I am absolutely LIVID with DP. I feel like dragging his arse from bed and dumping him literally into the road.

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Dp went out yesterday to rugby, taking DS1 with him. Returned at 5pm and said he was going to the local with some of his rugby friends.

Pub is half a mile away, he drove the car and said he would walk back (it takes 10 mins, all downhill I do it everyday come rain or shine, the pub is right by the school) or get a taxi.

Anyway I hear him come it at around 12.15am and he comes to bed. I fal back to sleep, only to be woken an hour later by him pissing into the wardrobe. I yell at him and he goes to the bathroom, returning with the hiccups. Generally keeping me awake.

I have work today so I get my pillows and go into DS2's bed.

I Got up at 7.30- opened DS2's curtains. THe car is parked outside, meaning that he has driven the car home pissed.

I go into our bedroom and wake him up. I said "why is the car outside?"

He said- " I never drove it home did I?"
So he was so drunk that he doesnt remember driving the car back home, on a route in which he has to get across a busy 'A'Road.

I am so fucking angry and amazed at his sheer fuckwittery that I am typing with my teeth clenched.

I want to scream at him but cant as the boys are here.

He did this once recently (although was not as drunk as last night, I was up last time wehn he got in and had a fit at him). I thought he grassped the concept of not only the dangers (ie killing himself or others, maiming himself or others) Even losing his bloody license which he needs to in order to do his job.

He is a fucking clown and I feel like killing him.

DS1 was only with him until 5pm - not all night. Sorry

Hide the car keys and tell him to walk next time. I would be livid too.

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I would be livid too
and what about the state of your wardrobe, that is grim
but not as grim as drunk driving
where were all his mates to stop him?

what a prize twat. my DH lost his licence last year for drink driving, I was begging his "friends" to give him a lift home and not let him drive, instead they kept plying him with alcohol, utter wankers, I could have lost my DH and DD could have lost her daddy.

God knows what the twats he was drinking with were up to.

I cant even be arsed to talk to him, Why should educate a 34 yr old man in the dangers of drink driving?

Definitely hide car keys next time - if he can't be responsible, he can't drive!

(BTW, he didn't pee on your clothes did he??)

what a stupid man, silent treatment definatley in order.

I would be beyond angry.

I honestly think that as hes done this more than once ,and clearly has no recollection of it, that he shouldn't be taking the car to the pub anymore. Its only a short walk after all.

He cannot be trusted to not do it again.

the thing is you can't blame the friends in that scenario, the onus has to be on the drunk driver
I heard a lot of people say where were the friends, girlfriend of tht Plymouth footballer, but at the end of the day everyone knows it is the driver who is responsible, no one else to blame. God how drunk do you need to be to forget you drove home last night

He probably has a hangover so wouldn't shout today save it for when he is sober and maybe give him some statistics on drunk driving - as it obviously hasn't registered with him include a few nasty pictures.
Agree with hiding the keys and maybe suggest that seeing as he can't recall anything he should consider treatment or maybe staying off the beer for a while until he can control his actions and behave like a responsible person.

I don't really know what to say. I am astonished that a man can get into the kind of state where he not only drives home slaughtered, but he then pisses in the wardrobe, and claims to not remember driving home.

I would be so livid I'd have packed up my stuff immediately and left him, but I am hot-headed like that.

God, I'd be livid as well.

pissing into the wardrobe is BAAAD. I would make him clean it up.

He is a prize nobboid for driving while pissed and is very lucky to bot have been caught.

Next time, make sure that you have his car keys before he goes out. He has acted like a child, so he will need to be treated like one in similar occasions in the future, IMHO.

He has lots of making up to do.

Agree with Rosa, leave the recriminations until he's over the hangover. I'd go out for the day then have it out with him later. If the pub is only half a mile away then he can walk there and back next time.

Also agree you can't blame the friends. He is an adult FFS, unbelievable behaviour. If he drove home without remembering then he could also have had an accident and forgotten that.

I actually missed the part where he has driven drunk recently in addition to last night.

Our marriage would be over, end of. He obviously has no respect for either himself, other drivers and pedestrians, or his family.

'and is very lucky to bot have been caught.'

no the people who live near you are very lucky not to have been killed

I always think 'I can't remember' is a very easy excuse to use when something bad has happened on a piss up night out.

I would be beyond furious - agree that some grim statistics and graphic pictures might get the message home to him. Either that or a threat to call the police next time he drives to the pub and warn them there will be a drunk driver at chucking out time.

And your wardrobe better be sparkling clean with all affected clothes washed, dried and ironed by the time you get back from work.

I'd be reporting him...seriously.

Tell him that barmaids are the worst snitches - i have reported people for driving back from the pub i used to work in, and have refused to give car keys back or tokens for car parks in the past as well.

I would say he is on his last chance. If this happens again he is out on his arse. Don't shout at him now - you're too angry and he is probably not coherent enough to be reasonable.

watsthestory, you mean, like, one of his sobre rugger mates who just went along for the evening and stuck to soft drinks. He drove the OP's DP home, parked the car up safely then made his own way home on foot yes, I think that could be a possibility.

oh, the wardrobe things is truly awful. We have a friend too does that when he's drunk. Aged 35 and has a rubber sheet on the bed!!

He is behaving like a child so he is asking to be treated like one, really. Next time (although I would suggest that is some time away) let him walk there and back.

So lucky he didn't crash into anybody and hurt them, or himself.

Selfish and immature in the extreme. Where is his self-control?