Have just given the OW a real talking to on the phone !!!!

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I have been away for the weekend and left kids with H. Came back to be told by him that OW (who has been involved in the break down of our relationship)had dropped in for a cup of tea this afternoon!!. I had told H in no uncertain terms that I wasnt prepared to expose our poor kids to this, especially when they are still really unsettled about what has happened to them. I gave H a real bollocking and have rung OW and told her in no uncertain terms to stay away from my family or I will come and have a chat with her H. She is still married and intends to stay with her H and kids. My H is just a fling, she didnt seem to realise I am now divorcing him for adultery! She has just rung back in tears to try to apologise, I think she is now scared shitless. Am fuming Help me calm down!!!

Go Girl! (sorry about your marriage though).

Hm, just realised I am supposed to be calming you down.

Sorry.

So she should be scared shitless, and your H is beyond belief even thinking inviting her around for tea with the kids was in any way, on any planet, acceptable. Good for you - just focus on the divorce and the fact that soon you will have a much happier life.

Don't calm down too fast - Your anger is healthy in this situation and maybe your H and this woman need to see it and realise that you are serious and that your kids come first in every way.

Breath! And give H another stare, if he is still there.

apologise for what? sleeping with your husband??? Is she surprised to hear that she did this?
Or maybe she thought it wouldn't wreck your marriage (because who'd have thought?!!)
God so for you!

Good on yer!!

I know you're in a state right now, but I think in the days and weeks to come you'll be glad you were brave enough to confront her. Empowering for you!

Blardy hell! Bit late apologising now, she is obv shitting herself. Tell her you might just call round to her place for a cup of tea and a chat with her dh to put him in the picture.

If she phones again, tell her to put the kettle on and you'll be round with the Rich Tea biscuits soon...

yes, make her nervous....'just a fling', does your dh realise that?

i think you should tell him anyway

Tell her you've packed your husband's suitcase and he's moving in

Thanks soo much. He does know that I phoned her as I told him I was going to. They both sound really scared and I feel soooo much better for drawing a line in the sand. I know my relationship is fKd but I will not let them drag my kids down in a whole pile of adult shit.

Thanks soo much. He does know that I phoned her as I told him I was going to. They both sound really scared and I feel soooo much better for drawing a line in the sand. I know my relationship is fKd but I will not let them drag my kids down in a whole pile of adult shit.

ooops have been on the phone and now had a bit too much to drink!!

I think I'd better finish ironing school uniform before I'm too drunk too care!!!!

She lives a very long way away. I agree she doesnt really care, she is just scared. But I think in the circumstances that is OK. and if this carries on I really mean it

Pass the iron

Oh please do a husband a favour and tell him what a shitbag he is married to.

So angry for you.

that should be: Oh please do her husband a favour ...

look, I was county cricket-ball-throwing champion at 11 and won the wellie-boot-chuck at a fete in gloucestshire once. I am a seriously good thrower (father a county criket player or somthing when he wasn't shouting) so give me that iron...I bet I can get it in the middle of her winter pansies from here...

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Thank you UA. I am torn about whether I should tell her husband anyway although i have heard he is ill with cancer (how nice!)
I might talk to my H's parents though as I need someone who cares about our kids to lean on him a bit

Do tell his parents.

I have a friend that started cheating on her dh, bringing a lover to their marital bed while her husband was in hospital for a few weeks. I think it is quite common.

I am now an amalgamation of quint and unlikely. Believe in yourself girl. The OWs husband might have cancer.

But it's not your problem is it.

I might have cancer. It's not your problem is it? Cum On.

YOU might have cancer. Is it her problem?

Stop being so reeeeeeeeeesonable. I am not saying be unreasonable. I am saying run yourself a bath. Do you have an ipod? I am listening to this great song...'Beggin' by Mac someone/ Great tune. Get the bubble bath...get your MP3 player ..... have a dance with only your knickers on. Men? Pass the beer nuts. Until ...

The other husband deserves to know, didn't you? Tell her she does or you do.