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Haven't I got the most lovely DH?! :)

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 09:04

He came home last night from work and presented me with two carrier bags. One from a local health food shop (Holland and Barrett) and one from WH Smiths.

The H&B one contained a bag of dried fruit, a bag of carribean mixed fruit, a bag of walnuts and a tub of vitamins. He'd gone in, told the lady in the shop he was worried about me cos I appeared run-down and asked for suggestions to pick me up!

The WH Smiths bag contained a new paperback, by an author I've never read before, but he read the back and thought I'd like it...which having started it already yes I do!

I've been married to DH for almost 15yrs. He's never really done anything like this before. Maybe having just had 2wks off (leave) and having spent it with me and the kids (we've got two) he's suddenly realised just how hard it can be to have kids under your feet 24/7! Maybe its also cos I tend to go to bed by 10pm and sit and read and he finds me fast asleep with the book still open lying on the bed! Or...maybe its cos I told him the other night I was completely exhausted!

Anyway....just thought I'd share my bit of 'Wow' with you all!

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WaynettaSlob · 21/08/2008 09:05

how sweet.

Make sure you tell him how much it means to you.

BiancaCastafiore · 21/08/2008 09:05

That's lovely

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 09:10

I will...I haven't seen much of him cos after tea lastnight he offered to go and do the Tesco weekly shop - so I did him a list and he took DD1 with him. He rang me three times whilst there cos he couldn't remember what a green bean looked like, didn't know which chicken to buy and couldn't find the frozen fish I'd put on the list. He got home at just after 10pm - almost 2hrs later.

After putting it all away I noticed the bananas were black, he'd bought kitchen towels instead of kitchen wipes and a tub of pepper rather than a fresh pepper!

It was kind of him to offer to do the shopping and I'm always grateful that he does it...but I've also just noticed a box of beer under the stairs that wasn't there last night so he obviously kept them in his car overnight and sneaked them in this morning!

Anyway yes I will again thank him when I see him later on - he left at 5.30am this morning so I'm hoping he'll be home in good time today.....

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bogie · 21/08/2008 09:13

(fancy swapping dp's?)

ConstanceWearing · 21/08/2008 09:13

Check his phone and his e-mails. It sounds like well dodgy behaviour, imo

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 09:21

No, in all honesty, we've had a crap time just lately - not getting on brilliantly, lots going on, me wanting to get back to work, me trying to deal with the grief of the sudden death of my Dad, losing our lovely old dog earlier this year, our eldest daughter being very ill and hospitalised, trying to make ends meet every month and all in all having had the two weeks off he had this month he's suddenly realised why I'm as tired as I am sometimes!!

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EffiePerine · 21/08/2008 09:24

That's nice

it's the little things that really help - DH occasionally buys me a bag of wine gums which are very much appreciated. And I bought him a packet of biros

bellabelly · 21/08/2008 09:26

What a lovely thing for him to do. So thoughtful and nice!

flamingtoaster · 21/08/2008 09:28

What a thoughtful thing for your DH to do.

ConstanceWearing · 21/08/2008 09:33

It's restored my faith in humanity, bless his heart.

Wishing you happy times ahead

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 09:55

I've just texted him to say thanks again with a big hug....he's just texted back...'in a meeting, ring you later x' !!!

The last time he bought me flowers was for my 40th in February. They were lovely AND he even paid for them cos the bunch before that, when I rang to thank him, he asked if I'd pop down the florist and settle the bill for him cos he ordered them over the phone! He'll go out for a walk with the dog and come home with a bunch of flowers he'll have picked along the walk, or he'll use a (clean) dog poo bag and fill it with blackberries!

He was my pen-pal from the Gulf War (first one) and met on a blind date after writing to each other (he was based in Germany) for almost a year and that was 17yrs ago. He came home from the Gulf, back to his flat in Germany, with it trashed by his (then) wife (now ex), she'd taken the car and come back to the UK leaving him with no money and heavily overdrawn. He came back to the UK to try and patch things up not realising she'd been up to no good whilst he was away - he served on the front line and dealt with some awful horrific times. He then went back to Germany, unable to come to terms with what had gone on, and tried to take his own life. He, fortunately, didn't succeed and whilst at an all-time low he had handed to him my bluey letter addressed to 'any soldier'...he decided to write back and that was it! He left the Army a few years later and is now in a brilliant job, which he's been in for 8yrs, and we've got two beautiful daughters....

Yes he is a lovely guy and I'm very lucky. I'm just not very good at appreciating him sometimes and its something I need to brush up on!

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SueMunch · 21/08/2008 11:09

Can't believe this thread - aren't we supposed to be slaggiung men off all the time. I might repoert this to mumsnet.

Only joking whispy - such a nice thing for him to do!

ConstanceWearing · 21/08/2008 11:11

I think Whispy may be new and doesn't know the rules yet

ConstanceWearing · 21/08/2008 11:13

Ooh, I had a pen-pal from the Falklands War, Whispy.

Ahhh. You've just reminded me. Never met him, but the postal-relationship-thing was lovely whilst it lasted. How romantic your story is

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 11:33

Oh no I'm not new! I've been on MN for almost the last 3yrs. Came on here initially after my lovely Dad died and I couldn't cope

Having said that I have name-changed a couple of times but I've been Whispy for about a year or so now.

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ConstanceWearing · 21/08/2008 11:44

Oops, sorry, Whispy

I know how everyone hates to be thought of as a newbie.

MmeLindt · 21/08/2008 11:52

Aw, what a lovely story, Whispy. Glad that your DH is being so fab, sounds like you deserve it.

mamalovesmojitos · 21/08/2008 12:06

that's a lovely story. it's inspired me to do something nice for someone today. pay it forward!

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 12:27

Once, many years ago, I travelled over to Germany to go and see him one weekend. I got a coach down to Dover and got on the ferry as a foot passenger and arrived in Calais some hours later. He drove all the way from his base in Germany to Calais to meet me and drive back to Germany for the weekend. I became ill whilst at the base (dodgy army food!) and knew I wouldn't be able to make my way back to the UK the same way I'd got over there so he drove me all the way home again...back to Calais, drove onto the ferry and drove me home from Dover. I was living with my parents at the time and because he had to be back at work on the Monday morning he spent all of a couple of hours having a cup of tea and a sarnie at my parents place and then got back in his car and drove back to Germany to be back to work for the Monday morning. Wow!

He has had a huge amount to put up with from me though. When I lost my Dad I was at a complete loss. My Dad died as a result of a car accident with a drunk 19yo driver. Dad was not only 'Dad' but also my best friend. He was also a 'Dad' to DH cos DH's relationship with his parents has always been absolutely awful, even before I came on the scene. When we went to visit Dad in the Chapel of Rest DH wrote a note and put it inside Dad's coffin. He cried as he placed it inside. On it he'd written, simply....'Thank you for being my Dad too, and for allowing me to marry your very special daughter'...

Needless to say there were plenty of tears shed in that room as we said our goodbyes to him.

xxxx

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stirlingmum · 21/08/2008 13:55

What a lovely, but sad story

It sounds like you two were meant to be together.

Can we have some more nice stories like this please??

Buda · 21/08/2008 13:59

This thread has me all teary! He sounds lovely.

It is so easy to get caught up in the shittiness of day to day life and sometimes it is the little things that make a difference.

You do sound as if you are meant to be together.

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 14:24

Thanks Buda and you are right stirlingmum...it is all too easy to get wrapped up in all the crappy parts of day to day life.

I must say though our relationship hasn't always been like this - we've had some really awful dreadful 'low' times - times when I've had enough or he's had enough. Times when his work is too much for him. Times when I feel so alone with little/no family help or support. My worst time has to be when Dad died. I could see no way forward. Losing someone so close to me was the hardest time in my entire life.

I came onto MN because I felt I was going rapidly down hill. I felt so out of control and knew I needed help but didn't know where to turn. So I stumbled across the MN site. I put my first thread on under the bereavement topic. I didn't expect to get many replies. I had 100s. Each and every one of them was a massive help and so supportive. Some of the posters are still friends to this day.

No matter how hard life gets I try to sit and remember just how lucky I am. I have a lovely caring DH, two daughters and a home. What more could I ask for?....(oh, hang on....holiday, money, a size 6 figure, less grey hair, less wrinkles, less cellulite, more energy, few more lie-ins, more child-free time, a gardener, a chef, a cleaner......)

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SueMunch · 21/08/2008 15:29

With you on that Buda - there is a lot of stress on here and it would be nice to hear about the good side of life.

Pinkjenny · 21/08/2008 15:36

Whispy - what a lovely thoughtful bloke. Hope your dd is OK too.

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whispywhisp · 21/08/2008 15:39

Oh yes she's fine. She became quite poorly with a sick bug back in October. Couldn't shift it until she collapsed just before Xmas - got rushed into hosp. They ran loads of tests - nothing came up. In the end, after a lot of worry and stress, it was decided she had IBS. She's been on medication since - up until a couple of weeks ago when she decided to come off the tablets and 'go it alone' and cope with the tummy pain, which she has done brilliantly, but has to be very careful what she eats. The more natural the food the better. Fortunately she eats extremely well so hasn't really been a problem other than she loves ice-cream and cheese and can't eat either!

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