For those that like to gloat, please do. I deserve it!

[Fizzfiend]

Just been texting my OM. He is unavailable for a couple days next week as he is seeing his proper girlfriend (I am just the bit on the side). I didn't know he was still seeing her. He has just left his DP (with whom he has 2 kids). What a mess. Have been in floods of tears. DH has not bothered me...that's another conversation I need to have (our marriage isn't working, etc). Bloody hell...you women with nice DHs are SO lucky! Please give them a hug. I am so fucked. Nobody loves me (aaaah!) Well my dd does. If I were a weaker person I would be throwing myself off a cliff right now. But time for another vodka so I can toast the New Year in by myself with my goldfish.

so is his silence going to continue until you terminate... what an awful situation. You know that it won't save a doomed relationship....... poor you.

After the baby comes, it will all seem better. A new life has a way of making people draw back in their knives. Maybe bits of your life will be awkward, but it'll get easier.

Don't be afraid of being single. Being single isn't even a tenth as bad as the tightrope you're walking right now.

I really think your husband is being really mean to say he won't discuss if you will work at your marriage until you abort the baby. Sorry, but that is blackmail.

How many weeks are you and is there any reason at all that you would terminate the pregnancy?

I know being single can see incomprehensible (as an option) when you mix with only couples. But it isn't such a crazy choice. I would say that, I'm single, and for entirely different reasons, but despite the fact that all my other friends are married and smug !! and think that a problem is when you can't get the particular laura ashley fabric you were after... it is STILL easier to be single. Being single isn't to be feared, especially if what you've come from wasn't good.

That's a pointlessly horrible thing for him to say to you. You are going through what sounds like an absolute nightmare right now and you sound calm and strong to me, not cold.

nothing to say but

serious now for a minute - what are you going to do?

What would your ideal scenario be SOcial, if you could wave a magic wand?

Sounds like a plan, except for the decking her.

Break off contact with the OM. Let him come to you if he has the balls to take on a hatchet face . Let him bloody well fight for you.

good night for now

back tomorrow

hope you get some sleep

Thanks night.

Good. at least you know what you want.

You can imagine yourselves content, you the children and your baby?

Agree, back off from OM. He maybe wonderful company but as I've discovered the hard way that is different from being a wonderful man.

Be strong, sort out your own interests and then if he comes back you can afford to insist it's on your terms.

g'night social.

night liffey

have to say I agree with sitting bull - if my DH got any of my good friend's PG think I'ld be acting a bit unhinged or unfairly, and it would be quite justified.

Do the best you can for you and all your kids - that much you can control, if not the reactions of the men in your life.

You really can't depend on your OM, by the sound of it. ANd while your husband is understandably not happy about you being PG, he shouldn't pressure you to terminate. I think you might be better off making plans to live without either of these men, neither of whom sounds like much of a prize anyway.

Oh, and maybe the OM's wife is a bitch - being cheated on doesn't make you a saint - but there's not much you can do about her except avoid her.

sp, were you actively trying for a baby with OM ?

did he know that ?

I am very confused

Morning.

How are you feeling this morning, sp?

Anyfucker, her coil failed. Sorry to answer for you sp.