Dating website for married persons

[illicitaffair]

I received an email two weeks ago from a company called Illicit Encounters. It appears that someone who I know who has used the site has recommended that I would benefit from joining up

When I eventually put two and two together and realised that it was a friend who had recently started a new relationship with a married man, it started me wondering - yes it is wrong for too many reasons even to list but I imagine so exciting too.

Have obviously name changed for this and am expecting to be hung, drawn and quartered but would like others opinions anyway

i think if a marriage is unhappy then finish it mnyself or try and make it better

hard as that is and i appreciate it takes ages and you casn have lots of goes at it but in the end if it isnt happy then ending it is surtely better than fudgiung around with random relationships with other married people

obviously you would zippi - can't say i would use the site but i can understand the market for it - sex sells after all

well i can see the sex angle i cant see the expecting people to offer love and sex through this channel

at Zippi - Yes, we have both made a vow that we will be un-faithful (ha) to only each other, but just as in a non-illicit relationship - one can never know for sure..

I don't want to be accused of making light of infidelity here either.. I am well aware of the pain and misery that can result - but I believe all views and experiences are valid..

mummynewname - oh god, that would be too spooky

What area of the country is he from?

I think I can say this without identifying him..

..originally from Scotland, now works in London.. lives in East Anglia.

It would be hilarious would it not

snowwhite - 'your' men ARE cheating on you - they are married. You do realise they are using you like a blow up doll, don't you? Stick me cock in this, cheaper than a prozzie.....

to op - will you and your dh both be joining the site? Will he be having casual sex with strangers? Is that ok with you? Is he ok with you doing it? If you are both happy with it, then it's none of anyone else's business. So what did he say when you told him you wanted casual sex with strangers?

That is a relief - we are both up north within 80 miles of each other and , no i don't think it would be hilarious !!!!

BrazenH - I was actually feigning the hilarity. If it had turned out to be the same bloke I would have been devastated rather cross.

Goes to prove what you said earlier though - in it too deep already - I too predict a pear-shapen disaster scenario..

good luck though!

if however chipper you post you have got inolved with someone who like you is married and is on a married and dating site

and you would be devastated if he had someone else

then surely you are taking a huge risk with your emotional health

yes mummynewname I know that lol, I too would have been ready to take a knife to his privates to have a breakdown.

Do you really predict it all going wrong? I so want it to work out, I can't remember being this happy ever.

Some people manage to have their cake and eat it too by having meaningfull, fulfilling affairs for years and years, don't you think that may be possible for us?

well i as too nic e to say having cake and eating it

brazenhussy

why cant you split with your husband and look for a aprtner who is unattached

For one reason only zippitippitoes - my DC

I have a truly horrible life with my DH but our DC love him and he is a good dad

2 months ago, I wouldn't have dreamt of doing anything like this and if it doesn't work out then I probably won't do it again.

When my DC are older i will leave my DH but until then I need to be happy

my OM doesn't have children but if he did I would have steered clear

well i still think it is all round a recipe for disaster

so i find the husband and wife hate each other but the kids are happy odd

and i find the idea that if the above is true then sex on the side with a married guy who presumably doesnt have a reason to be waiting for you

odd as well

and going to make you sad and wish for something else

she didn't say that they hate each other zippi.

I can easily understand how parents can have an unhappy marriage but the children would rather they were together. The research is conflicting, but latest research shows kids would rather their parents were together- even if they are unhappy.

she said

a truly horrible life

yes zippi- but "truly horrible" does not mean "I hate him"..it could be horrible for all kinds of reasons, and he may not even feel it's horrible-maybe it is just her.

"i read something that reminds me that there is the brink of pathetic and then there is the abyss."

That's a good line Expat

well truly horrible

is not he has smelly feet

Many people in a marriage or long term partnership are very unhappy. Many men are starved of intimacy and sex (as are some women) Many women feel undervalued (as do some men)

They stay for many reasons, many men stay as they want to parent their children every day, many women stay for financial stability. I can understand why some go looking for what is lacking. Yes, fixing it is preferable but I know of people right now that have tried and it isn't happening

I can see the side of the OW too, wanting the intimacy without commitment, only having the good parts and not the day to day drudge

yes girlnextdoor that is true, I do not hate him. My feelings towards him are indifferent.

i dont think financial reasons are worth it tbh

well in that case truly horrible is somewhat of an exaggeration

I can think of nothing worse

even if you take away the moral stuff and the gilt - its a pretty miserable way to date

A couple of friends of my mums had long term affairs with married men and were always miserable - what if you fall for him? they rarely leave wifey! You fit in with their lives - they call you, you dont call them - yip that sounds HOT, i dont think!

A girl I house shared with dated a married man who told her he couldnt leave his wife cause she was ill - it was very bitter sweet - whilst we were all grinning madly and going on and on about our boyfriends of the week, she couldnt join in cause people just kinda went quiet or looked at her with pitty or disdain. I think we were having a much more exciting with our 'legitimate' boyfriends

also - none of the women I know who dated married men continued to date outside that "relationship" yet the men happily went home and sh@gged their wives - sure they said that they didnt, but wives dont get pregnant outta thin air do they?