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Been really put off new bloke, very petty reason

99 replies

StayOutOfTheLight · 24/02/2009 08:28

I have been chatting to a man online and we are due to meet up on Thursday. However last night he told me something that REALLY put me off but its so petty I keep wondering if it's too ridiculous.
He told me he has posters of dragons on his bedroom wall. I know how petty and stupid it sounds but it has really put me off. I keep imagining "comic book store guy". He does go on about mythical creatures and bats etc but until he said about the posters it didn't bother me.

Should I go on the date anyway or would this little thing put anyone else off?

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Pruners · 24/02/2009 08:29

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sowhatis · 24/02/2009 08:30

it makes him sound a bit 'anorak' really. guessing he is over 30 and not a 17yr old, in which case i would avoid him.

Niftyblue · 24/02/2009 08:31

how old is this guy to have posters of dragons on his wall

PottyCock · 24/02/2009 08:33

What a nerd. Does he still live with his mum perchance?

BecauseImWorthIt · 24/02/2009 08:33

Doesn't sound petty at all, unless you're considering going out with a 13 year old.

expatinscotland · 24/02/2009 08:34

How old is this chap?

Yeah, that would WAY put me off.

savoycabbage · 24/02/2009 08:34

People shouldn't really have posters of anything on their bedroom wall after then are teenagers!

It would put me off but I would still go on the date. My dh reads books with dragons etc on the front. And when I met him he was wearing a tie that was covered in pigs. But he is a lovely, lovely man.

Obviously I don't let him buy any of his own clothes now

nickschick · 24/02/2009 08:34

fgs go meet him - youre dating him not the walls.

sarah76 · 24/02/2009 08:36

I've had quite a few online dating experiences...I think if you're already put off before you meet him there's not much of a chance! I'd be put off by anyone going on about dragons, posters would just be the icing on the cake.

If you feel bad about it, you could always just meet him for a coffee. I find even those bad dates are good experience in talking to people--and I think it makes you better at figuring out what you do want. I had plenty of first dates that were also the last. Most of the time it was a mutual understanding that we just didn't get on as well in RL as we did online.

2pt4kids · 24/02/2009 08:38

Maybe he means arty pictures and he just referred to them as posters?

beinghonest · 24/02/2009 08:38

You could either think "he's a nutter", or you could think "how refreshing - someone with an interest that isn't football, golf and reading porn mags."

PottyCock · 24/02/2009 08:38

@ savoycabbage

doormat · 24/02/2009 08:43

i would be more concerned about meeting a stranger off the internet, rather than is what is on his wall
anyway they could be photos of his ancestors

PottyCock · 24/02/2009 08:45

.....or his 'best friends'...even more worrying

moondog · 24/02/2009 08:46

Ooh you lot are mean.

I had a fab boyfriend (he's still a friend) who was obsessed with crap like this.He still has a twice yearly all day odyssey to some nerdy comic sci fi shop in London and spends £££££.

Quite endearing in a sick sort of way (and he is also fabulously successful and rolling in it.)

oregonianabroad · 24/02/2009 08:46

sounds a bit strange... could be your intuition trying to tell you there is something not quite right about this guy.

Pan · 24/02/2009 08:47

Is he Welsh??

cluelessnchaos · 24/02/2009 08:47

Go on the date, he might be a hot geek.

poppy34 · 24/02/2009 08:48

avoid - its dragons on posters now, but it'll be reenacting dungeons and dragons in full gear in teh park on a sunday in a few months time..

altho that said a good friends dh is obsesssed by which she calls his "pixie" books...he is otherwise normal person so you never can tell.

cmotdibbler · 24/02/2009 09:01

I have some great friends and a DH who play Dungeons and Dragons, and some who do live role playing.

Yes, they can be geeky, but most of the roleplayers I know are lovely blokes, and its a not terribly expensive hobby that requires no input from their partner. And doesn't involve standing around on cold touch lines/tours abroad/unshakeable commitment.

When living in shared houses where you couldn't decorate, I had posters on my walls to make it seem more like my room and not just magnoliaville.

So I'd give him a chance

MrsMattie · 24/02/2009 09:01

He's a weirdo.

sparkyoldbint · 24/02/2009 09:05

What a judgemental lot you are! If you've enjoyed chatting to him go and meet him FGS.
If he's not for you, you'll know in 15 minutes and can leave. Then you can say, next!

As for the dangers of meeting a stranger off the internet, what a load of rubbish - it's the only way to date these days!

MrsMattie · 24/02/2009 09:06

Urgh - you're chatting to a guy you don't know online. It's best to be 'judgemental'. If your gut says 'weirdo', he's probably a weirdo.

Lawks · 24/02/2009 09:06

Well if such a ridiculous non-reason has put you off then you obviously don't think much of him in the first place. Cancel.

MrsMattie · 24/02/2009 09:09

Is it a ridiculous reason, though? Posters of any sort on your bedroom wall screams 'inadequate saddo' to me.