Been really put off new bloke, very petty reason

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I have been chatting to a man online and we are due to meet up on Thursday. However last night he told me something that REALLY put me off but its so petty I keep wondering if it's too ridiculous.
He told me he has posters of dragons on his bedroom wall. I know how petty and stupid it sounds but it has really put me off. I keep imagining "comic book store guy". He does go on about mythical creatures and bats etc but until he said about the posters it didn't bother me.

Should I go on the date anyway or would this little thing put anyone else off?

go on the date

men have all sorts of peculiarities (definitely more than women)

Women choose decor mostly when they get somewhere together - and you can secretly cull the bad clothes

Be prepared for him to dress strangely - hopefully he will have a nice dick you can focus on in the future

A poster of a dragon. I rather like it.

lol@Laurie & Lawks. Oh, stop being so reasonable!

I met my fiance online and it started with a long email relationship. I distinctly remember the first phone conversation - it was quite a let down and I half-decided not to take it any further. We did meet though and I'm so glad because he's turned out to be wonderful. I'd just say that if you're doing the online thing, you do need to meet lots of people and be thick skinned but if your gut is telling you load and clear that something ain't right, then listen to it.

As for thinking it's revolting speaking to strangers online, that really is judgemental.
It amazes me that people still think that only "weirdos" use the internet for underhand purposes and I assume it's because they don't know what they're talking about.

LOL Laurie

Go on the date, you have nothing to lose and everythign to gain. He might even buy you a lovely dragon poster for your wall.

Seriously, I have a friend who does the roleplaying stuff. She is lovely lovely lovely and I just put my fingers in my ears and go lalalallalalalal when she starts talking about dragons and maidens.

Hmm, I would definitely think, Jeez, what is he going to be like but I might still go.

He may have many other redeeming features.

A poster is often used to mean a reproduction of any painting or photo. I have posters in my house - they're just framed prints of paintings I like in, not the centre pages of Smash Hits showing Gareth Gates on one side and Atomic Kitten on the other.

Dragons have featured in art for centuries.

BeingHonest made a good point earlier

By beinghonest Tue 24-Feb-09 08:38:37 Add a message | Report post | Contact poster

You could either think "he's a nutter", or you could think "how refreshing - someone with an interest that isn't football, golf and reading porn mags."

as long as he has his own house a decent job, I would possibly overlook the posters until after the first date

I think you have to add 'men who wank into socks and leave them lying around' to that list Reality

I'd take a gay collection of Barbies over that

It would ring alarm bells for me BUT would still go. We are all a bit nuts and a bit nerdy in our own way. Many of the things I love about my DH are what others might consider a bit wacko and nerdy

Agree that there is nothing wrong with making friendships online. What is mumsnet partly about fgs?????

I work in a home office in a specialist subject area and so rely heavily on forums to keep in contact and make professional links, support and help from others. I have also made some great friends totally unrelated to work and they play a hugely important role in my life - even though I have never met them. Not so different from the idea of penpals a few decades ago.

I think all the chat rooms and stalking of children stories in the media have given online friendship making (of all it?s kinds of friendship available, not just about sex) has led to a lot of prejudiced people out there.

I'm intrigued how he 'goes on about mythical creatures and bats'! What sort of things does he say?

Well said Lemontart - how funny that people who are on here all the time, think only weirdos communicate online....

I don't personally think that it's 'weird' to meet people from the web, but I don't think you can compare it to MN
I am on here loads at the moment. However, I personally would never meet up with anyone from MN (it just doesn't serve that particular purpose in my life, and I think I am in the majority of MN users) ....and would never dream of meeting a man online. I don't judge those who do and I know it's much more acceptable these days, but for me...nah. No way. Dragon posters or not

I digress, but just wanted to say, like

Mrs Mattie I think you are showing your age! you sound like my mum "I am not judging you, dear, you run along with the young ones and do your own thing, after all almost anything is acceptable these days, you won?t catch me doing it though..."

(only teasing!)

Oi! I'm only 31!

I am married to a geek
everyone thought his hobbies of roleplaying and sci fi, comic collecting were wierd
I did too tbh
we now have 2 kids and tbh his hobbies take up a large chunk of our lives
I naively thought he'd outrow them but he didn't

my mum thinks its good he has his own hobbies and doesn't spend every weekend down the pub getting pissed with his mates and watching footie so I guess that's a different slant on it

all men have obsessions , some have beer, footie, golf, DIY, some like fantasy and sci fi, Lord of the rings and comics
there is no such thing as the perfect man

You should go anyway as you really cannot tell unless you meet face to face. Anyway you might hit it off and end up getting jiggy with him and at least you'll have something to look at on the wall whilst he is busy at it..
Hmmm, nice dragons...

I am also married to a geek - can have fringe benefits - DS sometimes likes to go to the bus station to watch buses with Daddy whilst I go shopping . My mum would say very similar Lucy LOL.

Meet him for coffee, then if you are still put off by the geekiness, move on.

I once dumped a guy because he said he had a bought a pair of chinos I don't know why it made me cringe .It was years ago though has when I was young,beautiful and thin [sigh].

Posters are odd my uncle who still lives with his mum has posters up and he is 50 !

My dp moved in with me with a whole collection of those Myth and magic things and wanted to display them in the living room . Ds has some on his shelves now and the rest I think are on top of our wardrobe .

I think I would prefer a bloke with dragon posters to some football obsessed bore!