Haven't I got the most lovely DH?! :)

[whispywhisp]

He came home last night from work and presented me with two carrier bags. One from a local health food shop (Holland and Barrett) and one from WH Smiths.

The H&B one contained a bag of dried fruit, a bag of carribean mixed fruit, a bag of walnuts and a tub of vitamins. He'd gone in, told the lady in the shop he was worried about me cos I appeared run-down and asked for suggestions to pick me up!

The WH Smiths bag contained a new paperback, by an author I've never read before, but he read the back and thought I'd like it...which having started it already yes I do!

I've been married to DH for almost 15yrs. He's never really done anything like this before. Maybe having just had 2wks off (leave) and having spent it with me and the kids (we've got two) he's suddenly realised just how hard it can be to have kids under your feet 24/7! Maybe its also cos I tend to go to bed by 10pm and sit and read and he finds me fast asleep with the book still open lying on the bed! Or...maybe its cos I told him the other night I was completely exhausted!

Anyway....just thought I'd share my bit of 'Wow' with you all!

[ChairmumMiaow]

My DH's facebook status at the moment is "DH loves his wife"
He can be annoying sometimes, but I have a lovely one too. :-)

Whispy : He sounds very sweet :-)

[whispywhisp]

southeastastra...I'd be interested to know which thread you were supposed to put your comments on then?! Cos having looked at your threads over the last couple of days I can't see anything that would be relevant for 'he sounds like a weirdo' comment to be posted on.

[DeeRiguer]

aw sweet and thoughtful whispy

lol at bag of biros effie

[southeastastra]

sorry

[whispywhisp]

[southeastastra]

sorry, think i posted on the wrong thread

[whispywhisp]

southeastastra - why say that?

[southeastastra]

he sounds like a weirdo

[mamalovesmojitos]

well he married you for better or for worse. the level of support is what you, as his wife, deserved. not that every husband (or wife) would give it.

i can't imagine the grief of losing a parent, i can only guess how much it could destroy your life.

my grandmother died last year and it was the nail in the coffin (jesus, excuse the pun ) of myself and xps relationship. things were bad and when that happened i was completely locked in my own world so they totally fell apart.

i lived with her as a smallie and she was really like my other mum. my uncles call me their little sister. i see now though that if myself and xp's relationship couldn't last through that event it wasn't as good a relationship as i deserved.

[whispywhisp]

Awwww thank you mama. That's a nice post. I'm so glad to see you've bought DD's Dad a book. What a lovely idea!

I know I am lucky to be married to the man I have. I just tend to take it all for granted sometimes. I can be so horrible to him and yet he sticks by me. When Dad died I was awful to DH. I had this stupid idea in my head that if I couldn't have my Dad anymore I didn't want any man in my life and I naturally pushed DH away. Yet he kept with me and I knew I'd go to pieces if DH did decide to leave. He's been my rock.

[mamalovesmojitos]

whispy i wrote earlier in the thread 'pay it forward'. and as a direct result of reading your post i went and bought dd's dad a book yesterday!

we're broken up now a while, and he was a complete arse for a year. but he's trying his best now to atone for his behaviour and i've been very hard on him. it was nice to send out an olive branch by getting him the book - for no good reason, just because i thought he'd like it.

thanks for brightening up my day!

you ask aren't you lucky? you were repaid for your kindness. you get what you give (sometimes) and it seems to me that there is a lot of goodness around you. good for you!

[whispywhisp]

Hiya Yummee - yes he has been lovely. He even came home with a bottle of wine tonight with a fresh bunch of chrysanthemums...(my fave)...bless him. The bottle has been opened (hic!) and the flowers have been added to a bunch given to me by my neighbour cos I cooked her a meal the other night! I've just had another bunch handed to me from my other neighbour cos I looked after her dog today. Aren't I lucky?!

(Mind you..that'll be it for flowers for the rest of this year...until such time as I line up all my empty vases with notes attached saying 'fill me!' for DH to notice I've got nothing in them!

[YumeeMumee]

Whispy...how lovely! AND he did the food shopping too! Brilliant

You all sound like you've been through it a bit so am glad that your DH is being considerate and doing nice things for you. Make the most of it and enjoy!!

[whispywhisp]

Hiya mama! Yes DD is ok(ish). She still gets dreadful indigestion, especially during the evening, so we have a rule that nothing is to be eaten beyond 6pm! DD2 was lactose intolerant for the first two years of her life so I'm guessing its all related, somewhere along the line!

Yes I do still have a blub occasionally when I'm thinking of my lovely Dad. Never knew losing someone could hurt so much.

Anyway life goes on I guess. xxx

[mamalovesmojitos]

oh whispy the post about your dad's funeral made me cry! so bittersweet.

feel so sorry for your dd- icecream is my dd's favourite as well. good to know she's coping well otherwise. brave girl.

[whispywhisp]

Oh yes she's fine. She became quite poorly with a sick bug back in October. Couldn't shift it until she collapsed just before Xmas - got rushed into hosp. They ran loads of tests - nothing came up. In the end, after a lot of worry and stress, it was decided she had IBS. She's been on medication since - up until a couple of weeks ago when she decided to come off the tablets and 'go it alone' and cope with the tummy pain, which she has done brilliantly, but has to be very careful what she eats. The more natural the food the better. Fortunately she eats extremely well so hasn't really been a problem other than she loves ice-cream and cheese and can't eat either!

[Pinkjenny]

Whispy - what a lovely thoughtful bloke. Hope your dd is OK too.

[SueMunch]

With you on that Buda - there is a lot of stress on here and it would be nice to hear about the good side of life.

[whispywhisp]

Thanks Buda and you are right stirlingmum...it is all too easy to get wrapped up in all the crappy parts of day to day life.

I must say though our relationship hasn't always been like this - we've had some really awful dreadful 'low' times - times when I've had enough or he's had enough. Times when his work is too much for him. Times when I feel so alone with little/no family help or support. My worst time has to be when Dad died. I could see no way forward. Losing someone so close to me was the hardest time in my entire life.

I came onto MN because I felt I was going rapidly down hill. I felt so out of control and knew I needed help but didn't know where to turn. So I stumbled across the MN site. I put my first thread on under the bereavement topic. I didn't expect to get many replies. I had 100s. Each and every one of them was a massive help and so supportive. Some of the posters are still friends to this day.

No matter how hard life gets I try to sit and remember just how lucky I am. I have a lovely caring DH, two daughters and a home. What more could I ask for?....(oh, hang on....holiday, money, a size 6 figure, less grey hair, less wrinkles, less cellulite, more energy, few more lie-ins, more child-free time, a gardener, a chef, a cleaner......)

[Buda]

This thread has me all teary! He sounds lovely.

It is so easy to get caught up in the shittiness of day to day life and sometimes it is the little things that make a difference.

You do sound as if you are meant to be together.

[stirlingmum]

What a lovely, but sad story

It sounds like you two were meant to be together.

Can we have some more nice stories like this please??

[whispywhisp]

Once, many years ago, I travelled over to Germany to go and see him one weekend. I got a coach down to Dover and got on the ferry as a foot passenger and arrived in Calais some hours later. He drove all the way from his base in Germany to Calais to meet me and drive back to Germany for the weekend. I became ill whilst at the base (dodgy army food!) and knew I wouldn't be able to make my way back to the UK the same way I'd got over there so he drove me all the way home again...back to Calais, drove onto the ferry and drove me home from Dover. I was living with my parents at the time and because he had to be back at work on the Monday morning he spent all of a couple of hours having a cup of tea and a sarnie at my parents place and then got back in his car and drove back to Germany to be back to work for the Monday morning. Wow!

He has had a huge amount to put up with from me though. When I lost my Dad I was at a complete loss. My Dad died as a result of a car accident with a drunk 19yo driver. Dad was not only 'Dad' but also my best friend. He was also a 'Dad' to DH cos DH's relationship with his parents has always been absolutely awful, even before I came on the scene. When we went to visit Dad in the Chapel of Rest DH wrote a note and put it inside Dad's coffin. He cried as he placed it inside. On it he'd written, simply....'Thank you for being my Dad too, and for allowing me to marry your very special daughter'...

Needless to say there were plenty of tears shed in that room as we said our goodbyes to him.

xxxx

[mamalovesmojitos]

that's a lovely story. it's inspired me to do something nice for someone today. pay it forward!

[MmeLindt]

Aw, what a lovely story, Whispy. Glad that your DH is being so fab, sounds like you deserve it.