If your partner says 'punching above my weight' or 'out of my league'

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Just curious to know how it makes you feel, do you agree with the statement and what do you think it says about them. Or if other people have said it to you.

My husband says this about me and when we're at the gym together he thinks people are probably thinking "what's she doing with him", (which I said was silly). I think we're equal looks wise and he has teeth missing due to an accident and he has the most beautiful eyes, but I fell for his beautiful personality and how gentle & kind he is. I always tell him how attractive I think he is but he's so embarrassed about his teeth. I big him up all the time.

It's just a thing some men say to each other. Don't take it too seriously.

I'd imagine you do look far better than him though if he has missing teeth. A nice smile is the most attractive quality one can have so he won't look too good without teeth.

God I remember someone saying this to my abusive ex about me and he just shut down and later attacked me over it and why I'm not as good looking as he is etc. Whenever I hear it or reading this post now just makes me feel so uneasy. The lack of confidence in the person saying it is rather off-putting. When someone says "you're punching" to someone else, I always just wonder why they'd go out of their way to be so insulting and try to make them feel bad.

I think if a partner says it about you then it can be okay. It depends really, tone, context, etc. Ultimately, I just don't like it.

Don't worry no guy putting you on a pedestal confident men dont like me im too challenging

Oh I think this is a good thing for men! They just see it as 'I have a beautiful wife' whereas for us it seems deeper than it actually is, like he must have low self-esteem to say that. Honestly I don't think it runs that deep for them.

Had my beautiful teeth done at Smilesavers in Budapest, I adore them, still cost quite a bit but certainly not as much as UK prices.😁

he can get implants abroad much cheaper. In London it’s about 3.5k per tooth! In Spain about £800. Cheap Ryanair flights and a hostel and a lil holiday thrown in. Much easier to save for. Good luck!

DP did use to say that when we initially started dating. I didn’t agree because I think overall in looks we’re on the same level but I suppose if we were to look at the overall circumstances, yes he was punching.

Men feeling like they’re punching doesn’t stop them from turning shitty at some point so it’s not a comment I take too much to heart.

I say, "I know, right!"

Their reply was perfectly understandable. Maybe you need English comprehension revision?

I joke that I'm punching above my weight, particularly if I think it'll get back to my partner.
He's told me that he didn't see himself as attractive until he met me. He has a gorgeous face but insecurities about his physique. He pays me a stack of compliments and has made me see myself in a different light, and I think it's good to repay the compliment.

sorry no comment on the punching above part

Dentally if the can’t tolerate a normal denture he needs to ask his dentist to make a chrome cobalt one, these have a very thin metal skeleton design in the palate so people who can’t tolerate a normal denture can usually manage really well with a chrome cobalt denture.

Lots of dental practices let you take out finance to pay up implants or there’s always 0% credit cards

People don't often say it to women but a colleague on first meeting my DH said, 'How did you get him?' Bloody cheek 😃 I said he was very lucky to have me!

I find this thread one of the weirdest I've ever seen & that's saying something.

I think it's quite balanced for me.

All of my exes have said this and I strongly suspect all men do to try to make their partner feel special.

It never stopped any of them from cheating on me. In fact I think there is a lot of research that if a man feels he is not top of the household he is more likely to leave (that can be in lower earnings, looks, "respect" - if he feels inferior he wants an ego boost more).

It makes me a bit uncomfortable tbh, feels a bit objectifying, the guy who said the most to me also turned out to be the worst. DH just quietly does stuff for me and will hand over a gift without saying much. I prefer that tbh. I don’t need flattery and since that guy I’m entirely suspicious of men who use it too much. It feels a bit obsequious as well, I like the fact that I feel well matched with DH, shoulder to shoulder no-one too grateful.

Why are you too old to be beautiful!?