandeling" (bad translation = "overtime treatment").
She says she probably want's to TTC in six months ish.
I'm worried because she's had to make the decision so very quickly, she was a week late when she tested +,you see. She says if she had to wait another week she couldn't do it. The way she talks about making the decision makes it sound like they made a snap decision and hung onto it for dear life.
I didn't raise those things with her, apart from a genuinely accidental look at it not being an abortion. It seemed like a step to far in the face of her certainty. Maybe I should have done, I hope I won't have cause to wish I had
Anyway, that's the end of it now. I hope her dates are right and she'll be able to have the procedure as planned tomorrow, have peace with her decision and get on with her life.