Dating website for married persons

[illicitaffair]

I received an email two weeks ago from a company called Illicit Encounters. It appears that someone who I know who has used the site has recommended that I would benefit from joining up

When I eventually put two and two together and realised that it was a friend who had recently started a new relationship with a married man, it started me wondering - yes it is wrong for too many reasons even to list but I imagine so exciting too.

Have obviously name changed for this and am expecting to be hung, drawn and quartered but would like others opinions anyway

imagine if you posted on there, and arranged a meetup, and it was someone you know!

like, a pal's husband, or your boss or vicar or something like that.

eeewwww.

but some of them put their photos there!

people often use fake pics, even if they are not married

good lord who has the time for this?

or the inclination to have their profile and photo made public to announce to the world "look, I'm a right slapper and I don't even care if you are married, I'm up for it"

And before anyone says it, I know, I shouldn't judge!

Namechange - although some may work it out. While I suspect the OP may be an advertising troll - I feel compelled to say that I have tried this (extremely cheap and nasty) site - I was in a very low place at the time and thought it would help!

I have met the most wonderful man (but I think they are a real rarity on there) - who for very understandable reasons is not able to leave his partner. Yep - I can hear you all saying 'just how naive and stupid is this woman..' but I feel I am a pretty good judge of his character and we have been seeing each other for three months and no, we have not had sex, but we have fallen for each other quite hard..

I found out from this chap that Illicit Encounters registration costs £120 for men for 2 weeks!!!!! Free for women though I think because men would outnumber us significantly otherwise. And it is completely rubbish to use - almost zero functionality - a complete rip off!! c.f. features of Guardian Soulmates for example.

I did briefly chat to another bloke on there who had a date with a woman claiming to be 38. When she turned up she was about 65 in tight leather trousers - she had used a VERY old photo.

I think I have been lucky..

That site doe's have benefits all thou its morally wrong to go for another woman's Man I can see why single girls are up for it think about it going out with a married man means you don't have to put up with the bitching and moaning you just get the good side of them Hotels presents from my experiance better sex don't dismiss it till ya tried it :-D

I too have used the site, am married and have namechanged.

It started as curiosity, would any other man find me attractive?, was the grass any greener?.

At first when men started contacting me, i was scared stiff. I had been faithful to my DH for 10 years. I chatted to many men online and almost all of them were only after casual sex regardless of what they had said in their profiles. I found this really disapointing because some of them sounded so nice and genuine.

A month ago I started talking to someone from the site - we chatted online for hours and we just clicked. He wasn't rude or vulgar instead talkied about hobbies, family, holidays etc. We have spoken online/phone/ texts everyday since and have meet for lunch twice.

Like mummynewname, we haven't had sex and he has made it clear that it's up to me when or indeed, if we do. He is happily married but with no physical side and I cannot leave my emotionally absent DH for many reasons. We have both fallen for each other in a big way.

mummynewname - I consider myself lucky too but these things have a habit of going pearshaped very quickly for which we have to be prepared

well it seems to me that obviously most of the are going to be after casual sex

or they would leave their partners

zippi- with respect that is a rather one-sided way to look at it- men don't just want sex- they do want emotional connection too and often they aren't getting that at home. If they have kids, they perhaps want to keep the status quo and avoid the upset of divorce. Yes, yes, yes, it is not right, but neither is divorce imo, just because you are bored or someone else comes along who seems more exciting, which tnh is the reason lots of couples divorce. Sometimes, a discreet affair may be better for everyone ...though I know that many MNs will disagree.

I am not condoning these 2 women who are in relationships, but neither am I criticing them-
I just feel sad that people are with partners they don't really want to be with, or cannot leave for whatever reason.

i dont agree that there is ever a reason why you cant leave a partner

well, I do- sometimes stability is better for kids. IMO they go top of the list and personal indulgences go way down.

Further to my previous comment I have been the other woman it was fantastic even nearly got caught out once when he had to drop something to his dp at work I was in the car lucky for me I got out to get something from the shop and she took her lunch was stuck in the middle of no where for an hour whilst he took her out for lunch had the best sex afterwards and got loads of presents as he was really sorry about leaving me for an hour but then when he dumped his DP the sex was not good and I dumped him

Snowwhite....people like you disgust me. You have no idea what something like this can do the someone. Buy hey, what goes around, comes around

brazenhussy and mummynewname - u ought to exchange emails - cz ur experiences sound too similar to one another - maybe ur seeing the same bloke???

Why is that Blinkieblink???? Have you never been with a Man that has been in a relationship b4? Your right I don't know what something like that can do to someone because I keep my Man satisfied so he don't have to look for next woman to please him I give him all he needs and he has a smile on his face. I mean lets face it women that have got cheating DH DP Obv aint doing something right in there relationship stop nagging your men and give them some love instead your find that not only do they not stray but they are at your mercy and are willing to do almost anything for you

Snowwhite...so you say that you going on with married man is because DW/DP is not keeping them satisfied? I think that there are lots of things, not only sex that influence why if your DP strays. Me on the otherhand, would try all other alternatives before cheating. Call me old fashioned, but I believe that marriage is a life commitment and trust that my H2B feels the same.

I'm sure everyone gets bored with their partners sometimes but surely for the amount of effort involved in registering with something like this, spending time talking to other people etc etc you could think of something exciting to do with your existing partner.
I would be very suspicious of the motives of any guy on the web tbh. i work with a single guy who uses dating websites regularly, if an attractive new woman joins the website he deliberately waits a month or so before contacting them, by which time they will have had at least one person let them down or upset them. He makes a big thing of going out for coffee, everything at your own pace etc and ends up shagging most of them. His longest relationship is about 3 months and he has no interest in finding "miss right".

Somehow I cant imagine meeting a guy on the web and thinking that this is going to be a long term thing. Why cant people just meet through friends, bars, whatever.....I think the web is full of creepy pervs.

No what I said is that alot of MM stray because of lack of sex and attention same ways with women have you read some of the posts on here I was merely pointing out that I do not know what it is like to be cheated on as I treat my men right so they do not need to cheat on me I believe that marriage is a lifetime commitment that's why I am not married as I have not found the perfect man.

At the end of the day if men are joining this site and paying so much money for it it means they are not happy and content at home with what they have got.

Yeah I agree as well the web is far too much to finding the perfect guy so much fakeness I would not meet a man from the web at all Look Blinkieblink we agreed on something HA

nanog - call me paranoid but that exact thought went through my mind when I read brazenhussey's post.

I'd like to think there was more than one nice guy out there - but I am sensible enough these days to realise that even the most genuine-seeming ones should come with a health warning. Let's face it - they are cheating even if it's just dinners, theatre and kissing - and therefore cannot be trusted!

Brazenhussey - gizza clue? ;-)

well you would expect a guy off a maried dating site to be non exclusive wouldnt you by definition

i have heard of this website - interesting idea - plenty of people in unhappy marriages who want sex with other people - why not

was this site on the jeremy vine show?