Been really put off new bloke, very petty reason

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I have been chatting to a man online and we are due to meet up on Thursday. However last night he told me something that REALLY put me off but its so petty I keep wondering if it's too ridiculous.
He told me he has posters of dragons on his bedroom wall. I know how petty and stupid it sounds but it has really put me off. I keep imagining "comic book store guy". He does go on about mythical creatures and bats etc but until he said about the posters it didn't bother me.

Should I go on the date anyway or would this little thing put anyone else off?

When I met dh he had posters of films (pulp fiction for example) up on doors around the flat. It could be 'cool'???

He's in his 30s, has custody of his daughter and doesn't live with his parents But I don't know, I think I was becomming put off him anyway

See I'm currently chatting to 3 men.

"Comic book store guy"
"Sexy" and
"Stalker"

These names I gave them very half heartedly. Obviously I'm more interested in Sexy rather than the other two but my low self esteem tells me it won't go anywhere with him.

Comic book store guy seems nice and genuine, safe IYSWIM? but to be honest I do find him a bit boring. I told him my son liked space and he started rattling on about stars and the formations and consolations etc. I know he was just trying to take an interest but I switched off after a while and he didn't even seem to notice. Mythical creatures was down as one of his interests on the actual site. I should have known then.

Stalker is very full on. I made the mistake of giving him my mobile number. The very next day he sent me about 6 texts:

"Hi, enjoyed chatting last night, what you upto today?"

"Hi again, you busy today?"

"Hi, are you getting my texts?"

"Hey, its me from last night. Just wondered how you are? you not talking now?"

"Not sure if you're getting my texts or not, are you available to chat? let me know please"

He then phoned 4 times. (I left the phone at home, this is how I came home to a shit load of messages and missed calls).

Maybe I should just give up and bcome a crazy cat lady.

Being a crazy cat lady sounds fun! Go for it

Stalker sounds awful. Cut him off imm; even Comic Book Boy would be better.

You need to join the thread on lone parents about available, fit and interestig men - it's alot about online stuff.

I still think it's worth meeting Comic Book Boy just for a coffee - as he may be really attractive in real life, and conversely Sexy may not be as attractive.

Hmmm, can see where you're coming from but definitely go and leave early if he's not your type. Sounds better than Stalker too - don't like the sound of him at all - has he no pride? Have you seen the film The Jane Austen Book Club - lovely geek with, er, dubious boyish taste(model robots, loves halloween, loves Sci Fi etc) wins the day outright!

Well just checked my phone and Stalker has sent two texts this morning already:

"Hi, what you upto today?"

"Hi, hope you're talking today lol"

FFS, just replied and said I was busy. What a nut and how dopey of me to give away my mobile number. I'm usually much more careful.

People who are into the type of interests mundanes are encouraged to laugh at, are often far nicer and more interesting people to spend time with than boring herd animals desperate to fit in. Give the dragon-poster guy a chance, he might be lovely. And if he;s not, what have you lost apart from one afternoon/evening?

And I'd advise telling Stalker that you don;t want to meet him thanks, and to stop contacting you then don't reply to any more of his messages and calls. Remember that you don't owe him anything, and there is no reason why you should communicate with him when his behaviour is off-putting.

Comic Book Boy has got my vote

Def need to tell Stalker to stop texting. Tell him that you are happy to chat online but that the constant texting is too much. Be honest and hopefully he will get the hint

Ok but if he turns up in a Superman Costume, I'm blaming you lot!

You could be his Louis Laine

Message withdrawn

What's wrong with dragons ???

"He does go on about mythical creatures and bats etc"

SPRAY!

Is he Napoleon Dynamite?

Is he Merlin?????

Come on, I'm not going to be able to keep a straight face when I meet him if you carry this on

Hope he isn't a lord of the rings fan, I hate that!

Also, my texts from Stalker total 3 today now. Is there anyway to block people from your mobile? He sounds the type to become nasty if I just tell him to stop texting. He starts getting arsey if I don't answer quickly enough

internet dating? Posters of dragons?
Mythical beasts?

um, DER!

"I once dumped a guy because he said he had a bought a pair of chinos"

HOOT

I wouldn't worry about 'stalker' getting arsey. He doesn't know where you live after all. Just ignore his texts or reply with something curt and snappy - 'I'm at work - not able to text or chat'.

I met DH online. He has no dragon posters but does play games online and definitely qualifies as a geek. How boring the world would be if we all liked the same things!

I'd take comic boy over the stalker any day!

Ignore the texts, erase him from your friends list or whatever and never speak to him again.

Send the stalker one text saying, basically 'DO not contact me again. I do not want any further contact from you' and de-list him from your site friends. If he continues after that, send another text saying 'I do not want any further contact from you. If you do not stop texting and phoning me the police will be informed.'
And if he is loopy enough to persist after that, report him for stalking and harassment. Because, basically, an OK-but-desperate-and-clingy bloke will stop after the first such message, might mutter to his mates about what bitches some women are but will then put it behind him. Someone who persists and turns abusive after being told clearly to leave you alone is quite likely to be potentially dangerous and needs the equivalent of a sharp slap.

Apropos of nothing really, I once dumped a chap I was dating beacuse I saw his CD collection. he used to bang on and on about being such a music lover, when it came to it he had three CDs: Five Star, Kylie's second album and the soundtrack to Beaches. I decided then that he wasn't normal.

OP - i think that geeky boy sounds quite sweet, talking about stars etc when he found out your DC liked them. Meet him - he might be really good looking nice.

If I ever finish with DP I am screwed, I couldn't be arsed with all this dating mullarkey

i have a friend who has an album of bonnie tyler and meatloaf duets

have told him no wonder he is single

at bad CDs.
Pan,whaddya mean, is he Welsh??

It's Southern boys who like that sort of dungeon and dragons malarkey.